ThsAmericanLife Posted November 20, 2011 Posted November 20, 2011 I guess I figured that having sex with him again would get him to like me again and possibly go back to dating again, or him giving me the second chance i asked for. after the way i left fri night i didnt think i would hear from him, but he texted me last night after he got off work, i was shocked! he asked me if I was still mad at him. I said no im not mad- I mean i am but i really dont have a right to be mad at him, mainly my fault for having sex with him but the part that is his fault is him wanting it also, which i never understand with men, i mean if i dont like a guy i wouldnt have sex with him, why cant men be easier to figure out??? we didnt say much after that, b/c i was trying to have a good time with my friend(girl) and to keep my mind off of the guy! so i wouldnt think about why he keeps texting me and inviting me over, especially since i have met him in May on dating sites he puts that he is looking for a serious relationship and so am I. I mean i strictly wont even give my # or respond to messages from men who just want a fling etc.... im so confused, thank god im going to my therapy session tomm morning! even though they dont give advice! Lots of men (especially the ones online) say they are looking for a serious relationship so that they can get sex... but their actions speak differently though. Some women are so desperate for a relationship that they'll believe any ol hogwash. Sorry to be blunt. He doesn't seem like a guy who is looking for a serious relationship. You decide how long you want to let him string you along though while he may or may not be seeing other women. Seems simple enough to just ask him rather than worry about it though.
TrueColors Posted November 20, 2011 Posted November 20, 2011 I guess I figured that having sex with him again would get him to like me again and possibly go back to dating again This right here, is the problem. You're using sex to get a man tolike you? Do you think this goes the same for respecting you as well?? I don't know what your backstory is, but what exactly did you do that ended your original relationship with this guy? I would ask, what is it about him that you believe makes him "the one" (besides sex). I think you need to decide what exactly you want and value in a partner first before deciding whether this guy is right for you. Because at the moment it sounds like you're just infatuated with him and using him to validate you (4 months does not a "serious" relationship make, IMO). If this is the case, then perhaps it might be best for you to stay away from dating altogether and figure out how to keep yourself busy with other interests other than waiting for men (inc. #1 guy) to call you when you're "bored".
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