Rimer Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Been 9 weeks since the break up. I'm still a mess but not as bad as before. On Anti-D. I'm still in contact with my ex. She wanted a timeout to say of the relationship of 8½ years. Were broken up but she still assures me we got a chance if things change. Yet she wants to keep weekly contact to talk about everyday kinda stuff but nothing regarding us as she told me she'll tell me when she's ready to talk about that stuff. Also she doesn't want to do any activities together before she's ready. What's a guy to do. I'm in NC but she keeps contact but doesn't want anything involving us yet. She's pretty much going threw a crisis of her own because we were so young when we started out. Yet she hasn't hooked up with any guy in the 9 weeks and telling me she still has feelings for me but she needs her space now yet keeps contact weekly. Driving me crazy here.. Yet I can't contact her.
Awarth Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Dude..gosh..kind of the same situation with my ex of 5 yrs..she says she want some space, then after a month later, she broke up with me for another guy..i really hope that you will have a different situation here and she really comes back after her "time out"..but i am suggesting that you prepare for the worst..
Jono85 Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 i'm sorry but i wouldn't agree to this. it's bullsh*t. you're broken up now, do you think if she was sleeping with another guy, she would actually tell you?? she wouldn't want to crush you. but more importantly, she could just be doing this and using you before she's strong enough to let go completely. ur like a drug to her, that she was on for 9 years or whatever. to cut cold turkey is very hard. so she broke up with you and depicts a future of change and a stronger relationship blah blah blah when in actual fact she doesn't want to be with you but needs you every now and then to comfort her as she's all alone. screw this man...if i were u, i would tell her "i can't do this anymore. u wanted to break up with me, and that's not what i want at all. i cannot be friends with you right now i need to start moving on if u don't want to be together." and you have to be firm. don't cave even if she starts crying etc...of course she will hate it and be emotional b/c she knows she needs your comfort, even though she doesn't want to be with you. she's having her cake and eating it too. it's been 9 weeks bud...put ur foot down.
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