Desensitized Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Hey Everyone, So I just got done seeing the movie Friends with Benefits and it really made me want to be friends with my ex. Not for the whole sex part, but because I don't want us to be strangers to each other. Maybe send her an occasional 'hi' every so often. I don't know. The fact that she was such a big part of my life at some point isn't something you can just throw away, is it? I don't want to get back together with her; I don't feel any emotions for her, but maybe I'm just feeling overly confident that I can handle being her friends because I watched this movie, but in reality, I can't? I called her twice and I sent her a message telling her that I am ready to be friends, but still no response, which is fine considering I sent it not to long ago. I guess my only concern is, what if she responds saying that she does want to be friends? What if I can't really handle it? I tend to do stupid **** when I'm tired, which I am, and I don't want to be a di*k and be like, "oh, sorry. I was really tired and I was feeling overly confident about my feelings and I thought I could control them. I was wrong. Sorry." Or just not even respond. I'm not sad or anything, so I'm not venting about anything. It's just this movie just really made me miss her friendship. Sigh... I need to stop acting out of emotion.
Lobouspo Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Are you sure you are completely over this woman? At some level do you want to be friends to keep the door open to getting back together?...if she has moved on and is dating or in a relationship is that something you really want to know without at least a tinge of sadness? I have never understood people who stay friends with exes unless kids are involved...just seems like it prevents one from truly letting go and moving on with their life. I remember going to lunch a couple of times with my exGF after we broke up. Was just an awkward uneasy feeling that brought a wave of conflicting emotions...just my experience though...i cant do it, but to each his own
Author Desensitized Posted November 12, 2011 Author Posted November 12, 2011 Well, she didn't reply. But I guess it's for the best. I was just being stupid last night. On the other hand, I feel good! I'm not down and I actually feel liberated that I at least tried to rekindle our friendship. She's probably moved on, and good for her! I know I'm not ready to move on, but I don't mind. I'm perfectly content being single.
Lobouspo Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Good for you OP...probably for the best she did not contact you...As you probably already know, there are some excellent threads on here regarding NC that really help with the "moving on" process. They have really helped me and given me some good insight
ErgoStep Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 Sounds like a happy ending. Relationships go forward until they end. And a clean ending is usually best.
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