MrSimple Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 Righto, a little insight of wat happened. Basically, today was day 2 after first contact at the event I was talking abt. My ex didn't want to come to the event, but i sort of managed to convince her to come(maybe she just wanted to kill time) She came to find me, we chatted awhile and went into the exhibition area. I gave her my entrance tag as I didn't nid it anymore, for her to gain access in. We went in and took a look around. She then made an eexcuse insisting she wanted to buy me a drink, so I told her what i wanted, and she left to get it. Well, I went to get a cartoon pillow she was pretty keen on, intending to give it to her before she left for the day. But I didn't get a chance to, coz after she came back to pass me the drink, we sat down somewhere to relax and chill. However she was visibly distracted by something(I've no idea what, but it's probably her rebound) She said she was fine when I asked her, but I knew better, and I didn't want to probe any further lest she thinks I'm too nosy or desparate. She left after abt 45 mins, saying she wanted to find her friends. I asked her if she was coming back later and she said should be. But in the end, she didn't return, so I was feeling: ahh darn, didn't managed to give the pillow" Waited about an hour before asking her if she was coming back and she asked: why? I replied: "just checking" and she said: see how Think the answer was pretty obvious then. Well, just have to give it to her some other time when we meet up. Now here's the part I think that made things wrong. My friend mentioned a person's name that is like a big NO-NO to her, and apparently it STAYED on her mind the whole time, because that was the first thing she asked me at night when I was having dinner. I replied: "Nope, didn't show up today" And I've yet to receive a reply from her. I"m wondering, how badly did i messed up my chances? Jealously was never on my mind about getting her back, but my friend let it slip because he really had no idea about it. How should I carry on from here? We have reinitiated contact, and I dun think I can vanish again(that will make her wonder what the heck am I playing at) Staying silent for 1 day will be acceptable, but not for one week straight I think? I mean, she's starting to open up to me about her rebound problems, which is EXACTLY what I want. It means she's starting to trust me enough to tell me what's happening currently. How do I show that i care, and at the same time show her that I'm not always there? Or I should do either only? Please advise thanks!
Author MrSimple Posted November 13, 2011 Author Posted November 13, 2011 Leave the door open for contact and then disappear? There's a chance the misunderstanding won't be cleared up, but then, what's done has been done~ >.<
silly_panda Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 It's hard to know at this point whether she is playing games or not... But seem like this girl is not that happy currently... She opening up to you about her current relationship is a good thing... But, just don't do what I did... Once I get to know that there is something wrong with my ex's relationship, I got my hopes up and started pushing her... Bad move... But you gotta know this, you are not her priority rite now... Many times, your ex comes to you is because she just wanna get some emotional comfort... So are you willing to go be her emotional pillow..? Well, I cannot really judge your ex because I don't know her but most of the time, that's what they wanted... I guess only respond to her when she comes and look for you... Based on her action and what she says, you can pretty much know where you stand in her heart... Once you confirm that and know it's not in your favor, just disappear...
Author MrSimple Posted November 14, 2011 Author Posted November 14, 2011 Apparently that's what the new guy did that made her go over, so that should be what I should do in order to get back on my side~ Slow and steady does the thing. Well, I've sent an opening msg to her, and she sort of replied, but was talking about what she and the other guy did. I don't know what it means, but if it's rubbing it in my face? Sorry, ain't working. She's just deluding herself. We'll see how things play out. It's a crucial week this time, the 6th week of her rebound. I'm 50-50 something will happen and things will just go very wrong. Then again, don't get my hopes up. It'll be devastating if nth happened. At least I've secured the "problem listener" in her heart now. As it says, I only listen, and i wun say anything.
silly_panda Posted November 14, 2011 Posted November 14, 2011 Just be careful if you are going down that road... If you get the feeling that you are not getting what you wan from her, just back off...
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