OneFootOut Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 It just dawned on me that both genders have nearly the exact same complaints about each other. If you see one post on here about an issue with a man, you see one with the same issue about a woman. Men only care about looks Women only care about looks Men won't date me because... Women won't date me because... He didn't call me She didn't call me He hasn't made a move yet She hasn't made a move yet ETC. If we both have the same complaints about each other, why is it so hard to just get over it, relax, be yourself, and stop trying to play a game with rules and standards? Just talk to people without any intent other than to get to know them... all different kinds, from different walks of life. When you find one that makes you feel good, then go meet them and get to know each other. Yes? Who cares what others think about them, as long as they make you happy. Why do we keep making it so difficult for each other? Why does a man say... women won't date me because I'm a nice guy and I'm not a 10... but, the same man ignores the nice girl who isn’t a 10? It’s nuts. No wonder so many of us are frustrated and single. Regardless of look, location, financial status, whatever... we're all people hoping to find someone to share life with. Right? Can't we find a way to let down the barriers a little?
Woggle Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 Because men and women these days have a very adversarial relationship.
ErgoStep Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 Most of this is petty drama that distracts from what is actually happening. Men and women copulate.
jobaba Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 It just dawned on me that both genders have nearly the exact same complaints about each other. If you see one post on here about an issue with a man, you see one with the same issue about a woman. Men only care about looks Women only care about looks Men won't date me because... Women won't date me because... He didn't call me She didn't call me He hasn't made a move yet She hasn't made a move yet ETC. If we both have the same complaints about each other, why is it so hard to just get over it, relax, be yourself, and stop trying to play a game with rules and standards? Just talk to people without any intent other than to get to know them... all different kinds, from different walks of life. When you find one that makes you feel good, then go meet them and get to know each other. Yes? Who cares what others think about them, as long as they make you happy. Why do we keep making it so difficult for each other? Why does a man say... women won't date me because I'm a nice guy and I'm not a 10... but, the same man ignores the nice girl who isn’t a 10? It’s nuts. No wonder so many of us are frustrated and single. Regardless of look, location, financial status, whatever... we're all people hoping to find someone to share life with. Right? Can't we find a way to let down the barriers a little? That's a great post OneFoot... I mean when men read crap like this... When women describe a man as "sweet" and "wonderful" ..it just means there is no attraction present…notice you didn't say he's HOT. How can they not be bitter? Are you saying that any woman who has observed you with the quality of being 'sweet' and/or 'wonderful' has and never will have any attraction to you and view you like a little brother? WTF!?! But you just have to step back, take a deep breath, and realize not every woman is like that. And thank god for that...
RecordProducer Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 Men only care about looks Women only care about looks Men won't date me because... Women won't date me because... He didn't call me She didn't call me He hasn't made a move yet She hasn't made a move yet ETC. I disagree that we have the same issues with each other. We care about different things, and women are generally more knit-picky than men. Men see a problem only when it becomes a problem; women see it before it becomes a problem and then they make it a problem. Men are more trusting and naive. On the other hand, men are more inconsiderate and selfish when they're asked to change their ways, i.e. less willing to compromise. They can be very understanding of our faults, though and they don't see red flags in everything we say or do. The list goes on. The things you listed are not issues - they all signify lack of interest. This has nothign to do with sex or even with dating. Lack of interest exists in all areas of life: work, sports, hobbies, friendships...
Author OneFootOut Posted November 13, 2011 Author Posted November 13, 2011 When women describe a man as "sweet" and "wonderful" ..it just means there is no attraction present…notice you didn't say he's HOT. But who wrote it? A woman or a man? How do they know how every woman feels? And no, not all women are like that. That's the problem with these forums.. it's usually written as ALL women or ALL men are blah blah blah. Every single one of us is an individual and has our own minds and thoughts and wants and desires. You can't possible generalize ALL men or women to think, feel, do, or act any one way as a group. I think I must be an alien, I've never in my life said or thought a man was "hot". I am attracted to personality and how he treats me and others and how he comes across.. ya know.. easy going and peaceful.. (not grouchy or high strung) That is what is "good looking" to me. Don't buy into the media, or what men and women with grudes and hurt feelings and bitterness throw out there. Use your own instincts and intelligence
Woggle Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 I think that men tend not to look at relationships as fixer uppers the way women do. We pick a woman who we like then we commit while women tend to look at a man as more of a project. This is why men get mad when women all of a sudden want us to change our ways. We figure that we were good enough at the start so what is the problem now?
Author OneFootOut Posted November 13, 2011 Author Posted November 13, 2011 I think that men tend not to look at relationships as fixer uppers the way women do. We pick a woman who we like then we commit while women tend to look at a man as more of a project. This is why men get mad when women all of a sudden want us to change our ways. We figure that we were good enough at the start so what is the problem now? That's a good point, I've seen a lot of that myself. My problem is the men want to fix me up and change me before they will go out hahahah I think if someone feels the need to change you, you're with the wrong person. Maybe they didn't find exactly what they were looking for, so they want to turn you into it.
ErgoStep Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 That's a good point, I've seen a lot of that myself. My problem is the men want to fix me up and change me before they will go out hahahah I think if someone feels the need to change you, you're with the wrong person. Maybe they didn't find exactly what they were looking for, so they want to turn you into it. It's the nesting instinct. Some women might overcome it... I don't know...
betterdeal Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 It just dawned on me that both genders have nearly the exact same complaints about each other. If you see one post on here about an issue with a man, you see one with the same issue about a woman. Men only care about looks Women only care about looks Men won't date me because... Women won't date me because... He didn't call me She didn't call me He hasn't made a move yet She hasn't made a move yet ETC. If we both have the same complaints about each other, why is it so hard to just get over it, relax, be yourself, and stop trying to play a game with rules and standards? Just talk to people without any intent other than to get to know them... all different kinds, from different walks of life. When you find one that makes you feel good, then go meet them and get to know each other. Yes? Who cares what others think about them, as long as they make you happy. Why do we keep making it so difficult for each other? Why does a man say... women won't date me because I'm a nice guy and I'm not a 10... but, the same man ignores the nice girl who isn’t a 10? It’s nuts. No wonder so many of us are frustrated and single. Regardless of look, location, financial status, whatever... we're all people hoping to find someone to share life with. Right? Can't we find a way to let down the barriers a little? Great post! A perfect relationship doesn't start by finding the perfect person; it starts by seeing an imperfect person perfectly
RecordProducer Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 I think that men tend not to look at relationships as fixer uppers the way women do. We pick a woman who we like then we commit while women tend to look at a man as more of a project. This is why men get mad when women all of a sudden want us to change our ways. We figure that we were good enough at the start so what is the problem now?You know the quote: when a woman marries a man she hopes he'll change; when a man marries a woman he hopes she'll never change.
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