confused kitty Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 (edited) Ok so a guy says to his ex (he ended it due to personal problems,depression/anxiety) he needid to sort himself out, he says he still loves her, she means the world to him and he deffenitly "doesnt want this to be it" - he wants to keep in touch and hang out.. He says he wants them to be back together, that he misses her and loved every minute of their relationship and has no interest in finding someone else, all his feelings for her are still there and they'l never go away and he doesnt want them too but that he just cant do it right now, saying he "couldnt put the time and effort in, couldnt give her what she deserves and is afraid if they stayed together it would cause her to hate him and they would end up falling apart" - this is the last thing in the world that he wants to happen! He says he wants her to be happy, as she deserves the best and that he doesnt expect her to wait for him.... Is this some sort of test to see how committed she is??? If he genuinely meant all that he said, then how could he watch her being with somebody else??? Especially when he wants to stay in touch! Edited November 10, 2011 by confused kitty
YaOldBuckaroo Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 Hey confused kitty Seems like he has some psychological problems that needs to be addressed. Wants to be with her, loves her more than anything in the world, but admits that being together will make her hate him? Crazy scenario he's making for her. Probably needs professional help and medication to deal with depression, anxiety or whatever disorder he has. Making her wait for him to be mentally and emotionally ready isn't fair, pretty selfish thing to do.. Max
lostcharm Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 Sounds like he's playing with emotions. With that being said, there are people out there who truly want to see people that they love have happiness and get what they deserve.
snowloverbaby Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 Kitty i take it you didnt meet yesterday?
ChelseaLS Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 Kitty i take it you didnt meet yesterday? I thought you guys were starting over?...
Author confused kitty Posted November 11, 2011 Author Posted November 11, 2011 No!!!! He texted me Wednesday morning, we were texting for about an hour, light convo and messing/joking about with eachother - then I asked was he still on for meeting up the following day (which was his idea) and Ive heard nothing from him since!!!! The question I posted above was a conversation we had last weekend just before he suggested we "hang out" Im so gutted, I dont know whats going on with him anymore
ChelseaLS Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 I would pull back kitty. NC. He seems like he is play games. Let him come to you if he does. But focus on healing you and moving forward.
snowloverbaby Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 Kitty, Im sorry he did that to you. That is so crazy. I couldnt do that to someone..but thats just me. Ive had it done to me too a few weeks back so i can relate to how you feel. My ex got mad at me a few Fridays ago and we had plans for that Sunday and he said he didnt know if we were gonna meet still but hed let me know and i got nothing back. Now we have plans again on Sunday and im again worried he may bail. He texted me today for a bit this morning and i told him not to forget our date and where we are meeting and he said he wouldnt but yet he asked me to text him tonight and ive got nothing back after i did text him. So frustrating....
Author confused kitty Posted November 12, 2011 Author Posted November 12, 2011 yes Ive decided Im going back to NC, its been 2days! Im thinking maybe he just isnt ready to meet up again yet - who knows!! What do yous gals make my the original question - that was what he said to me last weekend (in a text mind you, as he finds it easyer to open up and speak about his feelings through texts or emails as apposed to in person or phone call) He sent me this "out of the nowhere", no previous texts that day...Thaughts ??? P.S Good luck for Sunday Snowlover, hope it goes well for you, keep us posted!!
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