red shoes Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 How did you feel when you receive a note or text or whatever form of contact from your ex? How many of you are happy about it? How many of you wish he/she had left you alone?
Sadpuppy Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 I saw a missed call from him today after him initiating the breakup yesterday. I feel more confused. He made it so firm and yet today he said he's confused and give him some time.
Author red shoes Posted November 13, 2011 Author Posted November 13, 2011 I saw a missed call from him today after him initiating the breakup yesterday. I feel more confused. He made it so firm and yet today he said he's confused and give him some time. Did you want him to contact you though or did you wish he had left you alone?
perfectlyflawed459 Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 How did you feel when you receive a note or text or whatever form of contact from your ex? How many of you are happy about it? How many of you wish he/she had left you alone? I went to a party the other day and my ex ditched the girl he is supposedly with just to try and approach me. He tried making small talk and asked for my opinion on his music and such. I gave him a very short answer and walked away and kept busy. He stared at me the entire time and tried to approach me a few more times, but I made sure he didn't get close enough to me to do so. I was at 6 weeks NC till he broke it. I mean I am happy about it because it tells me that this thing with this other chick isn't as serious as I thought it was and that he hasn't forgotten me, but at the same time I don't think I am ready to allow him back in my life, hence why I sorta blew him off. I miss him to pieces but it is still really hard for me...I plan on staying NC for a bit longer because I still need some time. I have gained a little power from all this so he is finally going to have to wait for me to allow him back in my life, instead of it being the other way around
Author red shoes Posted November 13, 2011 Author Posted November 13, 2011 I went to a party the other day and my ex ditched the girl he is supposedly with just to try and approach me. He tried making small talk and asked for my opinion on his music and such. I gave him a very short answer and walked away and kept busy. He stared at me the entire time and tried to approach me a few more times, but I made sure he didn't get close enough to me to do so. I was at 6 weeks NC till he broke it. I mean I am happy about it because it tells me that this thing with this other chick isn't as serious as I thought it was and that he hasn't forgotten me, but at the same time I don't think I am ready to allow him back in my life, hence why I sorta blew him off. I miss him to pieces but it is still really hard for me...I plan on staying NC for a bit longer because I still need some time. I have gained a little power from all this so he is finally going to have to wait for me to allow him back in my life, instead of it being the other way around You sound like you know what you're doing. How would you feel if he stops contacting you in the next couple of weeks?
shayla Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 My ex dumped me and married another woman two months later. Three months later my father died and my ex sent me an email. I thought it was a condolence email so I opened it...I thought it was decent of him since he did know my father. It turned out to be a virus. The man sent me a virus. How I felt was beyond pissed off. He better not contact me again in his life.
perfectlyflawed459 Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 You sound like you know what you're doing. How would you feel if he stops contacting you in the next couple of weeks? That would be fine. Yea I miss him to death but I still need time to heal and I am aware of this. Plus if he is missing me, it will just make him miss me more over time and makehim realize that he messed up. It is apparent that my silence has been working somewhat. I don't want to speak to him until I am completely healed so I don't fall back again. I am healed pretty well right now but I still have my weak moments. It just feels good that I can initiate contact on my own terms instead of waiting for him because now I know he has wanted to see me Every situation is different though, what might work for me may not work for someone else because the people are different. However I can honestly say from my perspective that silence really does speak more volumes than words.
MIK1000 Posted November 14, 2011 Posted November 14, 2011 I get a kick out of it, Not going to lie, but I think it's probably detrimental to my recovery. Been contacted twice in about three months of NC. First was a drunk text saying Hi how are you? and the second was just last week where she contacted me asking if i wanted a meaningless belonging of very little value back (a gamecube console) and she suggested I met her to get it back. It gives me a kick because It assures me they are thinking about me in some way and probably struggling to forget me despite being with someone else already. However it makes it gives me a false sense of a security because it comes as even more of a shock when I see something like her with her new guy.
MarMarMar Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Would rather he didn't since every time it happens(usually about once a week) it completely ruins my day. Fortunately it's been over a week this time also last time we saw each other I made it clear I didn't want him in my life anymore so hopefully that was the last.
ChelseaLS Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 I almost pee'd myself. I was shaking. He called me 3 weeks after we broke up and asked if I wanted to come watch the hockey game at his place (our old place). I just wasn't expecting it. I was busy on the phone and my other line beeped and yikes there he was! Shocking!
Berlington Bob Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 I was in class today struggling to stay in control of my emotions and do my best not to think of her and what does she do? Texts me to see if she can see our (mine now) dog... I feel like when she texts me it takes me back a day. If I text her back its another day. or more. I want her to stop texting so I can start forgetting about her but she's not making it easy. I almost think it would be worth going back a day or two to text her and let her know about the whole NC thing. Otherwise I think she might just have to figure it out and... well... I guess now I can say this without getting in trouble... she was never very smart... Thoughts?
MizHoney2U Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 I feel anxiety. Initially, he would block his # from me because I had changed his password so he couldn't get to his VM. Nevertheless, he continued to contact me at least monthly (blocked)... recently, he called twice about ten minutes apart last month ( missed both calls and did not follow up to see who the number was attached to) then about 2 wks later he called from the same # and we spoke briefly, which means he is trying to give me his number.... but thanx to this forum I have been able to really maintain NC for nearly 4 wks now that I do have his #..... but anyways, to answer your question.... I would rather he not call me randomly just to "see how I am doing"... Just say what is on your mind so we can move on.
MoonlightSonata Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 He sent me an email only because he wanted me to give him something back that I had taken from him, he is not a man of words and is very shy so even if he did still want to get with me, he wouldnt say it. It was a formal conversation but it warmed my heart and I felt very happy inside.
tbooie Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 How did you feel when you receive a note or text or whatever form of contact from your ex? How many of you are happy about it? How many of you wish he/she had left you alone? A day after I broke up with him he texted me saying he misses me, asking about my day, and talking about our (his now) puppy and how he wasn't feel well. I thought of how pathetic he was to try to get any type of response from me to stroke his ego. I caught myself checking my phone tho for any kind of message from him but never responsed. I was pleased to see he was thinking of me but I wished he'll leave me alone so I can continue healing. I've been doing quite well never had the urge to call or text him or respond to his texts. However, the next day he didn't text me at all or any form of contact and I felt a little sadness. I know that if he wanted me back he'll have to try harder then just a few small talk text.
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