haydos Posted November 14, 2011 Posted November 14, 2011 Hey Im 25 male and have been unwell for a few years now. Im unable to work due to the condition...I get financial support but its only just enough for me to get by. My question...Im hesitant to start seeing a girl...shes interested and we get along well but when I think of a relationship I feel guilty about bringing someone into my life when I have little money to provide and socially I cant do as much as others. She seems perfect but Im always thinking she deserves someone in a better situation, better future and one that can provide money. I dont know what to do? Any advice? Thanks
YaOldBuckaroo Posted November 14, 2011 Posted November 14, 2011 Hey haydos Depends really on how bad your disability is, but if she's showing interest regardless of your condition, then so be it. If your concern is regarding your inability to work, perhaps you could consider getting a home-based online job to bump up your financial income a bit.. Here's a link that'll give you an idea on what I mean: http://blogaude.com/best-home-based-jobs-you-may-want-to-know/ Hope this helps Max
oaks Posted November 14, 2011 Posted November 14, 2011 My question...Im hesitant to start seeing a girl...shes interested and we get along well but when I think of a relationship I feel guilty about bringing someone into my life when I have little money to provide and socially I cant do as much as others. Don't decide to avoid getting into a relationship just because you've got a chronic illness. Sure, it might require some 'understanding' on the part of your partner, especially if it impacts your daily life in a significant way, but relationships (with the right person) are great! She's interested. If you're interested then give it a try! If your condition restricts what you can do (eg physically, or financially) then it might be a good idea to make sure she knows at least some of this early on. Good luck!
Author haydos Posted November 14, 2011 Author Posted November 14, 2011 Thanks for the replys guys...It does help I think I'll give it a real go as I have nothing to lose. I think its more of a guilt thing rather than self esteem. I know Im a good person and have things to offer...Ive grown as a person but I cant help the feeling of not being able to make money and do as much as others. But mircea you are right we arnt in the 50's and as long as I can support my self then what does it matter right? I wont be mooching off her. Its just not a good look saying 'hey im on the sickness benefit' although I wouldnt explain it like that. I think I'll let her know early on and if she understands then that would be awesome. I just have to find a way to get rid of that guilt feeling of not being able to do what another guy could Thanks for the link YaOldBuckaroo I'll look into that!
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