spinaroonie Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 90% of the numbers I get from bars & clubs flake. So why do girls give out their numbers if they have no intention of following up? Women are into you in that moment, but when they get home and they're sober, they're in an entirely different emotional state. So when you text or call them a few days later they don't respond. My experience corroborates with the experience of most guys. Every guy I talk to has faced the same thing. A pocketful of flaky numbers. BUT I'm getting numbers. Clearly girls have attraction on some level. So what to do with all these numbers? Strike while the iron is hot. Reconnect later the same night. Get her digits, text her an hour later with a "where are you?" Have a couple more drinks, dance, and take her home. Otherwise you won't see her again. Go for the lay or bust.
ShannonMI Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 (edited) 90% of the numbers I get from bars & clubs flake. So why do girls give out their numbers if they have no intention of following up? Women are into you in that moment, but when they get home and they're sober, they're in an entirely different emotional state. So when you text or call them a few days later they don't respond. My experience corroborates with the experience of most guys. Every guy I talk to has faced the same thing. A pocketful of flaky numbers. BUT I'm getting numbers. Clearly girls have attraction on some level. So what to do with all these numbers? Strike while the iron is hot. Reconnect later the same night. Get her digits, text her an hour later with a "where are you?" Have a couple more drinks, dance, and take her home. Otherwise you won't see her again. Go for the lay or bust. They are DRUNK. And two words....beer goggles. Most of these chicks probably don't even remember you. Try meeting girls in other places. Bars and clubs are the worse places to meet people:rolleyes: Isn't that a no brainer? And don't take advantage of drunk girls, dude. Didn't your mama teach you anything? That's not nice. Edited November 12, 2011 by ShannonMI
Emilia Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Alcohol and drugs change everyone's perspective, it's not exactly a secret
Pyro Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 From my experiences in the past I have learned that some women do it just to be nice. They'd rather go that route rather than say that they are not interested.........aside from the ones who are drunk and forget. I never understood why they just don't say that 'I have a BF'. Keeps it simple and I would take it as them not being interested.
Pyro Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 its her f**king choice to drink. females stand up for other females no mater what they do. 90% of all females flake. trouble getting women I assume.
Author spinaroonie Posted November 12, 2011 Author Posted November 12, 2011 They are DRUNK. And two words....beer goggles. Most of these chicks probably don't even remember you. Try meeting girls in other places. Bars and clubs are the worse places to meet people:rolleyes: Isn't that a no brainer? And don't take advantage of drunk girls, dude. Didn't your mama teach you anything? That's not nice. Girls at bars are drunk as ***k and horny/interested while drunk. Why would you even ask for her number? So you can call her sober? The whole point is to try and leave with her. lol
ShannonMI Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 Girls at bars are drunk as ***k and horny/interested while drunk. Why would you even ask for her number? So you can call her sober? The whole point is to try and leave with her. lol Right the whole point is to take advantage of her when she's wasted. Yeah I get it. You sound like a real nice guy:rolleyes:
Eddie Edirol Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 Theres no point in getting a number at a bar unless youve made a serious connection. And you have to KNOW what that is. When she just gives you her number, it doesnt man she likes you, it usually means she wants to get rid of you. Youre bothering her when shes not attracted to you, and you couldnt pick up on it. As for the sloppy drunk ones, well why would you want a number from a woman whos sloppy drunk?
ShannonMI Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 Theres no point in getting a number at a bar unless youve made a serious connection. And you have to KNOW what that is. When she just gives you her number, it doesnt man she likes you, it usually means she wants to get rid of you. Youre bothering her when shes not attracted to you, and you couldnt pick up on it. As for the sloppy drunk ones, well why would you want a number from a woman whos sloppy drunk? A sloppy drunk is an easy lay. Her defenses are way down and she'll spread much easier. Some guys love that. I think it's pretty gross. Why not try dating a girl who isn't such a drunk ho? I guess the ones you have to get to know and romance a bit to get into their pants aren't worth the time.
USMCHokie Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 A sloppy drunk is an easy lay. Her defenses are way down and she'll spread much easier. Some guys love that. I think it's pretty gross. Why not try dating a girl who isn't such a drunk ho? I guess the ones you have to get to know and romance a bit to get into their pants aren't worth the time. Or...for some guys, these quality girls you have to get to know don't think the guys are worth the time...so they resort to this...
ShannonMI Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 Or...for some guys, these quality girls you have to get to know don't think the guys are worth the time...so they resort to this... Right. I could see that. Gotta get their dicks wet, I know;)
triphopper414 Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 Hmmm, I had have this problem with guys. I think this is true for both men and women. Sometimes we don't really remember all of the people we talk to so when we get a number and we are not sure who it is. We may not pick up or reply because we don't know if you are the nice cute guy or the creep who was following us around all night. I am guilty of this and I am not very proud of it. Sometimes, I will just give my number out to a guy just not to be mean. I know it sucks to be rejected and it does not help that a girl does not reply. Rejection hurts more than just not replying. Fade outs are better than direct embarrassment. I wonder the same thing with men.... Also, they could try to keep you on reserve. Don't let this happen.
NYC-BigKat Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 90% of the numbers I get from bars & clubs flake. So why do girls give out their numbers if they have no intention of following up? Women are into you in that moment, but when they get home and they're sober, they're in an entirely different emotional state. So when you text or call them a few days later they don't respond. My experience corroborates with the experience of most guys. Every guy I talk to has faced the same thing. A pocketful of flaky numbers. BUT I'm getting numbers. Clearly girls have attraction on some level. So what to do with all these numbers? Strike while the iron is hot. Reconnect later the same night. Get her digits, text her an hour later with a "where are you?" Have a couple more drinks, dance, and take her home. Otherwise you won't see her again. Go for the lay or bust. I hardly get #s but my friend does alot & he still cant get a girlfriend the same as I cant. It must be a bar thing & the alcohol involved that makes alot of girls do things they wont do when sober.
Author spinaroonie Posted November 13, 2011 Author Posted November 13, 2011 (edited) bro when I first started clubbing circa 2003-2004 if you got a number chances are she'd follow up and you'd see her again. But that was before texting/Facebook/smartphones. Girls were less flaky then. Girls are flaky as heck now. Took me a while to realize this as I quit the club scene for a while and rejoined recently, but was still operating in the old 90s/early-mid 2000s clubbing paradigm. Sometimes girls gotta leave or their friends pull them away so you get the digits and text later the same night to see if she's DTF. I used to get girls out on Day 2s and smash but I nowadays it's futile. I'm trying to account for why, and it's not necessarily my game but cultural/technological changes that have changed the game. What used to work no longer works. You gotta go for the same night pull. Texting makes this easier rather than calling her in a loud dance club. Edited November 13, 2011 by spinaroonie
Imajerk17 Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 (edited) I don't go to bars very much. I'm not a huge drinker. Also, the odds are sort of against us as guys there, as girls are hit on all the time there. The times that meeting a woman at a bar HAS amounted to something for me, I spent something like 45 minutes hanging out with her. AND the conversation ended on a high note. I had met her friend(s). So of course she usually wanted to see me again--she saw me as a real person instead of "just another guy in a bar"--and in fact, when we hanged out again, it really felt more like a second or third date than a first. Anyway, I couldn't imagine anything coming from a 5-minute interaction in a bar. Do you realize how many other guys she met that night? And the next day, she is wondering how many other girls you talked to. Out of curiosity spinaroonie, why are you posting here? There are some PUA forums where I think you'd be more likely to find what are looking for. Edited November 13, 2011 by Imajerk17
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