Gigs/rebound/left for someone else. Answers to your questions here!!!!

November 10, 2011

I had gigs and a rebound and i believe my ex is suffering from it now.

Our gigs is roughly 6 months apart and so far has run very similar.

My gigs I dont remember much of it now but i will tell what i do remember.

I remember a couple of months before i left that i had been feeling the need of attention from other men, i felt my man wasnt giving me enough attention in terms of love and affection but i think it was most desire.

I didnt feel sexy from him and other men noticed i was sexy. I started flirting with other men to fill that void. I voiced this concern with my partner many times before i actually left> he had a chance to fix it, he just didnt listen to what i was saying or understand, i dont blame him. I believe our age has a lot to do with it and everyone. I really dont think you learn certain things like honest communication until u reach a certain age.

Some things are part of growing up.

At the time i was 24 he was 25. im mentally more mature than him. he seems to be a year behind me. We have been together 6/7 years. I am his first love. He is not mine, I dont think it makes a difference. apart from at the end of gigs ill explain later.

So my gigs was a friend that started to flirt with me, and i split with the ex and persued him. This is where the rebound comes in. It doesnt matter if its gigs it still has to be treated the same as rebound and it still happens exactly the same as a rebound. So anyone who has there partner leave for someone else, treat it exactly the same way. read up on rebounds.

What did i feel?

I felt head over heels in love and u are, while at the same time hid the relationship from my family. I swore i would never go back to my ex, I blamed my ex for us splitting and even believed it myself for a long time, the whole time. I never once fought with the rebound/ gigs we got on great and where a great match. But as soon as it ended, after 3 weeks being split, that love faded fast. Thats when i realised it wasnt true love.

It was in love and it is different from real love,

its an infatuation, an intense feeling that fizzles over 3-5 months (honeymoon) i truly believed i loved this man more than i ever loved my ex. It doesnt matter what happened with the rebound/gigs the major points are below.

I felt very connected and very in love, it faded quickly (5 months for me)

what caused it? i just realised it wasnt going to work, just woke up one day and saw his faults.

What did my ex do this whole time? he begged me the whole time, didnt know about gigs guy. I HID IT!!! Red flag!

how did it make me feel, first 2-3 months, angry i wish he would just go away, did he emotionally support my rebound, yes. would i have came back earlier if he didnt chase me?

I said a few major points to myself during the break up/ gigs.

One was, If he didnt chase me i would have came back sooner (hindsite)

Did i miss him?, not for the first 3-4 months he was always around, towards the end of gigs guy i did miss him yes, this is another major thing i said to myself

Even though my ex is still around begging me back, i still miss him, still miss his company.

in hindsight looking at this now, he was always about, i had his company so it truly wasnt his company i missed, i didnt realise this for months later.

After this realisation i let him come up and hang around, but at the time still didnt want relationship and thought we would never be together again, but at this point i knew i still wanted him in my life, but as i friend, at this point i knew i wouldnt be happy with him not in my life.

Things i felt

I felt my life was better without him and easier.

I knew i loved him since i left on day 1 but i thought it was just love for someone i had spent so long with, like family love. This love grew stronger but took about 5 months to really in, this love is what brought me back.

The whole time up until the very day i went back, i didnt feel this love strong, i thought my lovers love for him was gone, little did i know

that it was changing and turning into unconditional love, or it was already there and i didnt understand love .

I was happy and the relationship i had with the gigs guy was better, love brought me back my ex didnt treat me great we are still young and learning but he never cheated, he respected me, was there for me, but he loved me deeply and that is the key, love.

all throughout gigs/ rebound i didnt think about my ex, i compaired him to gigs guy yes, but i didnt think about giving us another go, my aim was to move on. i remember thanking gigs guy for getting me over my ex. I honestly believed i was over my ex, completely.

What next

when i finished with gigs guy did i think of my ex? yes, i still didnt want to go back,still didnt feel love etc. I went on a few dates with other guys, still had gigs, still thought there was better out there. But it didnt work? Why? because it just felt the same with the gigs guy,

infatuation, it wasnt that true love connection i had with my ex. My ex at this point gave up on me, said he loves me but he gives up trying to get me back. didnt txt me.

