gorilla07 Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 So this past weekend I was at work and came out for my break and seen my ex called me. Well, one of my best friends is best friends with her and I sent her a txt and she said herself and my ex wanted me to come out so we can all hang out, and I was also told that I should call/txt my ex because she was under the impression that i hated her. To make a long story short I talked to my ex and she said she wishes her and I could talk more often. I agreed with her. I still have feelings for her. I told her we should hang out sometime and she said we should hang out after i get done with work tomorrow. Should I expect something from this?
Jono85 Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 i think you're setting yourself up for disappointment. just b/c she misses you doesn't mean she wants to be with you as anything more than a friend. she's probably lonely and needs you until she can move on and find someone new. tread with caution.
Author gorilla07 Posted November 15, 2011 Author Posted November 15, 2011 i think you're setting yourself up for disappointment. just b/c she misses you doesn't mean she wants to be with you as anything more than a friend. she's probably lonely and needs you until she can move on and find someone new. tread with caution. After thinking about it lately it seems like she wanted a fwb instead of a actually relationship. which i would have been fine with
AH1990 Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 So this past weekend I was at work and came out for my break and seen my ex called me. Well, one of my best friends is best friends with her and I sent her a txt and she said herself and my ex wanted me to come out so we can all hang out, and I was also told that I should call/txt my ex because she was under the impression that i hated her. To make a long story short I talked to my ex and she said she wishes her and I could talk more often. I agreed with her. I still have feelings for her. I told her we should hang out sometime and she said we should hang out after i get done with work tomorrow. Should I expect something from this? So HER best friend texted YOU and told YOU that YOU should text your ex? If she really wanted you back that bad, she would get the balls to talk to you! Not go through the grape vine! I can't stand people that beat around the bush with stuff like that! Especially ex's! Don't even give her the time of day. You should be letting her come back to you, not the other way around. YOU called her, YOU told her that we should hang out. What has SHE initiated? Simple answer: Nothing!
InJest Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Go out with her, make a move on her, and if it doesn't end in sex, then tell her you don't want to see her anymore. Simple.
RiverRunning Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Use a condom if it's FWB. Really ... under no circumstance rely on the pill/patch. Agreed. If it's that kind of situation, who knows who else she's sleeping with and if she's doing it intelligently, for that matter. I think you need to move on. You admit you still have feelings for her. And I suspect you'd probably be disappointed and jealous even if you did end up in a FWB situation with her, because ultimately you probably want to be with her again. I don't see this ending well for you. I do see you maybe ending up sleeping with her, then getting jealous when she gets a new boyfriend or sleeps with someone else. Or, I see her stringing you along as a friend, enticing you just enough to keep you along because she likes the self-esteem boost of knowing her ex is pining for her. Politely inform your best friend to not tell you anything about your ex anymore. Cut off contact totally and move on, at least until you can confidently say you still don't have feelings.
Author gorilla07 Posted November 16, 2011 Author Posted November 16, 2011 So HER best friend texted YOU and told YOU that YOU should text your ex? If she really wanted you back that bad, she would get the balls to talk to you! Not go through the grape vine! I can't stand people that beat around the bush with stuff like that! Especially ex's! Don't even give her the time of day. You should be letting her come back to you, not the other way around. YOU called her, YOU told her that we should hang out. What has SHE initiated? Simple answer: Nothing! well what happened was my ex called first and since i was working i couldnt answer it, so i txt her good friend(who is also my good friend) asking what was up and asked her why she called (if it was something bad i would not of txt'd my ex back) My ex was the one who first said that she missed talking/txt'ng me so i then asked her to hang out. Agreed. If it's that kind of situation, who knows who else she's sleeping with and if she's doing it intelligently, for that matter. I think you need to move on. You admit you still have feelings for her. And I suspect you'd probably be disappointed and jealous even if you did end up in a FWB situation with her, because ultimately you probably want to be with her again. I don't see this ending well for you. I do see you maybe ending up sleeping with her, then getting jealous when she gets a new boyfriend or sleeps with someone else. Or, I see her stringing you along as a friend, enticing you just enough to keep you along because she likes the self-esteem boost of knowing her ex is pining for her. Politely inform your best friend to not tell you anything about your ex anymore. Cut off contact totally and move on, at least until you can confidently say you still don't have feelings. I understand where you are coming from. Usually I dont go back for any of my ex's but it just seems like we never got the chance to know each other fully, and now it seems like we both agree that we wanna hang out again.
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