Imajerk17 Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 (edited) I notice that I have been going on a lot of dates. But then I notice that I put myself out there a lot. When I am "available", I average about 2 girls a day I approach. I do this during mostly the day as I really don't go to bars very often. I am also meeting girls in my gym (well, box, I do Crossfit). And online. I realized that the only way I will have luck is if I make my own. I am an inherently shy person, but I "make" myself talk to people. I'm not perfect or a superstud by any means, but I learn from every interaction. AND I work out (I'm only 5'8" with a more slender build so the extra muscle helps), and when I am out I make it a point to dress nicely. It all helps. Anyway, there are a lot of bitter dudes on here who strike me as whiny and creepy. You know who you are. Maybe you would have more success with women if you would take some responsibility. Edited November 12, 2011 by Imajerk17
fortyninethousand322 Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 What exactly are you trying to say?
Author Imajerk17 Posted November 12, 2011 Author Posted November 12, 2011 I've also made it a point to study the guys who are successful with women, the type of guys whom everyone seems to like. It's all about the vibe these guys give off. These guys are confident and don't take things too seriously. I had to get these characteristics in myself because (to be perfectly frank) I can come across as intense and needy. I'm NOT out there to become a womanizer. I've been in relationships and I have NEVER cheated. Yes, even when I was tempted. I just couldn't live with myself if I did. I want a great woman. Anyway, 2 more cents...
Author Imajerk17 Posted November 12, 2011 Author Posted November 12, 2011 What exactly are you trying to say? Stop whining and take some responsibility for your lack of success with women. If I can do it, so can you.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Imajerk, how do you "make" yourself talk to people when you're inherently shy? This is pretty fascinating to because I tend to be shy in certain situations myself.Also, the women you approach, do they give off signals before hand for you to approach or do you just talk to anyone and see how it goes? It goes to show that attitude affects alot in our own personal lives. Thanks for sharing your experiences!
ShannonMI Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 I notice that I have been going on a lot of dates. But then I notice that I put myself out there a lot. When I am "available", I average about 2 girls a day I approach. I do this during mostly the day as I really don't go to bars very often. I am also meeting girls in my gym (well, box, I do Crossfit). And online. I realized that the only way I will have luck is if I make my own. I am an inherently shy person, but I "make" myself talk to people. I'm not perfect or a superstud by any means, but I learn from every interaction. AND I work out (I'm only 5'8" with a more slender build so the extra muscle helps), and when I am out I make it a point to dress nicely. It all helps. Anyway, there are a lot of bitter dudes on here who strike me as whiny and creepy. You know who you are. Maybe you would have more success with women if you would take some responsibility. Are we having a bad day, Jerk? Lets not start a fight here on LS about bitter boys. Yes, they know who they are. What's the reason for this thread?
fortyninethousand322 Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Stop whining and take some responsibility for your lack of success with women. If I can do it, so can you. Well I'm not going to approach random women. Just not going to happen. I've kind of toned down the whining though. I'm kind of banking on the desperate women being available by the time I'm 35 or so.
ShannonMI Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Well I'm not going to approach random women. Just not going to happen. I've kind of toned down the whining though. I'm kind of banking on the desperate women being available by the time I'm 35 or so. Great avatar:p
fortyninethousand322 Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Great avatar:p It's the greatest album cover of all time.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Are we having a bad day, Jerk? Lets not start a fight here on LS about bitter boys. Yes, they know who they are. What's the reason for this thread? I think he started it to show some of the guys on here that there other ways then can live and be happy and take some responsiblity for themselves. And I'm glad he did.
ShannonMI Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 It's the greatest album cover of all time. Ahhhhh Metallica? I think?
ShannonMI Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 I think he started it to show some of the guys on here that there other ways then can live and be happy and take some responsiblity for themselves. And I'm glad he did. Yes it's good he decided to do that, but you know how the bitter boys are here on LS. They will fight about this one. Oh well.
fortyninethousand322 Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Ahhhhh Metallica? I think? Nah. "Smell the Glove" by Spinal Tap.