The point is until you get over your ex you cant form that bond with anyone else. At this point i had go single and deal with the breakup. this is where the ex stuff happens, i went through 3 weeks of mild sadness getting over gigs guy, realised it wasnt true love,I also worked out what i wanted in life, i was ready to settle down and have kids.

after that, one night the break up with the ex hut me. it hut me hard like a ton of bricks. This was pain, it was regret, i finally only then seen how bad i treated him and what had done to him.This was also the point were i said f++k i love my ex, i said to myself i would txt him and lay it out if he wanted it i was going to be the best bird ever. if he had moved on i was going to go down the long lonely road of healing i hadnt dealt with my ex break up all, and it only came out after my gigs ended.

my gigs was not finished there but. we got back together and the same problems occured but only through fault of my ex, I learned my mistake and the changes that were my fault in the relationship. After 6 months

together my ex left me for the same reason i left him and is experiencing the exact same thing now.

Its heartbreaking but good, cause he will come out it a maturer person knowing what he wants and our relationship wouldnt have survived if he didnt do it. this is where his gigs starts.

So my ex's gigs, he started to wonder what else was out there, He started drinking and partying hard. one night i couldnt take it and left, within days he had someone else. the first month we were lc, he hated me. called me for everything. i went nc,

after 2.5 months he broke contact told me his rebound was terrible, his life was terrible without me and wanted me back. he was dumping rebound and we would get back together. he split with rebound for a week, i pushed him that whole week went needy etc,

he went back to rebound. At that point i chased him for 3 weeks and then stopped.i went nc again. they lasted 1 week, went rocky, week 2 split, week 3 finally over. They still talk and its now week 2 officailly over.

So please everyone go nc, when i was around they got on well, when i was in nc they failed. so go nc you are helping them succeed emotonally and my gigs would have ended sooner if he didnt chase me.

so now that they are over, i txt him, just a little hey thinking of u wondered if you ever wanted to talk. never let on i knew about rebound ending. asked how they were he said they split up. he jumped in too quick and wasnt ready.

we chatted for ages and actually met up. spoke for 4

hours, right now he doesnt want a relationship he wants to see what else is out there. he is still sexually attracted to me and now we can speak very open and honest with each other.

But he still think of our relationship in a bad way, he hasnt dealt with it just like i didnt, he hasnt got far enough yet to let go of the bad and see the good, when we talked he brought our relationship up not me, spoke about it a lot and is still bitter about it.

it still affects his emotions. We will never be able to reconcil till he gets past that and deals with it, so again im back on nc. When we met it was only a few days ago, 2 weeks after his split from rebound, i re appeared too soon, he still has to get over the rebound failing, he still has to deal with his deamons and realise what he's learned. we wouldnt work till he does.

Do i think he will come back to me?

I dont know, i can only go nc and hope once he's dealt with everything and himself and looks back on our 7 years.

do i wait for him?

In a way kind of, ive been single for these 4 months because i know im not ready to date. I am not happy being single and alone yet, i need to find this first before i can reconcil or even meet anyone new.

Im not ready yet never mind him. I need to be in a state where i dont depend on anyone before i can make any relationship work with my ex or other.

SO now in these next few weeks of nc, im letting go with love. Im understanding he needs to go and find himself and what he wants in a woman and that will involve him dating others, he needs to

learn his own lessons. When we met up this week, there was no akwardness, a huge connection still and felt very natural, i only hope he feels it too.

Nc is important so u can see your ex and not go week at the knees or in the mind. There is no point contacting your ex until your in a stable frame

of mind. In these weeks of nc, i need to find myself, i need to be happy alone and just find me!!!!

There are lots of major points missed out here, so please feel to ask any questions about gigs or rebounds or anything.

Thanks, its a long one but ive been through gigs/rebound on both sides and want to share my stories.

November 10, 2011

Thanks for sharing your story. My ex has a case of GIG's and so we broke up and I moved out... but we work together. So I can't do NC, only LC. I try to avoid him at work as much as possible.

November 10, 2011

In all honesty i think lc has helped me, with bursts of nc. Lc helped gauge what stage he was at and also for us to be able to talk now and be on good terms. If it doesnt work out we should be able to stay friends, but not until all feelings are gone xx

my best advice is act like you dont care, when u see him act like it doesnt affect you, better than that try to get to a point where it doesnt xx

i find the scariest thing to deal with is the thought of never getting back together, but today i thought to myself that i could probably walk back to my other ex's and they would probably give it a go, its just the fact we get to a point where we dont to. That i think is another reason why i hold onto the pain than choosing to heal, I dont want to get to the point where i wouldnt go back, its only been 4 months for me. Id like a second chance x its just the way i choose to do it.

