Need to decide quickly!

[AwptiK]

I did something pretty stupid on Saturday night and really pissed off my girl. I didn't cheat or anything major, but I did majorly piss her off.

 

Sunday afternoon she texted me to let me know she was really upset at me, I asked her if I could call and apologize. She said "No, i'm really mad" and so I apologized via text. At the end of my apology I said that after this text she has all the time and space she needs to think things over and i'll be around whenever she decides what she wants to do.

 

Basically right after apologizing, I ordered flowers online, to be delivered to her work today, at some point before 3pm.

 

I asked the cashier, a mutual friend of the both of us, to let me know when they arrive. Cashier's initial reply was "Can you cancel the order?" I called and talked to the cashier, who had talked to her about things earlier in the morning and was told, "I just need my space, he needs to just ride it out" and, more importantly, "He better not try anything, he better not send me flowers - I have a feeling."

 

 

I was pretty surprised to know she even had such a feeling.. I've sent her flowers once in the past 3 months and that was when we first started talking. I'm the only guy who has ever sent her flowers.

 

I'm questioning the seriousness of "he better not buy me flowers". The cashier often misinterprets how my girl says things and the seriousness in which she does.

 

 

What do I do? I can't cancel the order online anymore, but I can possibly try to call and work something out with the florist shop. If I send the flowers, or if they're uncancelable, i'm going to keep on keeping to myself and all, but I'd rather not mess things up more.

 

 

Edit, I decided to call and cancel. They were already on the truck and headed there, but the manager called the driver for me. I want to give her what she wants - afterall. I called the cashier and told her I cancelled and the cashier brought up another valid point, the other employee working with me tonight is a bit nosey and likes to talk about everyone else's business, so that would have probably added a little irritation to my girl.

 

Lastly, I'd like to think that when she expects flowers, which she said "I have a feeling" out of the blue, that when today comes and goes without flowers arriving, she might wonder why I didn't send her anything. I'll just "ride it out" like suggested and when things are okay again, i'll send her some flowers then

 

 

 

My opinion about her flowers line, was probably her saying "I'd prefer he doesn't send me flowers, it would make it difficult to be mad at him." I've always believed that accepting an apology right away doesn't really change anything. She's probably just trying to make sure that I understand how serious she is about being mad. She'd have been extremely blunt if she didn't want to continue things.

Edited November 14, 2011 by AwptiK

[AwptiK]

Update/bump..

I found out today through the coworker I believe I mentioned, that I did a lot more than I originally thought. Not only did I wake up her son, but he was awake until 6am. Not only does that mean she was awake too, but the entire following day, he was tired and constantly trying to fall asleep on her. She wasn't able to get anything done she intended for the entire day. The other main point I hadn't heard before was she was very against being the person that I end up drunk dialing in the middle of the night. (This was actually my first, and will be my last, occurance of that)

 

 

The same coworker from before said she would call her tomorrow and talk to her about things. This wasn't done by my intentions, the coworker and my girl always talk about things like this between them, so this is a natural thing. I'm just lucky enough to receive a summary when this call does happen. Mainly, to see if she has made a decision about things and just hasn't told me. (Either: It's done and I haven't told him, or, we can be together still, I just need more time to be mad and show him i'm serious). And the second main point, is just to ensure she does let me know when she comes to a decision. I'm not really too worried about hearing from her if she's not done, she'll let me see her anger for however long she needs to, then it'll be obvious when she comes around. If she is done though, it'd be nice to know as soon as she's set on it. She is very blunt though, thankfully. I've known her for longer than these past 3 months and i've seen her make things blatantly obvious to others.

 

Lastly, we work together tomorrow night. She texted me after she left work asking if I could ask another cashier to work her shift, he couldn't. She texted again at 10 to see if I would let her be supervisor, I said yeah. Tomorrow will be kinda rough, I want to talk to her and all, especially knowing what I do now. That's why I let her be supervisor though, she'll stay busy and i'm stuck at the front. The only way we would talk is if she comes to me. I KNOW I would make the excuse to see her if I was the supervisor.

 

Well, that's all. Still being chill, still doing me.

 

 

 

 

Let me add one little detail, even if things are okay, I think i'll be pretty far down the ladder compared to where I was. We were talking about having sex for the first time in the very near future. A pretty big step for both of us, since it takes a lot for both of us to get to that level with someone, so I don't think too much good can come out of her finally having that trust and get to that level with me, just days prior to this.

Edited November 15, 2011 by AwptiK

[ErgoStep]

Being chill is good.

 

Sounds like things are going well.

[insertnamehere]

I'm the only guy who has ever sent her flowers.

 

How hideous is this girl?!

[AwptiK]

Haha she's very attractive. I'm really not sure why she hasn't gotten flowers.

 

She hasn't exactly dated decent guys though.

[InJest]

Do yourself a favor and break up with this girl, now. If she hasn't had sex with you yet, then your sex life is going to be **** if she ever decides to give it up. Break up with her, and tell her to call you if she finds her libido. You said she used to guys that aren't decent, so be indecent with her and she'll probably respond better.