Author Imajerk17 Posted November 12, 2011 Author Posted November 12, 2011 Imajerk, how do you "make" yourself talk to people when you're inherently shy? This is pretty fascinating to because I tend to be shy in certain situations myself.Also, the women you approach, do they give off signals before hand for you to approach or do you just talk to anyone and see how it goes? It goes to show that attitude affects alot in our own personal lives. Thanks for sharing your experiences! Great questions! (1) How do I "make" myself talk to people? Well, just do it. You ever "make" yourself go to the gym when you don't feel like it? Same thing here. Just move your feet and your mouth anyway. It's like working out a muscle. You have to do something that feels weird and uncomfortable at first. Here is a good start: I think of something to say, and then I say it. Sometimes they respond favorably and I am in a conversation. I usually make a comment about the environment. Example, this morning in the supermarket, walking past the bakery section: "I really am trying to eat healthy, but seeing all of these cookies makes it hard...". The first time I tried this, it took me a good 15 minutes to work up the nerve. (The woman was shopping for shoes so she was there herself for a while.) I went over to her and shaking, told her that I liked her style. She blew me off (nicely), but I realized that there really was nothing to be afraid of! And it is a rush.... Did this answer your question? (2) Do the women usually give off signals? Usually not. She's busy thinking of what she is getting for dinner. She won't be thinking of you until you make your presence known.
ShannonMI Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Nah. "Smell the Glove" by Spinal Tap. Hahahahahahaha love that movie. Lick my love pump:lmao:
Author Imajerk17 Posted November 12, 2011 Author Posted November 12, 2011 Are we having a bad day, Jerk? Lets not start a fight here on LS about bitter boys. Yes, they know who they are. What's the reason for this thread? LOL. I'm just hoping there's a few guys on here (like Disenchanted) who really want better results and are willing to do what it takes to get it. Maybe I can do something to help...
Author Imajerk17 Posted November 12, 2011 Author Posted November 12, 2011 Well I'm not going to approach random women. Just not going to happen. I've kind of toned down the whining though. I'm kind of banking on the desperate women being available by the time I'm 35 or so. Your decision bro.
ShannonMI Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 LOL. I'm just hoping there's a few guys on here (like Disenchanted) who really want better results and are willing to do what it takes to get it. Maybe I can do something to help... Disenchanted is a girl, but I hear what you're saying;)
Author Imajerk17 Posted November 12, 2011 Author Posted November 12, 2011 Your decision bro. I can tell you that it isn't likely to happen. Older women are just as fussy.
Author Imajerk17 Posted November 12, 2011 Author Posted November 12, 2011 Disenchanted is a girl, but I hear what you're saying;) Whoops. Ah well, if she ever decides to get a sex change, she will be well prepared!
fortyninethousand322 Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 I can tell you that it isn't likely to happen. Older women are just as fussy. Even ones with kids, or "unattractive" ones? Or women with the infamous "running biological clocks"?
Author Imajerk17 Posted November 12, 2011 Author Posted November 12, 2011 Even ones with kids, or "unattractive" ones? Or women with the infamous "running biological clocks"? Well, if you want to get yourself into a situation that does not work for you, all for some sex (which is what it sounds that you are going for), then go ahead. Women with the infamous "running biological clocks" tend to be even LESS likely to give you a shot. Why would they--they really feel that time is short and they don't have the time to do so.
Negative Nancy Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 I've been in relationships and I have NEVER cheated. Yes, even when I was tempted. How could you have been tempted if you really loved the woman or if she was so"great"?
fortyninethousand322 Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Well, if you want to get yourself into a situation that does not work for you, all for some sex (which is what it sounds that you are going for), then go ahead. Women with the infamous "running biological clocks" tend to be even LESS likely to give you a shot. Why would they--they really feel that time is short and they don't have the time to do so. Well, I'd prefer a relationship, but I've come to learn that I should take what I can get. Beggars can't be choosers. If sex is all anyone is willing to offer me (or a sex-less relationship, or platonic friendship, etc.) then I should be happy with that.
Author Imajerk17 Posted November 12, 2011 Author Posted November 12, 2011 Well, I'd prefer a relationship, but I've come to learn that I should take what I can get. Beggars can't be choosers. If sex is all anyone is willing to offer me (or a sex-less relationship, or platonic friendship, etc.) then I should be happy with that. Why not just pay for it? I'm perfectly serious. It would probably mean less drama for you, for one thing....
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