FL Lady Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 I'm 41 dating a 47 year old guy. Never had this happen before, but it may be normal. Whenever "Mark" and I are together, we try to make up for lost time, because we only see each other 1-2 days a week. Due to our jobs, we live 6 hours apart. Sometimes, over the course of the day/evening, he has a hard time getting his erection back, especially when we just made love an hour ago. He gets a little embarassed & sometimes I wonder if it's me? Out of a 24 hour period he'll 3 - 4 erections and try for others (including my help) but it won't happen.
FitChick Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 If you are having sex once a day everyday you are together, be happy with that because that is more than most people have even when they are living with someone. You can do other things besides intercourse, you know.
Author FL Lady Posted November 13, 2011 Author Posted November 13, 2011 Thanks - yes. I just don't get to see him very often, so we spend our time together. I'm guessing it's normal for a guy? Just wasn't sure.
Feelin Frisky Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 It's not likely you. It could be a number of things with him--if he's out of shape it will be easier to get tired. That's treatable with diet, exercise and rest. He could have performance anxiety because you seem to be trying to rush things in short order. That can put a bug in a guy's mind and get him worrying. And three, he could have some beginnings of age-related erectile dysfunction--which performance pressure can make worse. All three of those things can be improved upon by better exercise, medication and trying not to force performance into a certain type and time. Perhaps you can work these out. He doesn't sound like a lost cause.
laotzu Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 A. All guys are different with how often they get erections, and how quickly they get them back. B. It's even different at different times for different guys. I'm currently sleeping with someone with someone whom, at one point, I had a hard time (err) maintaining attention. Last night, I was back at it ~10 minutes after we first ended. It just depends. If he's good the first time you have sex, and "Sometimes" has a hard time getting it back up an hour later, I think you're being a bit too hard on him. I'm twenty-nine and have a fairly strong sex drive, and that amount of pressure might make me blink.
forms Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 It's not you. Two or three times a day for a 47 is quite good. Is there any way you can find a way to move closer together? Long distance relationships are so hard.
azsinglegal Posted November 14, 2011 Posted November 14, 2011 I've met several men over age 35 who had issues. I'd say a man who's 47 and still getting erect as much as you say is doing damn well. Why push the how many times you can have sex thing? What happened to quality. I'll take 20 min of awesome sex compared to 2 - 10 min times of just OK.
carhill Posted November 14, 2011 Posted November 14, 2011 30-60 minutes resolution at that age is pretty good, IMO. My data points amongst friends who have resolution/ED issues are primarily physical, e.g. prostate, diabetes, heart/circulatory issues. Erection problems, like extended resolution/erectile dysfunction appear to go along with some medical issues. I'd say your guy is doing pretty good. If you want an energizer bunny, you're likely to have better luck with a 25-30 yo (younger is usually better purely in the physical sense). Also, non-smokers and non-drinkers eliminate those aspects of circulatory/body health as factors.
Author FL Lady Posted November 14, 2011 Author Posted November 14, 2011 Thank you everyone! Your feedback is much appreciated. Sounds like he is pretty good and it's not me. Whew! Next time I see him this week, I'll focus on lengthening the quality of the first go around. Yes, I'd love to live closer. Jobs. May happen at some point. We're fairly new into this relationship.
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