fortyninethousand322 Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Why not just pay for it? I'm perfectly serious. It would probably mean less drama for one thing.... Legality for one thing, I'd prefer to not let something like prostitution gum up my career plans. And the other thing is that it goes against what's left of my morality.
aj22one Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Well, I'd prefer a relationship, but I've come to learn that I should take what I can get. Beggars can't be choosers. If sex is all anyone is willing to offer me (or a sex-less relationship, or platonic friendship, etc.) then I should be happy with that. With that kind of confidence it's no wonder you're doing so horribly with women.
AD1980 Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Good post,as someobdy who's shy around strangers and 31 and only hooked up with a women once in my life and she claimed it was because she was drunk its not easy for me to break out of my shell.. Especially since the few times i did approach women they shot me down pretty badly and it crushed my fragile ego even more.. I try to talk myself into approaching but its a huge fear i have i just cant get over yet.. Plus with no sucess at all with women everytime i get rejected it seems like another example to me women arent attracted to me.. If i just had any sucess at all with a women or two i think it would be easier for me to approach because id go into a approach thinking well if she rejecets me so what i know theyres women out there who are attracted to me.. Without sucess at all i dont have that to fall back on in case of rejection..
Disenchantedly Yours Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Whoops. Ah well, if she ever decides to get a sex change, she will be well prepared! Well I am not in the market for a sex change but I was just curious about male pysche and perhaps applying it to my own life in a more feminine way. And yes, you answered my questions nicely. Thank you.
Emilia Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 I notice that I have been going on a lot of dates. But then I notice that I put myself out there a lot. When I am "available", I average about 2 girls a day I approach. I do this during mostly the day as I really don't go to bars very often. I am also meeting girls in my gym (well, box, I do Crossfit). And online. I realized that the only way I will have luck is if I make my own. I am an inherently shy person, but I "make" myself talk to people. I'm not perfect or a superstud by any means, but I learn from every interaction. AND I work out (I'm only 5'8" with a more slender build so the extra muscle helps), and when I am out I make it a point to dress nicely. It all helps. Anyway, there are a lot of bitter dudes on here who strike me as whiny and creepy. You know who you are. Maybe you would have more success with women if you would take some responsibility. Congratulations. I usually read your posts when I'm looking to understand rational male perspective
counterman Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 You do Crossfit? That's pretty awesome! I've seen some videos of what those people do, pretty amazing. Great post; you do really have to put yourself out there, to meet girls and to get dates. A lot of guys who start approaching girls pull up the courage to do so, and when it "fails" (as in they don't get a number or a date out of it), they automatically crawl back in their shells. But, bare in mind, you've already gone further because you've approached compared to if you've done nothing. You won't always get something out of it. Plus, for me, it's a funny situation if I do get blown off
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