chados Posted November 14, 2011 Posted November 14, 2011 im currently on NC myself. my friend on the other hand are using "ex2 system and magic of making up". im not gonna ask you wether its right or wrong because some people would say that everything is allowed when your in love, while others would say that is wrong to try and manipulate a person i know that NC would probably make a person miss you. but whats up with those ebooks?, has anyone in here actually tried it? did it work ? according to my friend its says that you wanna improve yourself, change dirty habits that you had in your relationship "get back to the way you where in the beginning of the relationship". get a new look and on it goes. it does seem logical in some ways. Im not into this kinda things myself so don't flame me here. just want to hear your experience.
more Posted November 14, 2011 Posted November 14, 2011 I looked at them... I guess you can too. But try to remember that people who wrote those books are mainly in it for money. I personally think reading stuff on this forum is much better.
Author chados Posted November 14, 2011 Author Posted November 14, 2011 (edited) I looked at them... I guess you can too. But try to remember that people who wrote those books are mainly in it for money. I personally think reading stuff on this forum is much better. yeah of course they are, but it does sound so logical. im kinda new just with NC. i mean of course i've always knew you could ignore a person. but i didn't know you could heal this way. and when i think of my past relationship, what made us work together? what did i became a year after we got together? lazy, boring, maybe i even took her for granted. but in the beginning of the relationship i was confident and interesting. its kinda funny how people changes in a relationship. but you only know it when its to late. people change and make changes in their lifes. i guess even though it sounds kinda sad and it maybe even would make you miserable. but if you want to stay with your partner, never change? no one ? Edited November 14, 2011 by chados
Berlington Bob Posted November 14, 2011 Posted November 14, 2011 I read the Magic of Making up and I think it sounds pretty solid. If you can go a month with NC and if you can actually change what you needed to change for YOURSELF and not for him/her I expect you could get back together and have at least a chance to change things... But there are 2 problems with that... First, there are times when it would be a poor logical choice to get back together I.E. yes there were problems but he/she cheated on you. This would mean that every time he/she is unhappy or stressed out about the relationship you are going to get to go through all this hurt all over again... and I think we are all here because we know that's not something we want. Second, all relationships have their issues. All people go through times in their lives that make them unattractive. You need to find someone who will stick with you through those times (talking long term relationships here) and who can help motivate you to get out of your rut... Not leave as soon as they see something they don't like. IF one can logically decide that it is in one's long term best interest to get back together then I think the approach is sound advise. Not manipulative at all either. You're just taking a month for both parties to cool off and think objectively about what they want.
Rorschach64 Posted November 14, 2011 Posted November 14, 2011 I read the Magic of Making up and I think it sounds pretty solid. If you can go a month with NC and if you can actually change what you needed to change for YOURSELF and not for him/her I expect you could get back together and have at least a chance to change things... But there are 2 problems with that... First, there are times when it would be a poor logical choice to get back together I.E. yes there were problems but he/she cheated on you. This would mean that every time he/she is unhappy or stressed out about the relationship you are going to get to go through all this hurt all over again... and I think we are all here because we know that's not something we want. Second, all relationships have their issues. All people go through times in their lives that make them unattractive. You need to find someone who will stick with you through those times (talking long term relationships here) and who can help motivate you to get out of your rut... Not leave as soon as they see something they don't like. IF one can logically decide that it is in one's long term best interest to get back together then I think the approach is sound advise. Not manipulative at all either. You're just taking a month for both parties to cool off and think objectively about what they want. Bob's first two points are great ones and a lot of the times we are here because we don't know what the hell just happened and we are seeking answers. Consider this though, if you have been in NC for long and haven't heard jack crap nothing most likely the dumper is happy with the decision to end the relationship and has no concern/care about you. If you are like me and made it a point to illustrate what you want from the other person and tried your best to resolve things, but it didn't take there is absolutely NO REASON why you should come begging back for another try. Believe me it would be begging, you would look absolutely pathetic, and mostly be annoying to the dumper chasing them further away. Best route is to go NC and if they come at you then it is another story, but make sure you post it up on here before responding because it is a good chance they are only looking for ego boosts or throwing out bread crumbs for you.
