joejoe Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 SO here we 6months after and said I would check back in as I found everyone on this site very helpful and honest. Brief remind, 4 years together, loved her, thought she loved me, really solid and good relationship, she talked about moving in,marraige and kids down the road..... she dumped me out of blue, took it really bad and still trying to adjust (me 25, her 24). This site suggests possibly GIGS or Loss of Attraction as reasons but who knows. Went NC for 1 month, NC again for 4months. Recently in text communication again 1or twice but nothing substantial. She is friendly and responds and engages in convo but doesnt really initiate communication so aware of that. Was in a really bad way initially after break-up, sucks to think that 1 one person can have that much of a hold on you that when there suddenly gone your live seems to fall apart. 6 months on, definately over that inital panic phase and feeling alot better but along way to go yet I feel. Took peoples advice here and continue to try and improve my own life and find myself again. Went gyming,bulked up,lost weight. Clubing and reconnecting with my friends again. Trying to find a new job and get my own place but thats slow going. Hardest thing I have found is trying to get back into single life, honestly finding it tough to even talk to new girls let alone get dates but maybe that happens when your a bit quiet and have been out of the scene for so long..Can never seem to make the first step...but sure that will come back to me with a bit of time. As for the EX i havn't seen her so that has helped me think and put things in perspective. I dont think she is seeing anyone new yet but aware that will happen at some stage. She does seem to be partying alot more and enjoying hanging out with her friends again. I am aware that I definatly was in love with her and still have feelings for her and still cant crush that bit of hope that maybe there is a chance for us somewhere down the line again. On the other hand I realise that I want someone to be with me because they want too, we had a great relationship with a couple of minor problems that could have been fixed with a little work but I see now that until she realises that herself any reconcilition is not possible. I need to let her go and continue to try and move on and get to where I need to be myself.. Not sure if people will find this helpful but just wanted to keep in touch. Thanks everyone!!! and to anyone starting out on this break-up road, I wont lie its tough really tough... I found it the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with but people are right when they say time heals all wounds, maybe not fully but it will get better.I loved this girl, no doubts she was the one, felt like everthing she said me was lie, she ended up hurting me worse than anyone and made me feel like nothing. ITs been 6 months for me and im no way near where I want to be but I will get there....I have no doubts about that anymore.... good luck!!
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