spinaroonie Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 Why would two girls just go out for the night on their own? To stare at each other's faces the entire night? Girls in pairs are obviously looking to meet men. The catch is you're not going to isolate the girl you want - she won't ditch her friend and let her be alone, so a competent wingman is key. The catch is your game is only as good as your wingman's. I've had many approaches blown where the girl was very into me, but was pulled away by the friend because my wingman couldn't hold court with the other girl. If you can isolate your girl and your wingman his, and you both run tight game, you're money. Want to get the input of the ladies/gents on this forum. Ladies - why do you go out to bars & clubs with just one other girlfriend? Gents - what's been your experience in pulling girls in pairs?
oaks Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 Girls in pairs are obviously looking to meet men. I'm not even sure that it's correct to say that they are, let alone that it's obvious that they are. Why do you say it's obvious? Can't two girls who are friends go out for dinner / drinks / gossip / music / dancing and generally catching up as friends etc without looking to meet men? Does it mean that every girl in a pair of girls is either single or looking to cheat?
Author spinaroonie Posted November 11, 2011 Author Posted November 11, 2011 I know a lot of men here struggle to meet women so I will add one caveat. In my experience, approaching girls in large groups is a complete waste of time. These are the ones on a "girls night out" there to "just dance". Every guy that approaches them is a "creeper". To successfully approach a girl you have to win over the ENTIRE HERD of friends or you WILL get stymied before you can try to get one alone. Many of these girls are there to just hang with their girls/social circle and take pictures for Facebook. Most girls in large groups are not there to meet new men. If they want to have sex they'll booty-text their FB/FWB at the end of the night after getting their attention/validation fix for the night. Approaching these large groups is a suicide mission for most guys. Don't waste your time.
Author spinaroonie Posted November 11, 2011 Author Posted November 11, 2011 I'm not even sure that it's correct to say that they are, let alone that it's obvious that they are. Why do you say it's obvious? Can't two girls who are friends go out for dinner / drinks / gossip / music / dancing and generally catching up as friends etc without looking to meet men? Does it mean that every girl in a pair of girls is either single or looking to cheat? I'm not talking about casual after-hours type lounges. I'm talking about meat market venues that open late at night. If you're going out to clubs from 11PM*onwards...EXPECT*it, why would you have girl time at 11PM + in a loud bar. Sorry to break it to ya, but I do on a weekly basis. Women will always be up for chatting with the right guy, even if it's a "girl's night".
oaks Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 I'm not talking about casual after-hours type lounges. I'm talking about meat market venues that open late at night. If you're going out to clubs from 11PM*onwards...EXPECT*it, why would you have girl time at 11PM + in a loud bar. Sorry to break it to ya, but I do on a weekly basis. Women will always be up for chatting with the right guy, even if it's a "girl's night". So they're all single? Married women or women with boyfriends can't go clubbing? Or they're all looking to cheat? Sure, people go to clubs to meet and socialise with attractive people of the opposite sex, but I don't think it's "obviously" the motivation, or that it's the only motivation, or that girls do this quite as single-mindedly as you seem to think.
bac Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 (edited) Want to get the input of the ladies on this forum. Ladies - why do you go out to bars & clubs with just one other girlfriend? Gents - what's been your experience in pulling girls in pairs? I go to bars to find a man. It does not mean that I am looking for a ONS. Girls will be happy to get your attention in bars and they love the attention from good-looking men. You do not have to pull girls in pairs. If a girl likes you, she will help you to make a connection. Go with flow and match the situation. Do not assume that all girls in bars are ....... like men are. Edited November 11, 2011 by bac
Author spinaroonie Posted November 11, 2011 Author Posted November 11, 2011 I go to bars to find a man. It does not mean that I am looking for a ONS. Girls will be happy to get your attention in bars and they love the attention from good-looking men. Your honesty is refreshing.
Taramere Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 Why would two girls just go out for the night on their own? To stare at each other's faces the entire night? Girls in pairs are obviously looking to meet men. The catch is you're not going to isolate the girl you want - she won't ditch her friend and let her be alone, so a competent wingman is key. The catch is your game is only as good as your wingman's. Back in my days of going to clubs, the hope was generally not so much to meet some random guy. I'd be more hopeful that some bloke I was already interested in might be there. Sometimes I'd meet a complete stranger who I would give my number to and maybe go on a date with...but generally I'd rather meet somebody through a mutual acquaintance. I can understand why women would chat away to a stranger who comes over armed with a lot of nonsense, rehearsed gags, tricks and novelty crap. I've responded in a friendly and interested way to that kind of thing myself, but somebody like that is more a sort of circus act. A focal point for other people (hopefully men you're interested in) to gather around....creating opportunities for others to get together, as opposed to themselves being an object of sexual and romantic interest. To me the primarily purpose of men who are evidently working their way around a room trying to pick a woman up for sex tended to be that they might stir up the competitive instincts of a guy I already knew and was interested in...who would hopefully then cut in and "rescue" or "claim" me. If there weren't any such men around, you'd either get rid of him (if he was a bit of a dick), or have a laugh with him if he was a fun, friendly kind of person...but give him the signals that a one night stand wasn't going to be on the cards.
grkBoy Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 Why would two girls just go out for the night on their own? To stare at each other's faces the entire night? Girls in pairs are obviously looking to meet men. The catch is you're not going to isolate the girl you want - she won't ditch her friend and let her be alone, so a competent wingman is key. The catch is your game is only as good as your wingman's. I've had many approaches blown where the girl was very into me, but was pulled away by the friend because my wingman couldn't hold court with the other girl. If you can isolate your girl and your wingman his, and you both run tight game, you're money. Want to get the input of the ladies/gents on this forum. Ladies - why do you go out to bars & clubs with just one other girlfriend? Gents - what's been your experience in pulling girls in pairs? I usually equate if she's looking to meet men based on how she's dressed. Jeans and conservative top...probably not. Sexy top...yeah, she's open to meeting guys. Tight short skirt/dress with high heels, showing the cleavage and legs...definitely. The thing is though, not every guy has a shot. Often these women will say they're really not looking to meet any guys, but that comes out as Womanese for "I'm only open to meeting amazing top-of-the-ladder guys, not average Joes." I'll see them all flirty and chatty when it's a handsome guy in expensive clothes who can buy a bottle easily...but push away from the average looking guy who doesn't look like he's got a lot going for him. I draw this based on my experiences when I worked in the club scene. Funniest were the women who go on and on about how they don't want a boyfriend, but when drunk they're crying about how lonely they are. This is why I tell average guys not to bother with the club scene...the women there are seeking above average guys. Go find spots where normal girls with realistic standards are hanging out. Club chicks want to be Kardashians and Hiltons, and it's not surprising to me how many of those women I've known are still single and complain how there's no "decent men" or how all the "good men" won't commit.
musemaj11 Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 A documentary on BBC shows that the more sexually receptive a woman is, the sluttier she dresses.
zengirl Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 Not necessarily. I'm going to meet a friend at a microbrew pub tonight, and we both have boyfriends. We just wanted a little girl time. Body language and dress will usually give you hints as to whether gals are in the mood to pick up a fellow or not. It is harder to meet new people if you stay in a large group, sure, but that doesn't mean every time two women or two men go out, they're looking for someone.
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