Stilnaught Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 Hello all, i've been around here for a while, pondering every word of my ex and mixing it with all the experiences & knowledge down here. We've been together for 2 years and some weeks. Both being in our early 20s, we were each others first great love. The first in everything, etc. Now she broke up because of a pile of issues. Most of them really stupid things that could be easily amended by adapting and leaving a bit freedom. But at our age, with our experience, it did not work out. She's the best girl i've ever seen. I've always been kind of an over-ethical guy when it comes to relationship and intimacy. I've really waited 'til i found this little lump of gold ... Therefore, it definately hurts as hell to see her go. She now wants to be young, fix her issues and take a look around before she commits herself again. She might end up with someone else though, as a pretty girl like her has no lack of attention. Now, i want her back. I guess this will take a lot of time since we both have to set a lot of personal things straight. We're still best friends at this moment, NC/LC would be impossible because of our deep involvement and the fact that we will see each other often at college. My opinion in this situation is that i am absolutely without power at this moment. However, as we did not have a single lethal issue between us, i do believe that love could be rekindled. Therefore, i was wondering if anyone has experience with fixing their personal life, and in the meanwhile offering your ex a window on it. What i mean: improve yourself, work out, ace at college, be kind, have the time of your life ... but forcing her to look at it from the sideline. Staying in touch, and make these improvements obvious in your conversations. I'm not morbidly trying to cling to her. However, i need to boost myself anyway, and i do think a second chance could work fine. That's why i think i can put the situation in 1 sentence: i'm going to work on becoming the man we both wanted me to be. However, i'm also going to walk on a thin line i'm afraid. Keeping her as a very good friend, but "secretly" flooding her with my improvements, my good life, and still showing her that the memories of us together still touch my heart. Is there anyone down here who has experience with such a situation, trying to get an ex back while keeping contact and turning yourself in a better man?
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