But it is a catch 22, the only way ill meet someone new is to move on, but if i move on i shut the door on my ex xx

November 10, 2011

In all honesty i think lc has helped me, with bursts of nc. Lc helped gauge what stage he was at and also for us to be able to talk now and be on good terms. If it doesnt work out we should be able to stay friends, but not until all feelings are gone xx

my best advice is act like you dont care, when u see him act like it doesnt affect you, better than that try to get to a point where it doesnt xx

i find the scariest thing to deal with is the thought of never getting back together, but today i thought to myself that i could probably walk back to my other ex's and they would probably give it a go, its just the fact we get to a point where we dont to. That i think is another reason why i hold onto the pain than choosing to heal, I dont want to get to the point where i wouldnt go back, its only been 4 months for me. Id like a second chance x its just the way i choose to do it.

But it is a catch 22, the only way ill meet someone new is to move on, but if i move on i shut the door on my ex xx

I do act like i don't care. I smile, throw my shoulders back, walk confidently... and actually even though it started out as faking it, I do now feel that way.

I'm not scared per se of us never getting back together, I don't need him... I want him and love him. But I also know I can force him.

I also know that I must move on but like you, I don't want to get to the point of where I wouldn't go back. At least thats how it was in the begining. Now a month later I know that in order to heal regardless of what happens I need to move on.

November 10, 2011

hey smokey, thanks for sharing. maybe you could give me some advice or provide some insight on my situation. I have a post in the second chances forum, my post is "Could it happen?". I would really appreciate some feedback, I think you could help. thanks.

November 10, 2011

hey smokey thanks, really appreciate your honest oppinion. My ex gf also has gigs (at 35) can you imagine but that is due to the fact taht she never developed emotionally because she has a very contolling mother. I am guessing that she had or still has a rebound (her boss) who btw just recently moved to another country and is married and got a baby this year.. Of course she is hiding it from her family and that is one of the reasons her parents are angry at me although I wasn't the on who broke up. I was the one willing to work on the relationship.

Best of luck to you

November 10, 2011

Interesting post...

There's more to this GIGS thing the you are posting. I like how you shared your view of why it happened as its relatively true in pretty much all the cases here, at the same time, its emotionally immature. You state that you are more mature then your ex but who are you to label and judge his maturity based off your actions which are immature in itself.

There's a lot more to this type of behavior then whats on the surface and that you posted. You post from the dumpers perspective and a lot of people including myself appreciate that.

One thing I do not agree with is that this creates and harvests the second chance are possible threads that are going to come out of this. Instead of promoting, growth, emotional maturity, personal boundaries, self value and worth people need to learn from this type of experience, you are promoting, its ok to be a doormat because of the chance they might come back.

The only reason you feel the way you feel now is because your feel rejected by someone. He no longer wants to be a doormat and wants you in his life. This has to do with your inner core value, your self esteem, selfishness and nothing to do with love.

November 10, 2011

@ IMMITABLE

You might find that she is having a mid life crisis early. We never know what causes it but i think it stems from people losing themselves, losing their aims in life, who they are etc xx

Thanks for your comments

November 10, 2011

Interesting post...

There's more to this GIGS thing the you are posting. I like how you shared your view of why it happened as its relatively true in pretty much all the cases here, at the same time, its emotionally immature. You state that you are more mature then your ex but who are you to label and judge his maturity based off your actions which are immature in itself.

There's a lot more to this type of behavior then whats on the surface and that you posted. You post from the dumpers perspective and a lot of people including myself appreciate that.

One thing I do not agree with is that this creates and harvests the second chance are possible threads that are going to come out of this. Instead of promoting, growth, emotional maturity, personal boundaries, self value and worth people need to learn from this type of experience, you are promoting, its ok to be a doormat because of the chance they might come back.

The only reason you feel the way you feel now is because your feel rejected by someone. He no longer wants to be a doormat and wants you in his life. This has to do with your inner core value, your self esteem, selfishness and nothing to do with love.

