Sugarkane Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 I was at the petrol station, getting petrol. A guy pulled up and got petrol on the other side of me. He made small talk with me etc. There was only one other person getting petrol. My question is why didn't he ask for my number? I've never seen him before. I went and got take away (a treat). I saw him drive past a couple of times. When I came out he was parked. I thought he might have asked me but he didn't. Then I left and I saw him drive off down one of the main roads. So he does live near me somewhere.
oaks Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Not single? Not looking to date? Didn't like the colour of your car? Why didn't you ask him for his number?
phineas Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Not single? Not looking to date? Didn't like the colour of your car? Why didn't you ask him for his number? What?!?!? A man is supposed to pursue even when a woman gives zero indication she is interested in him. Don't you know that? and how does a man know a woman is interested in him? She says "hi" but, it's in a TOTALLY different way than the way she says "hi" when just being friendly.
oaks Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 What?!?!? A man is supposed to pursue even when a woman gives zero indication she is interested in him. Don't you know that? I find that the fumes from petrol mess up my mind-reading ability. That's probably what happened with this guy, too.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 I don't know SugarKane. But I do think a lot of men, with current culture and the internet, have kind of deadened themselves to interacting with real women in the real world. Such as pursuing true relationships with women.
Author Sugarkane Posted November 15, 2011 Author Posted November 15, 2011 I find that the fumes from petrol mess up my mind-reading ability. That's probably what happened with this guy, too. Thanks alot jerk. I don't live in a small town or anything. This is the first time ever that someone has made small talk to me at the petrol station. Usually people are rude and try to jump in and cut you off. Not once has someone been friendly. Why is there always a couple of as*holes on this site?
counterman Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Could be any reason, we will never know, unless you bump into him again. I don't always ask for a girl's number, even one that I've approached. I'm more inclined to ask if she shows some interest. He could be in a relationship, he might not have found you attractive, he could have been in a rush; it could have been anything! Lesson is you could have taken initiative yourself and try to keep things going
SomewhatExperienced Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Was he supposed to ask for your number? Like really, just because you make small talk with a girl you've never met before, does that oblige you to try to being interested in starting a relationship with them? Maybe the guy's just being friendly. I chat with lots of girls randomly and I simply consider myself a social person. Oftentimes I'm flirty, but it doesn't mean that I'm interested, just enjoying the conversation with a woman. And I agree with an above poster: Why didn't you ask him out if you were so interested?
oaks Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Thanks alot jerk. I don't live in a small town or anything. This is the first time ever that someone has made small talk to me at the petrol station. Usually people are rude and try to jump in and cut you off. Not once has someone been friendly. Why is there always a couple of as*holes on this site? Sugarkane, I'm sorry. I must be having a bad-humour day.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Australian accents are hot. Yesterday I was in Whole Foods and these guys where there and one had an Australian accent..
blueskyday Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Those are hot accents, too! I've found that many guys are too shy to ask for your number. What has worked for me is to act very flirty, almost shamelessly so. To most guys, that would appear mildly flirty. I'm sure they have been burned by girls who were being "friendly" and then acted confused when the guy asked them out. So, be obvious. Smile, chat about something in your environment like the gas pumps, or his car. Ask him if he lives in the area. If yes, ask where the good restuaruants are. If he tells you one, say "Maybe we could go grab a burger there sometime." I've also found, though, that I do want a guy confident enough to make a move. I don't want to do all the heavy lifting and be the masculine energy, always moving things along. I would like a guy to take the bait, especially if it's being thrown at him! If he doesn't, then that's ok, too. Maybe be friendly, smile and chat up the next guy. See where it goes from there... I'm glad someone was friendly to you. That, in and of itself, makes for a great day!
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