bingobango Posted November 14, 2011 Posted November 14, 2011 My ex girlfriend of 14 months (known each other a total of 10 years! Best friends before) broke up with me 1 month ago. There was always something between us but we never acted on it until we were more mature and aware of our feelings. when we hooked up we were great together, always joking and teasing each other, sharing lots of inside jokes and larking around. We have always been told there was great intimacy between us and everyone thought we were prefect and our personalities complimented each other very well. We lived in the same city for 4.5 months and then, unfortunately, she had to move. We were doing LDR but even then it was working as we used all forms of communication to stay in touch and would always chat everyday. We would take in turns to visit each other every 3 weeks. There were strains and it was difficult at times but we worked through them. Everytime we see each other our problems disappear and it feels like we've never been apart. Things became more difficult as, due to our jobs, we couldn't see each other till two months later. We each had to go abroad but we still maintained contact with text, skype and expensive phone calls(!). There were a one or two arguments before we left, and whilst we were away, but nothing serious. Anyway, she got back into the country before me and we organised a time to skype. But she forgot to skype me, whom she's not seen in 7 weeks, because she was busy out shopping for a colleagues party that night. I was abit upset that the party seemed to be on her mind more than me. I didn't make a drama out of it. She's not much of a party animal so never usually stays past midnight, but on this occassion she didn't get home till 5am. I couldn't get hold of her the next morning for our normal chat until 8pm her local time, as she was hungover. We chatted and she filled me in with all the details of the party and when i jokingly asked if anyone chatted her up, she said no. I asked again, and then she said yes. Turns out a colleague tried to kiss her few times Whether they did kiss or not i don't know but she said she pushed him away. I trust her on this. But why would she put herself in that same position for the guy to try again? Wouldn't a normal person walk away? She said nothing happened and he was just drunk. I let it pass and the conversation was back to its jolly self and we ended it with "love you so much" and "missing you loads". That incident really bothered me so i told her how i felt the next day. She seemed to get really worked up about me asking. I just wanted to talk and let my feelings be known and hopefully she can help allay my fears. Instead she came out with "I don't think this is working out. This is not what i want anymore". This is two weeks before i was to return and see her again. I admit i was becoming clingy and possessive, but this was due to the distance apart and not being able to see her whilst others are making a move!! I was very much out of character (which she also agrees). But she still doesn't want to get back with me!! Why? I was already prepared to move down to be with her! But she said no. Said she's not happy anymore cause of the arguments (which she also agrees its cause of the distance). She said she's always moody cause of work stress and the recent arguments and clingyness didn't help. She loved her new independence, her new circle of friends, meeting new people and her life. She didn't even want to work on it, knowing fine well we agreed i'll move down to her city when i return. I'm really not sure what happened and how her feelings can change so quickly!! We were even talking about marriage and having kids a week before the split! We have been in LC since and we are now trying to work on our friendship. 10 years is a lot to throw away. We agreed to up recently but she cancelled cause she panicked and said its too soon and she's not ready yet. She then deleted a few coupley photos of us from a recent event as well as a some of just me being stupid, which she always found funny. She kept the rest as well as the ones of her holidays, parties etc, which i found odd. Why just the few from the album? The thing is i still want to get back with her! I really love her but i'm not sure how she feels, whether she's confused or if she wants to move on. I really think we can work things out as its just a matter of removing the distance. That's probably why she didn't want to meet cause she fears she'll back in love again. But she seems so unwilling to try. Can anyone share some thoughts?? Can i get her back? How can i make her try it again. Thanks!
nathanjbrown1 Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Serious conversation is the best solution for that...So that both of you could clear things up..if there's a chance if ever...is there something still remains..something like that..
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