Cooper55904 Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 Ugh. So brief history, dated since first year of college in 1999, married in 2002, daughter born 2008, and in 2011 she is a physician finishing training. We have grown apart and I don't see it fixable. The spark between us is gone, she works too much and doesn't spend time with her family (chooses sleep more often than family). She doesn't have that motherly instinct other moms have (i.e. she gets home from work and in 15 minutes sends daughter upstairs to bed because she needs quiet time)Long story, but for years it's always sleeping when she could be spending time with me or daughter. I love my daughter immensely, I'm a SAHD, and like any dad would do anything for her. Each week we do preschool MWF, play groups Tu/Th, story time Fri, and always spend time together - I feel I over compensate since my wife is not being a mother to her. I don't think an only child situation is ideal, I came from family of three. I felt my daughter deserved a sibling, and she's getting one in 2012. My best friend says there is no way you can get someone pregnant if you don't love them, I disagree. I'm certain the only reason my wife is pregnant is cause I love my daughter enough to give her a gift of a sibling. Can I possibly be the only person who is in this situation???? I am so nervous that 2012 is bringing a divorce in our house (she has job out of state and I don't want to move). But I'm afraid of custody issues, even more so since there is an infant in the mix. (Not seeking legal advice, just stating some more background).
nu464 Posted November 17, 2011 Posted November 17, 2011 My husband and I got married last May 4 2008. We only dated for about a yr before we got married. He's active businessman. Since we know each other we spent more time apart than together. He starting to lied on me right after we got married. I gave him a second chance. Tried to forget everything but the whole trust thing is/was a different issue. I always wondered and worried about what he is doing when he didnt called, came home late from work etc. He traveled to Australia a few months after we got married. I moved to a different city, job related. He is supposed to come home next week and I realized I don't want to go back to him. Life without him is much easier, I feel "free", don't worry anymore, just don't connect to him anymore. I feel like a horrible person and really don't know what to do or how to tell him. But I am just not attracted to him anymore. I feel nothing for him, cant see us together. I don't want to hurt him but I really don't love him anymore. I'm so confused.
Lost_Spirit Posted November 17, 2011 Posted November 17, 2011 My husband and I got married last May 4 2008. We only dated for about a yr before we got married. He's active businessman. Since we know each other we spent more time apart than together. He starting to lied on me right after we got married. I gave him a second chance. Tried to forget everything but the whole trust thing is/was a different issue. I always wondered and worried about what he is doing when he didnt called, came home late from work etc. He traveled to Australia a few months after we got married. I moved to a different city, job related. He is supposed to come home next week and I realized I don't want to go back to him. Life without him is much easier, I feel "free", don't worry anymore, just don't connect to him anymore. I feel like a horrible person and really don't know what to do or how to tell him. But I am just not attracted to him anymore. I feel nothing for him, cant see us together. I don't want to hurt him but I really don't love him anymore. I'm so confused. why are you doing this? Just to let others know, if you haven't noticed, this person is responding in multiple thread and his/her story is different in all of them.
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