Jdw_Icequeen Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Hi guys, I'm curious to know: - How long were you and your ex together? - How long since the break up? - How are you feeling now? My ex and I were together for four years, have been apart for four months and I still feel like there's a massive hole in my life. I am completely miserable and want to know if this is normal. All thoughts are welcome 14 months and lived together.. It will be a year at the end of November. I'm feeling awesome! I don't miss him, don't think about him don't care about him either way.. Yes it is normal to still feel the way you feel. This is for all of you, you'll get there and all these horrible feelings you have will stick around for a good while, some longer then others depending what you do with yourselves and your lives. Treat yourselves well get out have new adventures and accomplish goals you have always wanted to do. Everyone is diffrent in healing time. So if your ever feeling like your the only one's just remember your not! You will pull through, I promise!
Surfer Girl Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 8 years together... Broken up 8 and half months...I can live without him...But would rather live with him...I am giving myself a year...to think about dating again...I need to get over the triggers of every holiday we spent together so I can get over those memories...and move on....
betterdeal Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 Thank you for your advice Yea he was single for two months, dated a girl for a month, single for another few months, then is now "dating" this girl. He is weird. I don't think he knows what he wants either so that is why I am not sticking around to argue anymore. He needs to figure himself out. It is obvious he hasn't forgotten about me so I should just be happy with that for now. Plus he is 16 about to be 17 and I am only 18 so we are both really young compared to most relationships on here. That might play a factor in thing. I know for sure we both still really care about each other a lot, and the fact that he is still in high school and I just entered college kind of puts a wedge on things too. So many things wrong here Oh well, I have been doing great the past few weeks and will continue to move forward. Only time will tell what happens with him, but now we know he hasn't forgotten me one bit How could he forget a beautiful, intelligent, accomplished, fine young lady such as you? That's unpossible! He's just going through the muppet stage in life. It's something we men have to do. Sometimes it lasts a couple of years; others, decades. Anyway, now you're at college, being single has its advantages too...
betterdeal Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 8 years together... Broken up 8 and half months...I can live without him...But would rather live with him...I am giving myself a year...to think about dating again...I need to get over the triggers of every holiday we spent together so I can get over those memories...and move on.... I've given myself a year too but, to be honest, I am getting a bit itchy now and fed up of politely turning down opportunities. It's a hard life
Surfer Girl Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 A year is just a time line... For me... Perhaps if you are feeling itchy...that time line may not apply to you..and maybe I will feel that way too....I just want this to be over...the memories will always be there....and I am so afraid to date as I do not want to compare.....
Rorschach64 Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 How long were you and your ex together? 2 years and we were engaged to each other. How long since the break up? 5.5 months now and 5.5 months of NC, no breadcrumbs or anything from her. How are you feeling now? Empty to the situation currently yet miss her and our relationship as it was. Mind finally stopped going over the break up, was rather annoying. Feel too tired, burned out, and lazy to even conceive how I would handle her coming back if she did.
betterdeal Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 A year is just a time line... For me... Perhaps if you are feeling itchy...that time line may not apply to you..and maybe I will feel that way too....I just want this to be over...the memories will always be there....and I am so afraid to date as I do not want to compare..... True, true. I do think in-between flings can be quite cathartic.
fluffyfluff Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 Hi guys, I'm curious to know: - How long were you and your ex together? - How long since the break up? - How are you feeling now? My ex and I were together for four years, have been apart for four months and I still feel like there's a massive hole in my life. I am completely miserable and want to know if this is normal. All thoughts are welcome Nearly 5 years A month and a week I havent cried yet, Im still to pissed off and in denial that its over. I miss him at times, but I enjoy the time that I don't miss him more.
maryslamb Posted November 13, 2011 Posted November 13, 2011 We were together for 2 years Broken up for 12 days now .. was n/c for 10 and broke it to see where we stand question. Back in N/C and its been 2 days This is day 2 of N/C and I'm ok today. I haven't cried, and I've tried occupying myself. Yesterday I wanted to contact him so bad. See my thread.. Break up makes you stronger' I'm just taking it one day at a time. I hate looking out the window and seeing the sun shine, and wonder what he's doing on such a beautiful day.. its only day 2 .. so I'm going to hope for the best
fredrickhsalas Posted November 14, 2011 Posted November 14, 2011 - How long were you and your ex together?over 3 years. - How long since the break up?15 days - How are you feeling now Happy, confident, strong. I still cry and miss her. Still the content of my dream.
melenkurion Posted November 14, 2011 Posted November 14, 2011 - How long were you and your ex together? Seven and a half years. - How long since the break up? One year and one month. - How are you feeling now? I'm fine, most of the time. To be honest, I usually feel better than I did when I was in the relationship. I spent years pretending to myself I was picture-book happy. I feel a little bit rubbish today, as it happens, but that is nothing to do with the breakup, it's because my house was broken into and my TV was stolen. The point I am making is that my ups and downs no longer have anything to do with the breakup. I'm not 100% healed yet, but it's close. In the end, this has done me the power of good. I've been forced to take a good hard look at myself, to evaluate everything.
Zabs Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Dovic! You feeling poo hun? Where's your current update? Responding to the thread 3years on and off......still no closure because still being spied..usual s***! Zabs xx Ps I'm ESTABLISHED! xx:bunny:
Dims85 Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 6 1/2 years and engaged been broken up for almost 9 months N/C for 7 1/2 months i have my days where i think about us but they are few and far between. Only recently did i think about us again as this last weekend would have been 7 years together. I realized if she could give up on what we had so easily and fall off the planet its not worth my time. I have moved on not expecting a call from her anytime soon.
maxy1 Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 - we were together a little over 7 years - broke up on halloween - haven't seen eachother in 15 days, haven't spoken in a little over a week i feel all sorts of things. i miss her, she was a big part of my life and my best friend. i am having to be more confident in myself now because i confided in her way too much. i'm pretty mad at the time i lost and everything i invested, the coulda woulda shoulda's are killing me. i have both good and bad days and look forward to the days i stop thinking about her entirely. i know she was bad for me, my friends and family seemed to think so as well.. just kinda sucks man, starting back at square one
The_Good_Me Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 How long were you and your ex together? Just over 10 years. We were engaged and only a few months away from the wedding. How long since the break up? 7 months (6 months NC) How are you feeling now? Depressed and totally given up on thinking I'm going to recover from this. I know I can't expect to be over her after 7 months when we were together for so long but there is still no light at the end of that tunnel, mainly because of the way it ended and because I can't stop myself from being in love with her! I used to feel quite positive about getting over her but this was during a time where I was working almost constantly and didn't have much time to think. I don't feel as though I'll ever be able to trust another person romantically as everything seemed fine in my relationship, then one day it just ended suddenly and it's a very common thing! It'll just happen again so there's no point in me trying! I've stopped putting effort into myself and feel pretty worthless! I am a defeatist yes and I no longer care about that or anything. I have no "fight" left in me and just wish I could go to sleep and never wake up! Sorry for the negativity, I just really needed to write this out!
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