skyle Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Okay just a quick question, my ex knows I want to get back with her and how I feel. But I don't know what she feels to be honest..anyway I'm meeting her later today just to catch up but I don't know whether to bring up 'us' in a casual way, or do I just try and have a really good laugh and a good time with her? Any advice will do!
silly_panda Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Don't bring it up unless she brings it up first... You don't know how she feels and it's not a good thing to talk about past relationship at this stage... And, keep in mind there is no 'us'... It's 'you and me'... She already knew you wan her back... So don't push her or anything... Just have a good time with her will do... At the same time, look for any body language that she is showing and listen carefully to what she says... You will know how she feels if you really observe... Good luck...
Author skyle Posted November 12, 2011 Author Posted November 12, 2011 Well she said before that she just wanted to be friends with me and didn't want a relationship. We were together for 14 months. But the last few times I have seen her, she's still all touchy feely...I stayed at hers one night a couple weeks ago and nothing happened but i hugged her in bed laying next to her with my our hands holding. Yet she's adamant she doesn't want to be with me she says.
wilsonx Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 you cancel it and let it go i want you to ask your self what if she said, ok lets try again! how would you act? what would you do if you found out she was sleeping and texting another guy while you 2 were back together
Author skyle Posted November 12, 2011 Author Posted November 12, 2011 I'm not expecting anything at this stage to be honest. Just gonna go and have a good time with her.
wilsonx Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 thats a lie.... Rule #1 dont ever lie to yourself 14 months of being with someone... you can't just not expect anything... and pretend to just be friends
Author skyle Posted November 12, 2011 Author Posted November 12, 2011 I'm not pretending. I've told her that I don't want to be just friends. She knows that, but I'm not gonna bring up anything heavy today with her.
wilsonx Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 I'm not pretending. I've told her that I don't want to be just friends. She knows that, but I'm not gonna bring up anything heavy today with her. Then why are you meeting up with her? Seriously? You set a boundary, but it means nothing because you are not enforcing it and shes going to crash right through it
wilsonx Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Nothing is going to happen, because you aren't enforcing your boundaries. You are sacrificing your self so that she can get what she wants, your friendship. People that say dont talk about the past relationship are idiots. You communicate your wants, if she doesnt agree, you walk. Its that simple Shes probably going to sleep with you and f up your head more
EgoJoe Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 I'm halfway with Wilson. Powerplay on her and cancel. Get your head right.
Author skyle Posted November 12, 2011 Author Posted November 12, 2011 Yeah I understand, that's why I am meeting her today. To talk to her face to face, as all this was said before through text messaging. I know she's different face to face.
EgoJoe Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Meeting up with her when you're torn and confused is a bad idea.
Author skyle Posted November 12, 2011 Author Posted November 12, 2011 Nah I'm not torn or confused. I know what I want, and I will say it to her. But I wanted advice on how to say it..
EgoJoe Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Ok. Carry on with what you were going to do.
ffw Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 I'm 19 and she's 18. Ok. Carry on with what you were going to do. Yes, you are going to learn through your life experiences. Sometimes it takes crash & burn to learn a lesson. That being said, the Important thing is learn from past & not to repeat the same mistakes in the future. GD.
Author skyle Posted November 14, 2011 Author Posted November 14, 2011 Well we hung out and had a good time, went shopping and was just like old times. Then went back to her house and was chatting to her parents exactly like before. Then the next day she text me asking to meet me to say bye before she went to uni and we met, hugged and said I smelt good and that was it
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