Broke-Up with GF of almost 3 years

[Huang415]

Hi guys.

 

I'll say this straight. I am really really deeply depressed right now about my recent break up. My girlfriend dumped me a month ago because she said there were no feelings left for me and that she felt like I treated her as a best friend rather than a boyfriend these past couple of months. She felt like I was using her body for sex. Now that I look back into our conversations, I feel that I treated her like a dousche. I still love her a lot and want to get back with her. Like anyone else, you know what I mean when you feel like you lost something so good. We were both each others first love. I've been googling up for answers and I saw this forum which really gave me a bit of an idea to help me cope. I really need your help guys. I'm struggling to move on. Im lost. I just want her back and I'm willing to prove it to her, but she said all my chances are gone and she wants me out of her life. I talked to her 2 days ago and she said she would like to be best friends or even maybe best friends with benefeits. Which road should I take? Please give me thoughtful answers because I really want to get back to her. I feel like all my hope just got shot down. I really regret. If I could I would bring the whole world to her. Everyone is telling me to move on and let her go, but no matter how much I try to force myself and wait for time to heal itself, it just doesn't work. I feel so dead. I have no motivation to set new goals. My life always revolved around her.

[nature]

Ummm are you hearing what she is saying? She broke up with you because she felt like "you were using her body for sex"....but now she wants you to be "friends with benefits"??

 

What a hypocrite. Friends with benefits is using somebodys body for sex, without the commitment of a relationship.

 

Tell her you will not accept this. Tell her either you work it out and have a committed relationship or nothing at all. Thats my opinion.

[Huang415]

I understand all of this and already tried. I've tried doing NC but its not working. Why am I always crawling back? Does she miss me at all? Will she come back if I don't contact her?