othersideofthepillow Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 Women, I was doing some reading about Sex With Your Ex and came across some findings. The research I found said that if you are a man who dumped his GF, the GF SHOULD NOT sleep with her ex if she actually wants another shot to have a relationship together, and that if a woman dumped her BF, and he wants her back, that he SHOULD SLEEP with her as soon as possible. So woman, if you dump a man and you end up having sex again soon after the break up does that make you want to get back with him MORE or LESS?
ChelseaLS Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 Where did you read this? I am a firm believer in not having sex with the ex unless it's reconciliation.
Author othersideofthepillow Posted November 11, 2011 Author Posted November 11, 2011 I share the same view of it that you do. As tempting as it can be I cant see how giving the woman that just broke your heart something that was once special for the two of you as a couple. I was looking online to see if any one got their ex back after sex and one male relationship expert said you need to as soon as possible if you want her back so im just interested if women share his viewpoint.
norajane Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 If I just dumped someone, why would I even consider sex with him? I dumped him for a reason - presumably I wanted him OUT of my life. No way would I be letting him in my bed.
ChelseaLS Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 If I just dumped someone, why would I even consider sex with him? I dumped him for a reason - presumably I wanted him OUT of my life. No way would I be letting him in my bed. Well thats not always the case. My ex still wants to have sex with me (he has tried to lead it that way) and I if I wasn't smart enough, would jump his bones. Sexual attraction is still there. Not all breaks are because the sexual attraction is gone.
norajane Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Well thats not always the case. My ex still wants to have sex with me (he has tried to lead it that way) and I if I wasn't smart enough, would jump his bones. Sexual attraction is still there. Not all breaks are because the sexual attraction is gone. It doesn't matter if the sexual attraction is still there. OR the love. OR the whatever brought you together in the first place. When you dump people, you are choosing to get them OUT of your life, for whatever reason. Sex, after that, is just going to lead you right back to the dumping place again, sooner or later.
Author othersideofthepillow Posted November 12, 2011 Author Posted November 12, 2011 my ex used to bring up having sex all the time (no idea if she still wants to at all anymore). i still find my ex extremely sexually attractive regardless of if she see's me in that way. would having sex with your ex make you realize that you still wanted to be with him at all?
Tayla Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 It doesn't matter if the sexual attraction is still there. OR the love. OR the whatever brought you together in the first place. When you dump people, you are choosing to get them OUT of your life, for whatever reason. Sex, after that, is just going to lead you right back to the dumping place again, sooner or later. I agree 100%. A decisive decision to end it is just that- to end it. There is no left over matters to remain...done is done.
ChelseaLS Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 It doesn't matter if the sexual attraction is still there. OR the love. OR the whatever brought you together in the first place. When you dump people, you are choosing to get them OUT of your life, for whatever reason. Sex, after that, is just going to lead you right back to the dumping place again, sooner or later. I never said you SHOULD have sex... I said I am STILL and so is my ex, sexually attracted to each other... thats all I said. I think its a terrible idea to sleep with your ex.
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