smil3 Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Hey guys, I feel pretty pathetic finally being in college, yet not taking advantage of this opportunity to meet girls. I'm currently a sophomore, and at my current rate, I know I will regret my college experience. Even though I know I should be doing something, my ego is scared of rejection and humiliation. Humiliation because I am extremely inexperienced with handling dating situations and don't want to come across incompetent both through words and actions. I really need help overcoming my dating problems because I know that this problem will stick with me even after college if I do not get it fixed. I would truly appreciate general advice (or even better, specific step by step advice), on how I should approach meeting and dating girls in college. I know this is some general chump stuff, but I'm just having a really difficult time overcoming all of this, and I have been only becoming more and more frustrated over the past couple weeks.. Info about me: I goto a huge state university. I would say I am pretty damn physically attractive, smart, and decently outgoing. However, one of my main problem is that I tend to act extremely indifferent towards people I have interest in. Please, advice on how I can really improve myself would be great. Thank you.
oaks Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Info about me: I goto a huge state university. I would say I am pretty damn physically attractive, smart, and decently outgoing. However, one of my main problem is that I tend to act extremely indifferent towards people I have interest in. Please, advice on how I can really improve myself would be great. It sounds like you know what the problem is. Why do you act extremely indifferently towards people you are interested in? Are you shy? But you say you are outgoing. What do you do to meet people, and why don't you show more signs of interest or ask someone out? Anyway, you aren't "wasting your college years" unless you're failing in class. You're there to get an education and a piece of paper to prove it. Having fun along the way is a bonus rather than a requirement.
Author smil3 Posted November 15, 2011 Author Posted November 15, 2011 It sounds like you know what the problem is. Why do you act extremely indifferently towards people you are interested in? Are you shy? But you say you are outgoing. What do you do to meet people, and why don't you show more signs of interest or ask someone out? Anyway, you aren't "wasting your college years" unless you're failing in class. You're there to get an education and a piece of paper to prove it. Having fun along the way is a bonus rather than a requirement. I'm scared of looking stupid because I'm inexperienced. I also don't even know what I should say.. And honestly, I think a balance between academics and social life is the requirement because doing good in school and getting a great job, yet having no social life will not make someone happy now or even later down the road (if he/she ends up having no social skills). I'm trying to find a medium where school is my priority, but also being able to enjoy meeting new people I have interest in...
oaks Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 I'm scared of looking stupid because I'm inexperienced. I also don't even know what I should say.. Does it help to remember that everyone else is inexperienced, too? As for what to say... do you have any friends? Presumably you have conversations with them? Talking to girls is just like talking to people because, and here comes the secret, girls are people, too!
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