He he Wilsonx is great after he makes a comment no one else dares to write anything else. He really cuts to the chase.

These boards should really appreciate you being somber and directing emotionally unstable people (all of us here are) into the right diirection.

November 10, 2011

is this sarcasm? Im open to discussion on many topics... This is a good post to be open about.

I want her to explain more

There are lots of major points missed out here, so please feel to ask any questions about gigs or rebounds or anything.
Thanks, its a long one but ive been through gigs/rebound on both sides and want to share my stories.

I have my personal beliefs on this subject as many people here have, but we are entitled to what we believe in.

This is the opportunity for people to reflect upon themselves and stop worrying about whats going on in the 'dumpers' mind. This is actually the best time to do so.

For the longest time, this was my roadblock to moving forward, why did she do this what happened with her, what did i do wrong. It took me interacting with a crazy girl that I play kickball with and a buddhist quote to finally figure out, it really doesnt matter what the dumper thinks and why the breakup happened

Edited November 10, 2011 by wilsonx

November 10, 2011

you really tell it like it is Wilsonx, I really appreciate your comments and they have helped me stay strong and man up.

November 10, 2011

@ Wilson

I agree there is more to this post than what i said, but i felt it was long enough and only tried to post the main factors.

As for immature, yes. Im only 25, i have a lot to learn. I know this.

Its not a case of giving some hope, For me its simply the fact that im a person that it is very in tune with my emotions and body and i can step outside myself and see what im going through. For me when i had gigs i wasnt immature, i was growing up and learning about life and love and about myself.

At the start of my gigs i didnt know what i wanted, at the end i figured out what i want for my future and now each day i take steps forward to get it. Its very simple for me to say that i am more mature than my ex, i have lived with him for nearly 6 years. its not a judgement at all.

I am not promotting that i am a doormat. I am voicing my mistakes for others not to follow is that not what ls is all about. Im also voicing what i went through so i can vent and gain something from sharing whats in my head.

So i ask you..... look at yourself

Are you proud of yourself for coming on posts and offending people by calling them names (and im immature!!! doormat!!!) when they are simply sharing their experiences for others to either learn from or for the poster to gain some relief from everything thats bottled in their head.

Are you proud of yourself for insulting someone who you have never met, judging a book but 100 odd words, and publicly putting them down. (private messaging is possible)

Are you proud of yourself for taking the context of my post and putting another spin on it or tainting it as i see. I clearly state several times that i have to find myself and love myself. That nc is important so you are in a fitter state of mind.

May i ask you to re read my post and point out the fact i promote healing, moving on, finding yourself etc.

Are you proud of yourself for thinking that you know how my ex feels about me, That he thinks of me as his doormat and no longer wants me in his life. As i said in my post we get along great now and are on good terms. We think fondly of each other (yes him too) and care for each other (yes him too). So acheived a positive result.

I see this a lot on LS, People coming on here and putting others down, If you dont like my posts, dont read them. But dont come on and start making it an unpleasant place for others to be.

Also anyone reading your replies, like me will now most definately be put off posting so they dont get put down for simply sharing their experiences.

This is one of the few places to find resources to help people, all experiences good or bad are helpfull, to learn what to do and what not to do.

I thank you for your imput, everyone has their right to their say, i kindly ask now that you dont read my posts so i dont cause you offence and ill kindly not your yours..

November 10, 2011

is this sarcasm? Im open to discussion on many topics... This is a good post to be open about.

I want her to explain more
I have my personal beliefs on this subject as many people here have, but we are entitled to what we believe in.

This is the opportunity for people to reflect upon themselves and stop worrying about whats going on in the 'dumpers' mind. This is actually the best time to do so.

For the longest time, this was my roadblock to moving forward, why did she do this what happened with her, what did i do wrong. It took me interacting with a crazy girl that I play kickball with and a buddhist quote to finally figure out, it really doesnt matter what the dumper thinks and why the breakup happened

I just think from your first post and now this post your trying to encourage people do it your way, every one does it there own way and part of the start of healing process is having hope, or people would never get back together.

Id just like to say thanks for making my first posting experience on LS NOT an enjoyable one.

November 10, 2011

I never said you were a doormat.

