jambiscuit Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 A guy asked me out several weeks after he broke up with his girlfriend of 4+ years. I noticed that 95% of his Facebook pictures feature him with his ex-girlfriend, kissing, hugging, etc. And he wrote captions under most of them, saying, "She's sooo beautiful" and "I'm such a lucky guy". He hasn't removed any of these pictures. Does that mean he still has feelings for his ex? I don't know whether to go out with him or not, because I don't want to be just a rebound. :\
oaks Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 Does that mean he still has feelings for his ex? No it doesn't mean that. It isn't an indicator either way of his current feelings (or lack of) if all the pics were uploaded and comments added before they broke up. However, if it's only been a few weeks since he broke up from a 4+ year relationship then I'd be surprised if he's over it.
ErgoStep Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 The comments and photos are like journal entries, reflecting what he was thinking and feeling at the time. They have nothing to do with how he feels now. It would be painful for him to go back and delete all those pictures. I would not expect him to. The pictures and comments do not indicate anything.
mtber75 Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 A guy asked me out several weeks after he broke up with his girlfriend of 4+ years. I noticed that 95% of his Facebook pictures feature him with his ex-girlfriend, kissing, hugging, etc. And he wrote captions under most of them, saying, "She's sooo beautiful" and "I'm such a lucky guy". He hasn't removed any of these pictures. Does that mean he still has feelings for his ex? I don't know whether to go out with him or not, because I don't want to be just a rebound. :\ He's a class 5 clinger! Its up to you if you want a want a drama king?
OnyxSnowfall Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 I wouldn't get involved, personally......
linwood Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 How active is he on FB? When was his last post? He might be like me and rarely ever even thinks about FB so taking them down might not even have crossed his mind. As soon as he realizes those pics are hurting his dating chances they`ll come down faster than a lead balloon.
chelle21689 Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 If they were together for a long time and it was a short amount of time after break up it's more than likely yes. I broke up with my bf of 5 1/2 years about 9 months ago. I was devastated. I met someone new and I still haven't deleted my photos because I feel they are memories in my opinion. People may disagree but it's what I feel. I don't want him back but he's a part of me that I care for a memory. My bf didn't like seeing them so I put it on private and he was okay with it.
Author jambiscuit Posted November 16, 2011 Author Posted November 16, 2011 He is very active on Facebook, and all of his pictures with his ex are still there. It just makes me uncomfortable to see hundreds of pictures of them kissing every time I go on Facebook, when this guy supposedly wants to date me. I want to date a guy who won't be thinking of another girl every time he spends time with me. How long does it usually take until the "rebound" period is over, you think?
Emilia Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 I always find it a bit odd when people live their supposedly private life so publicly, that would put me off more than anything. I think it's about his displaying his life for everyone to see to project a certain type of image - rather than about documenting his relationship. It's a little odd because it's usually women that do that
RiverRunning Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 Avoid. Run away. The fact that he hasn't removed them, to me, suggests he hasn't yet moved on from that part of his life. And after only a few weeks and a relationship that lasted for over 4 years, it's not surprising he's not ready to move on. Don't be his rebound. My boyfriend had been single for 2 years when I came along after a one-year long-distance relationship. All of the red flags that he was not over this woman were there, down to leaving her pictures up on social networking sites, etc. I ignored my gut. It would've spared me a lot of pain had I not done so. Wait until he's showing that he's moving on from this girl and he's really ready to date again.
oaks Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 It just makes me uncomfortable to see hundreds of pictures of them kissing every time I go on Facebook, Try not clicking on them, then.
OnyxSnowfall Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 Try not clicking on them, then. Or rather, try not getting involved anymore. Seriously.........
make me believe Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 If he were over her, he would have taken those pictures down. You would definitely be a rebound considering they were together for 4 years and only broke up several weeks ago. It will probably take several MONTHS until he is completely over her.
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