Bobby289 Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 Still too much pride and ego to admit to her own faults in the relationship. Just trying to hold the upper hand and act like a burden is now off her shoulders with out me. Hanging out with everyone who she said were crappy people and happy about it? Sees me as the guy who begged her back still and can't shake that...She changed I guess. She's over me apparently and much happier, all I can do is move on. Going NC for good. Night all
smokey bear Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 Hi How long were you with her? How long have you been split up? Why did you split?
Author Bobby289 Posted November 11, 2011 Author Posted November 11, 2011 2 years together, 2 months since BU, 2 weeks of contact trying to hold on, 2 weeks of nc twice both broken by her. I was over protective and insecure, she was controlling... I have been going to therapy and back to my old self to some extent but of course not good enough. Oh well I'm happy Im me again.
Rorschach64 Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 I am sorry your ex is a piece of garbage bobby but at least you are trying to better yourself and reflect on what you did wrong in the relationship. In all honesty, at least you have the straight up answers in your face then playing the theory game what is going on with your ex.
Author Bobby289 Posted November 11, 2011 Author Posted November 11, 2011 It also sucks living in a small town and hearing from everyone oh I seen your ex at this bar and this bar and hanging out with all the people you hate because they are douchbags. I fell in love with someone else.
ChelseaLS Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 Im not sure its fair to say she is a piece of garbage lol. Perhaps we, bobby included, don't know fully what is going on in that head of hers. We so easily jump to judge and place names on those who hurt us... but we don't know and my not ever really know whats going on... hence why everyone on here has asked WHY sooo many times. Good for you bobby for moving on. You tired, you risked it, and now you can move on.
smokey bear Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 hey bobby, sounds like your angry, and sounds like she's still angry, its normal. More time is needed and more nc. xx One day it all won't matter xx
Rorschach64 Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 Yes you are right chelsea, throwing around negative adjectives/nouns to label someone believing they did right in their mind is simply rude and immature. We may never know....but there is something we can do about it and that is to move on, heal, and reflect.
Author Bobby289 Posted November 11, 2011 Author Posted November 11, 2011 There is some anger, mainly at myself. I took the risk to fully give it my all and got 0 in return and felt like a joke on me. You guys are right, I just talked things over with a friend about everything and got some new perspective on my situation. I know I gave it my all so I can't look back in regret, just move on. The only why I have is not even about our relationship anymore.
Steelrain322 Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 She's dead to you. Grieve the loss, and never talk to her again.
69ways Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 It also sucks living in a small town and hearing from everyone oh I seen your ex at this bar and this bar and hanging out with all the people you hate because they are douchbags. I fell in love with someone else. well you will hear a lot but quite possibly some are lies, so don't overanalyse everything
wilsonx Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 Still too much pride and ego to admit to her own faults in the relationship. Just trying to hold the upper hand and act like a burden is now off her shoulders with out me. Hanging out with everyone who she said were crappy people and happy about it? Sees me as the guy who begged her back still and can't shake that...She changed I guess. She's over me apparently and much happier, all I can do is move on. Going NC for good. Night all This is something I want to comment on. Dont change your paradigm of thinking with what you just said bobby. You have the right to think what you think and if your gut is telling you something, its true. This is a pattern in these types of people 1) Pride and ego aka selfishness 2) Hanging out with people that she said was crappy people. You have seen this pattern. Remember it, when you run into people like this in the future, that are selfish, act like kids, have problems with people to the point where they make fun of them and bitch about how crappy they are but remain friends with them, shake their hand and exit the situation. Its not even worth the proverbial pump and dump, trust me. This is now your red flag for future friendships/relationships, dont abandon it, embrace it
Author Bobby289 Posted November 11, 2011 Author Posted November 11, 2011 I'm not changing my position as to where she stands and her attitude. I do not want to be with someone like that, people change or put up a fake facade no matter how close they may have been. It is hard to see it happen but there is nothing I can do, in time maybe she will face her issues and fix them but I know I will not be there to clean up the mess. I don't want anyone else right now but no harm in making new friends now, only time will tell how every thing works out but I won't sit by and watch.
smokey bear Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 This is something I want to comment on. Dont change your paradigm of thinking with what you just said bobby. You have the right to think what you think and if your gut is telling you something, its true. This is a pattern in these types of people 1) Pride and ego aka selfishness 2) Hanging out with people that she said was crappy people. You have seen this pattern. Remember it, when you run into people like this in the future, that are selfish, act like kids, have problems with people to the point where they make fun of them and bitch about how crappy they are but remain friends with them, shake their hand and exit the situation. Its not even worth the proverbial pump and dump, trust me. This is now your red flag for future friendships/relationships, dont abandon it, embrace it Very wise quote
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