shawn923 Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 Ok so my ex, the dumper texts me and wishes me a happy anniversary today. I had been NC on her for about a month before we last spoke. Ive initiated NC about 10 times on her, all broken by her each time. I also go to the same college campus as her, and seeing her at school and getting use to ignoring her has been a breeze for me lately. Anyways, today (as i expected) she texts me and wishes me a happy anniversary. I'll post the entire text conve here, and I just wanna know some of ur guys' feedback. Whether i handled it well, or what i couldve done differently. I will bold all my texts sent from me Her- today wouldve been our 1year anniversary Me- Yea i know i remembered... Me too Yea... I cant believe its been a yr already I know right, so fast How have u been Good how about you Good as well. I thought u forgot about this day... Never Never huh? It woulda been better if it was today, 11/11/11 What would you have done to celebrate our anniversary? Well idk... But if u know me then it woulda been something big and unexpected. oh well... Yes it would have been. (10 mins later) You were pretty clever. Duh clever is my middle name... Guess i wasnt clever enough Lol! Nah you were very clever Well obviously I was missing something You were missing how to act with me I guess. Its all good. Its all good? Yea i mean i guess i didnt know how to act with you. Cant do nothin about that now You can How Idk Shawn Me neither :/ I mean are you happy? Yes. But i have my moments Then were fine... Moments dont mean anything Yes they do U tell me what u think it means then. Why do u have moments U dont have moments? I dont forget u. But im fine how we are and happy Wow ok (hour later) Well happy 1yr anniversary! Wish you the best Ditto... P.S. I put this in the second chances section because it is deep down what i WANT, not expect.
othersideofthepillow Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 Hey man after reading your post i wished i was able to have said that kind of stuff to my ex when we had a similar conversation. You handled it perfectly until this: I dont forget u. But im fine how we are and happy To me, the text she sent you beforehand was something that she wanted you to respond with something of meaning....like you wanted to get back together or broach the subject of it. I think that since you want another chance (as do i with my ex) that when you hear from her again that you remain firm (like in this convo) but when the situation comes up to have a kind remark....give it to her - woman still love when a man compliments them.
Author shawn923 Posted November 12, 2011 Author Posted November 12, 2011 K i see what u mean. Its just that ive told her hundreds of times before i wanted to be with her, she clearly knows that. Shes also told me she wanted ti be with me many times as well and still loves me, yet when i ask for a relationship she says no and makes up phony excuses. And it pisses me off and hurts me. So this time, i just didnt wanna feed her ego. Because before letting her know i loved her and missed her and wanted to try again got me nowhere.
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