Lobouspo Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 Am i missing out on opportunities meeting women? I have always liked to be kind of anonymous and i definitely value my privacy. When i tell people i dont do facebook they look at me like im crazy. I also have a job with security clearance which makes it conducive to remain anonymous, and i really dont want certain people from my past discovering me. I have also heard horror stories of facebook ruining relationships and regular friendships...what are your thoughts?
zengirl Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 Maybe some, if you're young. It's a good way for people you meet out and about to get in touch with you and build up rapport in a somewhat communal (online communal) setting, and I've seen many relationships come from that. But I don't think it cripples you or anything, so do whatever is best for you.
FitChick Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 With all the problems associated with Facebook (plenty of them on this forum), I only created a fake, empty profile just so I could read other Facebook public pages.
shayla Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 Facebook destroyed my relationship. But then Facebook put me in touch with most of my family and I was able to lean on them as my father was dying a few months later, so it was truly a blessing. Facebook is good and bad at the same time...hmmm
Nexus One Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 I have also heard horror stories of facebook ruining relationships and regular friendships...what are your thoughts? I don't have a Facebook account either and it's quite possible that that means I miss out on opportunities, since I know people who know A LOT of people, but I never cared for Facebook. And yeah, a study among divorce lawyers has revealed that 1/3rd of today's divorces is over something that has been said or discovered via Facebook. So it's having a major impact on people's relationships. So in my opinion it's a two way street. Facebook can potentially be useful for single people, but it can also be damaging for people who are already in a relationship.
OneFootOut Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 I think FB is a great way to socialize. It sure beats bars and nightclubs if you are not into that scene. However, I think that because I am single and unattached. If I had a mate, I would not spend my time on FB or anywhere else online, but spend it with him, or just doing the everyday things to maintain a relationship and home. I've seen first-hand some marriages crumble because of one or the other spending too much time on FB. It gets to the point of alienating the mate, and ending up in 'emotional affairs' with people online which is considered cheating by many. Anything you do that takes quality time, affection, attention, and trust from your mate will kill a relationship. I don't think you are 'missing' anything, especially if you already have a social life. That's all it is - another social outlet and option.
daphne Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 I don't think your'e missing much, and I'm on fb. I don't think fb is responsible for ruining relationships. I think it's a forum where stupid people get caught being faithless. For that, I'm all for fb revealing faithless behavior.
Star Gazer Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 I'm a pretty regular FB user, and most of my friends are as well. It's often how we plan get togethers or events: "Who's up for happy hour tonight?" or "Bridge School concert, who's in/who's driving?" kind of thing. If I wasn't using it, I think I'd miss out on a TON socially... and dare I say, you might be too. That said, when it comes to dating, I don't think you're missing out on much. I don't meet men through FB, and wouldn't welcome such advances anyway. I also don't add guys I'm dating my FB until we're pretty serious... so until he's BF-status, it's almost as though he doesn't have a FB, to me, anyway.
colliejoanie Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 For me, it really is how I keep in touch with people. It's my social outlet. I'm a single mom, go to school full time where I'm surrounded by people 15 years younger, and work with elderly people. I don't go out, so for me its a good thing. I've never used it for dating. Solely to catch up with high school friends (I live 2500 miles from my home town) or family.
Pyro Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 I'm a pretty regular FB user, and most of my friends are as well. It's often how we plan get togethers or events: "Who's up for happy hour tonight?" or "Bridge School concert, who's in/who's driving?" kind of thing. If I wasn't using it, I think I'd miss out on a TON socially... and dare I say, you might be too. That said, when it comes to dating, I don't think you're missing out on much. I don't meet men through FB, and wouldn't welcome such advances anyway. I also don't add guys I'm dating my FB until we're pretty serious... so until he's BF-status, it's almost as though he doesn't have a FB, to me, anyway. that and I was able to reconnect with people whom I had lost contact with over the years. Seems as though those who are most against FB are probably the ones with the least amount of friends;) I too do not recommend using FB as a dating site. There are many better places online for that.
Star Gazer Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Seems as though those who are most against FB are probably the ones with the least amount of friends;) In my social circle, the ones without a FB (very few) usually have something to hide (like multiple girlfriends).
betterdeal Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 You're missing out on and endless stream of pictures of other people's babies. So it's a bit like a series of photos of Winston Churchill in a nappy.
Survivor12 Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 "All these people that are into FB who think it's some sort of great thing...is dumb." In fact, although I do appreciate the value of FB, I am far from dumb. Since opening an account nearly 3 years ago, I have found it to be a great way to keep in touch with family and friends and reconnect with people I haven't been in contact with for many years. (As a matter of fact, I have plans tonight with a woman who was a good friend of mine when we were in HS--and with whom I renewed our friendship via FB 35 yrs later). I also enjoy staying connected to many of the kids who I watched grow up with my son as they get married and start families of their own. I have set relatively stringent privacy settings, do not request or accept people as friends who I do not know or do not care to share details about my "personal" life. I also limit what I do "put out there" and do not engage in political, religious or otherwise controversial topics. I don't share info about my job, my friends or my "problems" (although I may occasionally make mention of a particular interesting or funny experience or insight that is general in nature). I do offer congratulations, birthday wishes, condolences and encouragement when moved to do so, but I have never asked (or answered) a personal question publicly. So far, I have had very few bad experiences on or because of FB. I did find it necessary to delete 1 person who used FB as a way to publish her stream of consciousness (adding over 200 comments to her own status update in one sitting) & attempted to garner attention one evening by pretending to be suicidal (she wasn't) after learning that her drug addiction was the cause of her insane rambling. (Less than 2 hrs later, she was back acting like it had never happened.) So, as I see it, it's all in how you choose to use the medium. For me, it's been a positive experience.
OliveOyl Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 The games on FB are fun. I've recently gotten into Cityville and Gardens of Time I showed my BF FB (haha) mainly to show him the games. But he still doesn't have a FB page and not sure I would recommend it for him. He is in his early 50s so it's not a social requirement for him like it is for a lot of younger folk.
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