Denise_McDallin Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 My boyfriend recently broke up with me in a cruel way. We were good friends and very close for over a year prior to getting into the relationship and were together for six months as a couple. However, during our entire time we knew each other I never invited him over to see my place. We always stayed in his place. I never invited him over because I lived with another man who is 45 years old, and we had something between two of us. I am 30 years old. I never mentioned the man I live with to my new boyfriend. Not when we were friends, not when we got together. My BF trusted me, when he asked me who I live with I just said "two other people". However, he somehow found out about the man I live with and that we were co-workers and together before. He broke up with me in a text calling me a liar, and said that I destroyed any trust he had for me. I don't see what is the big freaking deal ? We enjoyed being together, so I kept another man secret. I feel really hurt by him, and feel that he overreacted. He said that keeping another man secret for almost two years is a "huge deal breaker" for him...WTF ?
ken_25 Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Are you being serious? I would of dumped you too.
ChelseaLS Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 I would have dumped you as well. He can't trust you. He was very justified.
Author Denise_McDallin Posted November 15, 2011 Author Posted November 15, 2011 Are you being serious? I would of dumped you too. Yes I am being serious. I didn't think that keeping the man I live with secret would be a big deal. My ... now ex-boyfriend was a very good and honest friend, and I didn't think that this would cause him to get this mad and break all ties with me. He didn't even call me about this, he texted me saying that "I need to learn about honesty and respect" and that he can't trust me anymore and doesn't want me to contact him anymore. To me it was not a big deal, I told him that he was immature for taking this so seriously.
wilsonx Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 you are absolutely unbelievable. if there was nothing to hide, you would have been honest with him his breakup was completely justified. these forums are just getting ridiculous the past week with the amount of selfish emotionally retarded people that post these type of stories on here. your 30 years old hiding the fact that you were getting plowed by a guy 15 years older then you and living with him to your boyfriend. seriously? give me a break... you are immature
ChelseaLS Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 you are absolutely unbelievable. if there was nothing to hide, you would have been honest with him his breakup was completely justified. these forums are just getting ridiculous the past week with the amount of selfish emotionally retarded people that post these type of stories on here. your 30 years old hiding the fact that you were getting plowed by a guy 15 years older then you and living with him to your boyfriend. seriously? give me a break... you are immature HEAR, HEAR! So your ex was super trusting and honest... and you couldn't be honest and trusting with him? How very selfish.
ScienceGal Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Is this a serious question? Denise, you used this guy to get what YOU wanted. Most people in a committed relationship don't want their partner having sex with someone else. This is common sense. Why don't you consider not being in a relationship at all (and informing the men you "date" that you're only interested in casual companionship and sex), that way you can sleep around as much as you like (seriously).
mike588 Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 And I thought my ex. g/f screwed me over!! Unreal!!
ken_25 Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Yes I am being serious. I didn't think that keeping the man I live with secret would be a big deal. My ... now ex-boyfriend was a very good and honest friend, and I didn't think that this would cause him to get this mad and break all ties with me. He didn't even call me about this, he texted me saying that "I need to learn about honesty and respect" and that he can't trust me anymore and doesn't want me to contact him anymore. To me it was not a big deal, I told him that he was immature for taking this so seriously. You do need to learn about honesty and respect, he's right on there. I'm not going to say he is or isn't immature but YOU, are definitely immature. So lesson learned, stop lying and keeping this man a secret from your next partner and move on.
Million.to.1 Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 The fact the you can't even understand why he is making such a big deal of it just goes to show how little you know or care about him. You don't deserve anything more than a txt explanation. Leave him alone. He deserves better.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 I don't see what is the big freaking deal ? Where can I wager that you never will...
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