Johnny85 Posted November 14, 2011 Posted November 14, 2011 Hey All, So I am sure you're familiar with my story; basically I have gone on 6 dates with this girl. Since then I have asked her out 4 times, and she has turned me down each time. On Friday I sent her the following message: "Hey Jennifer! If we don't hear anything soon, maybe we can do something fun this evening or tomorrow. You still haven't tried my great gourmet cooking (it's world class ha ha) or have a few beers somewhere:) What do you say?" She never responded, so I figured she isn't interested anymore. She is really stringing me along. So I went to a bar on Saturday (posted a location update on FB) and then I get a text message from her: Her: Wow, you're at bar X and not inviting me at all!!! Me: You're invited to join us! My friend is just about to leave!! He's a firefighter on call!!! Damn fires! Her: Duh whatever! Me: Suit yourself! Her: NOW you're inviting me. I see how it is. Me: You missed out on a good beer!!! Wheat flower!! And I am not referring to that wine/beer u normally get :-/ lol Her: Which one??? Me:The one that tastes like wine mixed with beer. hahaha Her: Do they have it again??!! Me: lol I am laughing so hard right now! Ur silly! Just take a beer and mix it with rose wine!!! lol Her: No it's not the same u silly Swedish house mafia. Me: Ur a Hungarian house mafia under cover. Her: Nice! That makes two of us!!! Fun!!! Me: lol so I am leaving bar x now and I would like to see u!! U @ home? Her: Yes snd I am reading a book. This is Jennifer time. I would rather see you tomorrow????What do you think? Me: I think it must be a great book lol!! tomorrow, maybe, I have an assignment to complete first tho!! Her: Is that ok?? Me: What time works for you tomorrow? NO RESPONSE!! LOL So I received a text message from her this morning, and we're meeting up to work on a business plan together (sharing compensation 50/50). I feel like I need to kiss her at this point, for I don't want to fall under the friend zone label. At the same time, I do not want to convey that I am placing her on a pedestal (I have value, and so does she). What do you guys thing about telling her in a teasing way tonight "Miss I respond to text messages when I feel like it." Besides this, any advice? Thanks everybody!
Author Johnny85 Posted November 14, 2011 Author Posted November 14, 2011 So should I just be direct and call her out on not responding to my text? I.e., So Jennifer, what happened on Saturday; I never heard from you?
jobaba Posted November 14, 2011 Posted November 14, 2011 So should I just be direct and call her out on not responding to my text? I.e., So Jennifer, what happened on Saturday; I never heard from you? Didn't you say you guys have made out and stuff before? Or have you never kissed? There's a big difference. If it's the former, then keep her as a side option and pursue others. If it's the latter, then I'd just forget it all together.
Author Johnny85 Posted November 14, 2011 Author Posted November 14, 2011 Didn't you say you guys have made out and stuff before? Or have you never kissed? There's a big difference. If it's the former, then keep her as a side option and pursue others. If it's the latter, then I'd just forget it all together. We have kissed many times, made out, and we almost had sex on our third date. But I kinda liked her, and didn't wanna have sex too soon.
InJest Posted November 14, 2011 Posted November 14, 2011 She wanted to have sex, and you turned her down?! You need to go after a more conservative woman. You're definitely not a bold enough personality to have anything that lasts with this woman. She's going to chew you up and spit you out. Cut contact with her, grow some balls, and then ask her back out in a few years.
phineas Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 So should I just be direct and call her out on not responding to my text? I.e., So Jennifer, what happened on Saturday; I never heard from you? Dude, Just ignore her. Seriously. She knows what she is doing. Calling her out when the ball is in her court will make you look like a little bitch. Drop off the face of the earth & forget about her. again, she knows what she is doing. If and only if she comes looking for you & specifically asks why you are ignoring her. Then you respond. you very simply tell her "I'm a busy guy & have enough friends, unless you have something more to offer me, stop wasting my time" Then you ignore her unless she tells you she wants to bang because she already wanted to bang so there really isn't anywhere to go than banging with her.
so_cal_dude Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 I think you may be coming off as clingy or needy to her. She is just craving the attention so I think the best thing to do is just to ignore her for now. You need to play harder to get and be less available to her. That will get her thinking and screw with her mind (e.g. why isn't he calling me anymore?). Pretend that you are out with other girls (if you actually are, then great). Do you have any other details (did she just get out of a relationship, what type of person is she)? Now that I helped you, maybe you can help me: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t306685/
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