Teuen101 Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 (edited) Dude, I must say I've been reading over your past posts and I see the same things that happend to me as well. I can tell youre much stronger now then when you started posting here. My story isn't the same as yours however I was trying to be "captain save a HO" as well, I too was dealing with cheating and lying on every level. as you know from my post. I was in a 2 way then 3 way love trangle, Two days ago I fell for breadcrumbs, she told me she loved me, I laughed, she even made fun of her new boyfriend and said she didn't love him but loves me. even tho, I exposed her too her ex husband, she is still telling me she loves me, and isn't in love with the new guy yet. She gos on to say, "She loves me but she knows she can't have me", that she has fun dating this guy and she just wants to date people. So I asked her so you don't mind if he dates othere people ? she said in fact she did mind, So I replyed then its a relationship, why are you telling me you love me after all the stuff that has happend ? she didn't know what to say she just said she did. So I told her that sucks for her, it wont work between me and her, So I told her she might as well stay with him. I'm to broken for a relationship with anyone- might as well stay with him. and moving forward in my life. I then explained to her she needs to heal her self and take time for her self and stop relationship jumping..but she just blew me off. So I wished her the best after her telling me again that she loved me and I just said I gotta go. It's almost like she wants me to wait around for her, she gets so mad if any chick even posts on my face book. she told me, after our brake up that "we are not ready to see new people yet" I replyed "we" ? there isnt any ****ing "we". just shocking to see how selfish. But thats why I get for dating a 20 year old and trying to be captain save a ho. I'd just like to say thank you for sharing your wounds here, It's helped me see stuff I didn't want to see but I knew all along. thanks so much dude and stay strong. P.S sorry for the bad grammer and spelling .) cheers Edited November 15, 2011 by Teuen101
Author Teuen101 Posted November 15, 2011 Author Posted November 15, 2011 bumpin this up so i dont go to page 2
wilsonx Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 Im glad my story helped you. Its funny because I can look back at it now and say holy ****, I allowed this to happen wtf was I thinking, that's the only part that hurts. I havent posted this story on this board but it goes to show you what you are going through right now. My ex and I were like sidekicks for about 2 years before we started hooking up. I remember us going up to visit some of her "friends" and there were 2 of them I was really hesitant about. Well on the car ride back home, one of them was going to get married and she said she was going to talk to him and get him to not marry her because it was a bad idea. Putting this in perspective now, it relates fully to what your ex is doing with you. You are moving on without her and its starting to drive her crazy. Superchiefs posted a story the other day and the same thing is happening with his ex fiance (I just did not want to tell him this because he needs to move on). This very same thing happened on the night I caught her with the other guy. When she blew up at me, she also yelled at me for her last long term ex before me moving on within 6 months and started crying because it wasnt fair. Thats what happened to me, I started moving on and she stalked me online because I told her there would be no contact from this point forth. This is an extreme insecurity. Extremely extreme. Its very self destructive and there's nothing I can do about it. There's nothing you can do about it with your ex either. You have to let it go and go NC. I have a lot of crazy friends. I can spot someone that's not like you and I from a mile away just by listening to how they use words. I can spot the "I love you but not in love with you" pattern too in people. Its really creepy. People say all the time on these forums the best way to move on from a breakup is to "Live well without the other person in your life" This is absolutely true. I am going to be honest, I do not hate my ex, she did not cause me any more pain than I caused myself. At any point in the relationship, I had the choice to walk away but I allowed myself to be treated the way she was treating me. I don't blame her and egojoe used the compassion word in a thread yesterday. With my breakup, what she said to me in her mind makes perfect sense if you listen to it. She knew I was going to be hurt so she wanted to hook me up with somebody. Its absolutely crazy but she tried showing compassion for me. I was just as broken as everyone else on the forum as well and I asked her what would you do if our roles were reversed and she said "I would disappear" So I did listen to her, she was the one at the same time that forced me into NC. You know my ex is crazy but I knew this for a long time, I just didn't realize the outcome to this affect while this relationship is going on. So I might call people here a crazy bitch, its not necessarily a bad thing, just pointing that out. Remember 1) NC 2) Create value and self worth in yourself 3) Be a glass is half full person 4) You are in this position because you allowed yourself to be in this position and treated this way. Your ex isnt to blame My motivational video (Just listen to this video... dont watch it, listen to the words, listen to their meaning especially Rocky... hes a smart guy)
Buttercup84 Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 Wilson , your confidence and the way you write is kind of sexy . I just have to put that out there
betterdeal Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 (edited) Hello, I don't want to have a monogamous relationship with you, but I do want you to want me and I might or might not want you. I'd like to have other lovers too, but I would like you to not have other lovers. Whaddya say? Is it a deal? I am pretty. Edited November 16, 2011 by betterdeal
Buttercup84 Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 She sounds like an inmature moron sorry . She knows you are hurting and yet she is playing you . What a jerk .
wilsonx Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 Hello, I don't want to have a monogamous relationship with you, but I do want you to want me and I might or might not want you. I'd like to have other lovers too, but I would like you to not have other lovers. Whaddya say? Is it a deal? I am pretty. Thats why you sleep with 2 lesbians at the same time
betterdeal Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 Thats why you sleep with 2 lesbians at the same time Good God no! Imagine all that talking afterwards. Wouldn't be able to get a wink of sleep.
Author Teuen101 Posted November 16, 2011 Author Posted November 16, 2011 She knew I was going to be hurt so she wanted to hook me up with somebody. Its absolutely crazy but she tried showing compassion for me. I was just as broken as everyone else on the forum as well and I asked her what would you do if our roles were reversed and she said "I would disappear" So I did listen to her, she was the one at the same time that forced me into NC. You know my ex is crazy but I knew this for a long time, I just didn't realize the outcome to this affect while this relationship is going on. Same thing almost to the T.
Author Teuen101 Posted November 16, 2011 Author Posted November 16, 2011 she was trying to get me to hook up with othere people lol, she had checked out and was moving on.
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