soomangoo Posted November 14, 2011 Posted November 14, 2011 (edited) Okay I'll try to sum this up quickly, long storyish. I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years. My best friend set me up with her boyfriends best friend. We were each others first everything. We rarely fight, when we do its usually my fault in bringing something stupid up haha. We don't go to school together, we are about 2hrs apart. But anyways we are on a break right now. For about a week. Last year was my first year a college, I met this guy Joe. We lived in the same area in the dorm and were the same major. We started hanging out often, I started to like him. But I did nothing about it. Later I found out he has always liked me. Also in my first year of college one of my friends cousins, Bryan, randomly chatted me online. After that he kind of fell in love with me. We constantly talked and we hung out with my friend along with us. I started to like him too. And this is where things started getting confusing. My mom and my friends thought I should take a break with my boyfriend and see what Bryan was like. After talking for several months and hanging out a few times. I was considering taking a break. But once I thought about it, I stopped liking Bryan and wanted to stay with my boyfriend so I told Bryan I couldn't be with him. At the beginning of sophomore year, I still have my little crush on Joe. He still likes me too. I am now on my break with my bf. But now I stopped liking Joe too and want to go back to my bf again. I start to like another guy, but once i think about ending it with my bf I don't like that other guy anymore and I just want to be with my bf...why? I'm so confused Also while on the break, I constantly want to contact my bf, I want him here with me, I just miss him like crazy... Sorry its so long... Edited November 14, 2011 by soomangoo
ErgoStep Posted November 14, 2011 Posted November 14, 2011 The first few months usually have the most zing. The first year or two. And then the biology settles down and it's more of a comfortable friendship. When you initiate another love interest, you've experiencing the zing of new love all over again. That is what is attractive to you. And then you miss the comfort and stability of your boyfriend. Because you have a history of love. A very strong emotional bond. Some people choose to date around and enjoy lots of zing. Some people prefer long term relationships/marriage. Your choice, really.
Author soomangoo Posted November 14, 2011 Author Posted November 14, 2011 Yeah..that makes sense. I want the long term/marriage. But I guess I just wonder what its like to be with someone else since I've only been with my bf..
EgoJoe Posted November 14, 2011 Posted November 14, 2011 If I knew your boyfriend I'd send him this post and if he had any self-respect he'd break up with you. Which is what you deserve, grow up. You have no idea what love is and are absolutely clueless. Your Mother is also clueless. You are both selfish and uncaring with regard to the feelings of others and the very nature of honesty. Take a "break" to check out another guy, really? Are you that self-centered, shallow and inconsiderate? I hate to say it, but, what you SHOULD have done is tell your boyfriend the truth. Scary thought isn't it? No double cake action and you might even have to deal with some consequences. I'm laughing at you right now because you're in for alot of lessons. I don't think you're a terrible person though. I have compassion but I also believe in dishing it straight. Do a forum search for, "The Grass Is Greener Syndrome." Best of luck.
Author soomangoo Posted November 14, 2011 Author Posted November 14, 2011 you're right... i guess i just give up then...with everyone.
flitzanu Posted November 14, 2011 Posted November 14, 2011 If I knew your boyfriend I'd send him this post and if he had any self-respect he'd break up with you. Which is what you deserve, grow up. You have no idea what love is and are absolutely clueless. Your Mother is also clueless. You are both selfish and uncaring with regard to the feelings of others and the very nature of honesty. Take a "break" to check out another guy, really? Are you that self-centered, shallow and inconsiderate? I hate to say it, but, what you SHOULD have done is tell your boyfriend the truth. Scary thought isn't it? No double cake action and you might even have to deal with some consequences. I'm laughing at you right now because you're in for alot of lessons. I don't think you're a terrible person though. I have compassion but I also believe in dishing it straight. Do a forum search for, "The Grass Is Greener Syndrome." Best of luck. harsh, but honest. it's pretty inconsiderate to take a "break" just to mess around with another guy, then go back to your boyfriend. i personally just HATE the semantics about "well we were on a break so it isn't cheating" well yeah it pretty much is. also, Joe, your harshness just made you my new favorite poster. haha.
nathanjbrown1 Posted November 14, 2011 Posted November 14, 2011 I think you just miss you're bf..That's why you want someone could fulfill the absences of your bf...and also you always hang out with those guys and your friends that why you will be easily attracted to someone..
Author soomangoo Posted November 15, 2011 Author Posted November 15, 2011 I'm not on a break to get with other guys. I haven't done anything with any guy since. I'm just seeing what its like to be single I guess
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