wilmer Posted November 14, 2011 Posted November 14, 2011 (edited) I have been friends with this girl for six months. We have been good friends to each other and would meet up every week. Text every couple of days and have a phone conversation once or twice a week sometimes for a couple of hours at a time. The friendship is decent and she has told me personal enough things about herself and I have done likewise. Recently due to a falling out with other friends I have felt I have been contacting her too much. I would text her and get a reply the next day. Yesterday I rang her and didn’t get a reply. I have decided to leave it a week or two before contacting her (this would be quite a long time for us not to talk to each other). What I am wondering is when I contact her again and arrange to meet up should I address the issue of me contacting her too much and make a joke out of it or should I just leave it unsaid? Either way I have decided to give her more room but should I bring this up or just pretend it didn’t happen. Are some things better left unsaid? Edited November 14, 2011 by wilmer
The Outlaw Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Don't say anything. She may just be busy and hasn't had the time to respond back to you. But I think that if you were overexcessive, she would have at least told you. No need to bring it up. Good luck
Author wilmer Posted November 15, 2011 Author Posted November 15, 2011 Don't say anything. She may just be busy and hasn't had the time to respond back to you. But I think that if you were overexcessive, she would have at least told you. No need to bring it up. Good luck Thanks for the reply. I know I wasn't being over excessive in contacting her. At the same time I know I contacted her too much last week. I just hope that I didn't scare her off the friendship due to her thinking im romantically interested in her. I would love to just get it out in the open but fear this maybe the wrong move.
The Outlaw Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Thanks for the reply. I know I wasn't being over excessive in contacting her. At the same time I know I contacted her too much last week. I just hope that I didn't scare her off the friendship due to her thinking im romantically interested in her. I would love to just get it out in the open but fear this maybe the wrong move. Sure. But instead of you contacting her, why not let her contact you for a change? A friend of mine told me last week that I hadn't said 'hi' to her lately when it seems I'm expected to be the one to initiate. But that works both ways, so again, let her try contacting you. If you don't hear from her after awhile, just text her to say 'hello' or 'how are you' and see if she responds. But like what I said, she may just be busy and hasn't had the time to get back to you.
Author wilmer Posted November 15, 2011 Author Posted November 15, 2011 Sure. But instead of you contacting her, why not let her contact you for a change? A friend of mine told me last week that I hadn't said 'hi' to her lately when it seems I'm expected to be the one to initiate. But that works both ways, so again, let her try contacting you. If you don't hear from her after awhile, just text her to say 'hello' or 'how are you' and see if she responds. But like what I said, she may just be busy and hasn't had the time to get back to you. Thats what I intend doing. Normally we contact each other every second time. I probably do contact her a small bit more then she contacts me. Last week though I contacted her 4 times when she didnt contact me at all. If she doesnt contact me in the next week it would be very unusual and I fear that she may now think that I am romantically interested in her.
The Outlaw Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 Thats what I intend doing. Normally we contact each other every second time. I probably do contact her a small bit more then she contacts me. Last week though I contacted her 4 times when she didnt contact me at all. If she doesnt contact me in the next week it would be very unusual and I fear that she may now think that I am romantically interested in her. Do you think that if she thought that she may not want to be friends anymore?
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