Holly1986 Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 I have been dating a guy for a few months. I am pretty into him. Things started out pretty intense at first. Literally spent every second day together since we met. Anyway, we went on a trip a few days ago. Since we got back he has acted distant and not in as much contact as before. We still talk but not as much as we did when we first started dating. He is pretty busy at work and wrecked from the trip so could be something to do with it. He is a great person. But sometimes he acts cold and doesn't express his emotions. He is difficult to understand at times. He acts very hot and very cold at times. It can be confusing! He has a real ''man brain''. He is a very much so a typical man in that sense. I want to handle this as maturely as I can. I don't want to play games with him or ignore him when he contacts me just to get revenge. Haha. I guess what I am asking is this. How can I keep him interested without playing games or going out of my way to ignore him/not reply back to messages or invites to meet up?
monkey00 Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Why don't you just talk to him and ask him why the distance/mixed signals? The times I've done this to girls is when I would get annoyed or am mad at her for something she did or failed expectations. But it doesn't necessarily mean I'm dumping her or its over. It just means I'm upset about something.
oaks Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 I have been dating a guy for a few months. I am pretty into him. Things started out pretty intense at first. Literally spent every second day together since we met. Anyway, we went on a trip a few days ago. Since we got back he has acted distant and not in as much contact as before. We still talk but not as much as we did when we first started dating. He is pretty busy at work and wrecked from the trip so could be something to do with it. Did you think that level of contact was sustainable? It sounds like it might not be, and that things are just settling down. If that was your first trip together he could be pausing to evaluate how he feels, but your explanation seems just as likely. If he's seen you non-stop for a while, maybe he has been neglecting his friends and needs to catch up with them a bit (to tell them how much fun he's having with you, of course). I guess what I am asking is this. How can I keep him interested without playing games or going out of my way to ignore him/not reply back to messages or invites to meet up? Keep seeing him. Go on dates, have fun. Show him that you're interested. If he's tired from the trip, make sure you give him a couple of nights off, too!
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