jakeyrogers Posted November 14, 2011 Posted November 14, 2011 Hey. I used to be in your spot. My girlfriend left me for another man and I was alone and depressed. One day I was browsing the web and I found this site- http://tips2getyourexback.blogspot.com/. Thanks to the free tips that site provided me and my girl are back together and happier than ever. They also have a really cool free newsletter that was great! Hey, it worked for me, maybe it can work for you too. Good luck
D-Lish Posted November 14, 2011 Posted November 14, 2011 There is one problem with winning back an ex--> you can't win someone back that doesn't want to come back. I find that is the case with most break ups. Someone said on this forum recently something along the lines of: "You tend to remember the ones that hurt you, and forget the ones you hurt".
ChelseaLS Posted November 14, 2011 Posted November 14, 2011 (edited) I think if these had any sort of success rate, we would all be doing it. I have looked at a few and yes they do have some good principal ideas, but I have found the same basic ideas and better advice in books at Chapters, Amazon, etc. Plus the books don't promise me silly little lies of getting back together. Its like a like a punch or reality with a hug. Edited November 14, 2011 by ChelseaLS Woops wrong post.
Author chados Posted November 14, 2011 Author Posted November 14, 2011 hi thanks for answering, i'm not sure if you got me though, i'm not going to use this on her, i'm sticking on NC, just want to know if its really working:) and it looks like it does. i started this tread cause i was very curious when my friend told me about it and i googled it. funny thing is that there's so much websites with names like getexback. and because of that its hard to actually find reviews from people. everywhere i look people say, that they don't like the idea of it. its just that i find it hard to believe when you google and find 200000 sites that looks like scam, "get your money back if your not happy" they probably are to, but that doesn't say that it wont work?. although i'm sticking to NC i can tell you that she dumped me because she thought that i didn't cared about her. so instead of "telling" me that, she was waiting for me to make approach, so we both kinda went the wrong way just by being insecure. and when she finally after two months told me that she thought i didn't care, and i said the same to her, all was going fine, felt like a new start. then she left the city for 1,5 week. and of course i was acting needy like never before, told her how much i loved her and so on. i put pressure on her and next time she dumped me. i believe that this is something that can be fixed. i just have to be myself again. funny how a relationship can break up huh? continue with the topic, and if you feel like giving me some advice on my relationship, i'd appreciate that. ps: if my english is bad in some way sorry for that
nathanjbrown1 Posted November 14, 2011 Posted November 14, 2011 I looked at them... I guess you can too. But try to remember that people who wrote those books are mainly in it for money. I personally think reading stuff on this forum is much better. You're absolutely correct those authors who wrote those stuff are mainly business minded..They just do it for money..It's better to look and read those forums that is related to what topic you want...
Author chados Posted November 14, 2011 Author Posted November 14, 2011 You're absolutely correct those authors who wrote those stuff are mainly business minded..They just do it for money..It's better to look and read those forums that is related to what topic you want... yeah just find it interesting in some way cause it's exactly the opposite way from what i've learned. you always hear people say "just tell him/her that you love them" i can change" and that never works, but what if you "change" without them and let them know about it, do they instinctively think i got to have this person back? even if its just for the moment?, i mean is it really this easy for some people to get brainwashed? it would be fun to hear form people who actually tried this. and if they got back together, did it work in the long run? i know this would work with a person you've been dating for a while, but with a partner you had 1-2 years? it also says that you should date/fake a date and let the one you love know about it. sounds harsh
Author chados Posted November 15, 2011 Author Posted November 15, 2011 yeah just find it interesting in some way cause it's exactly the opposite way from what i've learned. you always hear people say "just tell him/her that you love them" i can change" and that never works, but what if you "change" without them and let them know about it, do they instinctively think i got to have this person back? even if its just for the moment?, i mean is it really this easy for some people to get brainwashed? it would be fun to hear form people who actually tried this. and if they got back together, did it work in the long run? i know this would work with a person you've been dating for a while, but with a partner you had 1-2 years? it also says that you should date/fake a date and let the one you love know about it. sounds harsh anyone else who tried it?
nu464 Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 is it really true that magic of making up ebook is the most popular how to get your ex back book in the world.It seems everywhere ,recommendation,reference is being tailored to this particular now.need your opinion
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