Awarth Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Just a quick qns, if a girl who have broken up wif you for 2 months calls you one night and tells you that she is a horrible girl and you are a great guy and u dont deserve this treatment, what does this mean? guilt?
silly_panda Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Many reasons... First of all, was she drunk..? And what's her intention in telling all these..? It could be she is currently messed up in whatever she is doing and regreting it... It could also be she is playing mind games and even trying to ease her own guilt... Whatever it is, don't let it affect you and carry on with what you are doing...
Author Awarth Posted November 12, 2011 Author Posted November 12, 2011 I dont think she is drunk, and i know she left me for some guy, so u tink it is just guilt? i am trying very hard not to read too deep into this..
Glynnroy123 Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Just a quick qns, if a girl who have broken up wif you for 2 months calls you one night and tells you that she is a horrible girl and you are a great guy and u dont deserve this treatment, what does this mean? guilt? Could mean a few things .. Could be she s feeling guilty about some thing and wants your sympathy , or she's maybe trying to get with you by being nice so you say " no your not you a great girl " then you strike up a conversation .. Could be she wants you to be happy and wants you to know .. Sounds like to me she s resized what she had and dropped a clanger... !!!
smokey bear Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Smells like regret. One of this things i learned was active listening. Actually listen to what she is saying. "if a girl who have broken up wif you for 2 months calls you one night and tells you that she is a horrible girl and you are a great guy and u dont deserve this treatment, what does this mean? guilt?" She thinks she is a horrible girl. She is not happy with her actions or who she is right now. Your a great guy. She thinks your a great guy. You dont deserve this treatment. She thinks she treated you badly. To me it sounds like regret. It doesnt mean that she wants to get back together but. There was no mention of that. She may have had to get it off her chest to feel better. Or she may be voicing whats going on in her head. At which point she isnt at the stage of moving forward. The penny has just dropped or the fog has lifted to reveal the true world. But thats as far as shes at.
Eddie Edirol Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 She might be feeling guilty if she never told you the real reason she broke it off. maybe she feels guilty that she left you in the dark. If shes left you for another guy, its pretty common that she would lie about it.
Author Awarth Posted November 12, 2011 Author Posted November 12, 2011 I see..hmm..but she told me in the face that she had fallen for another guy on the day we broke up..so i already know..so i guess regret is the most probable reason then.. so what should i do nuw? maintain NC? i do want to get back together wif her, but i know that i could not push for these type of things..we been together for 5 yrs..so shd i just NC until she finally realize wat she had done and calls me again?
silly_panda Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Most people will tell you to keep NC til your ex calls you and let her current relationship run it's course... This will save you a lot of heartache and frustration... For me, I think LC works too... But there is a possibility that you will find out things that's hard for you to accept and it may will hurt you... But take it this way, if you do ever get her back, she will still tell you what she had done with the other guy or you will wanna know what she did rite..? So it's the same thing... So it's better to know what she had done now and you can think about it and decide whether you can still accept her... If you feel that you can't, then it's better to move on now than wasting your time trying to get her back now... I hope what I said is not confusing...
Author Awarth Posted November 12, 2011 Author Posted November 12, 2011 Most people will tell you to keep NC til your ex calls you and let her current relationship run it's course... This will save you a lot of heartache and frustration... For me, I think LC works too... But there is a possibility that you will find out things that's hard for you to accept and it may will hurt you... But take it this way, if you do ever get her back, she will still tell you what she had done with the other guy or you will wanna know what she did rite..? So it's the same thing... So it's better to know what she had done now and you can think about it and decide whether you can still accept her... If you feel that you can't, then it's better to move on now than wasting your time trying to get her back now... I hope what I said is not confusing... Nar, its not confusing, in fact, i kinda already saw my ex goes into that guy's dorm room once..so i am already expecting the worst..i can't say that i am not angry but since she had orendi broken up wif me, in theory she had done nth wrong sleeping wif other guys...so i tink i can accept it.. but that's a bit far down the road i guess..But thanks anyway! it really helps~
silly_panda Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Alrite... I guess you know what to do... Good luck man...
Eddie Edirol Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 She told you she fell for him after you broke up, but she was looking at him loooooong before you broke up. She just had to make sure that he was gonna be with her before breaking it off with you. So you maintain NC, cut her of completely, and forget about her. Dont worry about getting her back, most people dont move backwards, and you dont want them if they do. Since youre college aged, she wants to play the field, so youre way out of the running for her. Dont wait for her, and dont let her think that she can have you as friends in the meantime. If her new relationship doesnt work out, there will probably be another guy that will entertain her, but she most likely wont be looking for you by then. If she lost her attraction to you, it wont come back 100% unless she sees you totally changed and with other women first. You wont want her back by then anyway. BTW when she gets lonely she will keep calling. it wont do you any god to answer the phone, so you might as well close the door in her face, and dont answer. You think you have a chance but you dont. If she wants to try again, she can leave you a message with some kind of clue in it.
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