furfing Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 Hello All, Well first of all please don't judge me. To be straightforward, i left my 5 years old gf for a girl i met randomly. The things is since the first moment i saw her (the new girl) i felt something very strong deep down into me... I font know what is this, it's not passion or something like this, i could call it more total fluidity ... My ex is very trustworthy and loyal, while this new girl i met she was still a bit in touch with her ex, but now she told me everything is clear with them, she has been crying about the fact i question her about this again and again. I am a kind of insecure and need transparency (who doesn't) ? So i blame my new gf for this and she cut every talk email she had with er ex or whatsoever. The things is it's really powerful when i am with her... (been together 7 month) Things are like we were sister and brother connected with love and sharing common things, i never met anyone like this in my life. With my ex who want to get back to me, when i am with her i don't feel the same, i do not have this safe feeling and relax moment. With this new girl i have the feeling sometime i don't need to say what i think but i see her eyes crossing my eyes and we read in each others eyes mutual approval of what we say and thought in our mind ... This is something for me pretty new even those i am not that young (not that old thus ) 28 ... We both Well am i thinking twisted or ... please correct me if i go the wrong way, bug this could be the biggest dilemma of my life cause i do not want a potential marriage to end up in divorce. However i feel a bit strange to share so much and wondering well, is she gonna be faithful to me which she swear etc... i do think she really love me ... Are things that complicated ? What do you think of what i said earlier ? What do you think of how you describe the emotion sharing with your partner ? I need a bit of your guidance, advice and experience sharing ... it's not easy really ... How to take part and make a choice because selfishly as it is it's what it is about ... it's about two girl and their life and me .. I don't want to mess up anyone life thus... Thanks for your understanding and help, really life is easy but love make it complicated. Thanks
forms Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 I'm not sure what you are asking. I assume you were not dating kindergarteners, so you met a girl at age 23, dated her for 5 years, and then left her on impulse for a new woman who stirs your soul. It's been 7 months with the new woman and you can look into each other's eyes and read each other's mind. Your ex wants you back, and your new GF wasn't quite over her ex, but when you protested, she cut off all contact with her ex. Sounds like you are still interacting with your old GF since you say when you are with her, it's not the same as when you are with your new GF. It seems only fair that if you made your new GF cut off all contact with her ex, you should cut off all contact with yours. Now seven months later into this new wonderful soul-mate relationship full of love, mind-reading and safety, what is the problem? How is this the biggest dilemma of your life? It seems clear: stop meddling with the old GF, and go enjoy life with your soul-mate. No one can guarantee if you marry you won't end up divorced, whether you marry the old GF or the new GF. Funny you are worried that the new girlfriend might cheat on you, when she cut off her ex at your request but you are still seeing your ex. I'm really not sure what you are upset about? Can you clarify, you might get more answers.
ErgoStep Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 It sounds like you are considering a life path that is outside the cultural norm. Meaning, most people will not understand or approve of what you are doing. Look down the road ten years. You will want to be with another woman. So I would avoid marrying your current love interest. Just because of legal nuances and vows of lifetime fidelity. That being said, it's a lifestyle choice. LGBT might be comparable. And they are making strides to be recognized as legitimate.
Author furfing Posted November 15, 2011 Author Posted November 15, 2011 Hello, Thanks for you reply. Well in my mind i am wondering shall i choose this girl with who passion is going on and lso a lot of shared pleasure. Or shall i go back with my ex, serious more down to earth.... Do you understand why my questionning is ? Thanks
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