But what you had is not GIGS. You made a mistake, now your ex doesnt want you back. Its that simple. You have the opportunity to grow from this. There's a difference between this and GRASS IS GREENER on the other side. Those people are relationship jumpers their entire lives. Thats why I said there's a lot more to GIGS then this.

My post here are to teach others not to be a doormat. To create personal boundaries. To have self worth and value. If I hurt your feelings with tough love then I'm ok with it. Sometimes you need that one person, just to tell you how it is for you to really open your eyes. If you do not like my posts ignore them. The people that do not like my posts are the ones that are afraid to look in the mirror and accept that there might be truth in what Im saying. There is no spin on what I posted, I posted it clear as day, you put the spin on it.

I just think from your first post and now this post your trying to encourage people do it your way, every one does it there own way and part of the start of healing process is having hope, or people would never get back together.

Id just like to say thanks for making my first posting experience on LS NOT an enjoyable one.

Hope? Seriously, this is where lack of personal boundaries come into play. I had an argument with my mom over this. She sides with you on this only because she was the one that did this type of behavior. This is victim rationale. There are 3.5 billion men and 3.5 billion women on the planet. To leave someone for someone else is by far the worst thing besides cheating that can happen to a person. There are people out there that would value themselves and love themselves enough that they would never even consider this an option to doing to their partner. True love comes from within and radiates outward. Not the other way around

I do not know one person that posts in this forum and has had an enjoyable experience posting here. I know I didn't. Did you expect everyone to give you hugs and agree with you?

Edited November 11, 2011 by wilsonx

November 11, 2011

Nope i expected people to share similar situations and take what they needed from my experience.

Again you are putting a different spin on my post, YOU are telling ME i didnt have gigs.

YOU are telling ME what I experienced.

At the time i had been in one relationship since i was 18, for a long time. I did wonder what else was out there, to me that is gigs.

Again you put another spin on my post, He left me because i had GiGs and made a mistake. No he didnt know anything about my gigs, I agree say what you want but dont come on and try to tell me how my experience went. And tell others, eh no thats not what happened, this is what happened.

If you have anything further to say to me regarding this, please send it in a private mail as its taking everything away from the post and just becoming a personal attack, thanks.

I state again if you have anything further to say please send it in a private message.

November 11, 2011

So Wilson...Not to hijack the thread what quote...gave you the affirmation?

I think with gigs...sometimes it is not taking the time to give yourself the alone time you need to heal from a long connection.... Sometimes you need to reflect on that time and understand yourself and ask yourself why? What lessons do I need to understand before I involve myself with someone else....Am I just looking to fulfill my needs and being with someone so I am not alone? That given time alone gives you a better understanding....

It has been 8 months since my breakup....I want to go a year so that the trigger of each holiday alone gives me the strength to know I can survive...

Sometimes it really takes some time to really know if this person is really the person you want to get back together with....

November 11, 2011

It's a buddhist quote:

"Letting go is Loving Yourself"

That did it for me... Its what everybody had been telling me for ages, and it just clicked for some reason.

November 11, 2011

Well I know it gives me some insight. My ex regardless of GIGS, commitment issues or what, sounds a lot like your story there smokey, so I appreciate your input

I know not all situations are the same and that we will all deal with it in our own way, regardless of what other people think. I choose to take the risk of holding out hope... my choice. I don't believe that a second chance is that far fetch.

But I am a positive, hopeful type of person. Whether that hurts me in the end or not, at least I know I am a creature of courage to take that risk, because to me it's worth it.

November 11, 2011

Sometimes it really takes some time to really know if this person is really the person you want to get back together with....

Surfer Girl, you posed a very nice and important question you need to ask yourself after all this time away from your ex.

I know my counselor told me if I was to get back with my ex-f that has gigs I would set myself up with a life full of struggles, since he suspects Bi-polar disorder and other mental afflictions. Such a daunting task....do I want to handle that, let alone the possibility of her walking away again?

November 11, 2011

It's a buddhist quote:

"Letting go is Loving Yourself"

That did it for me... Its what everybody had been telling me for ages, and it just clicked for some reason.

We all deal with things differently. And if that is what worked for you, fabulous. However it's will be different for everyone. Some people need to reflect, some people need to fake it until they make it, etc.

Although your comments and suggestions are valid and warranted, they don't work for all. Thats why we all come here to express and share different ideas and tactics.

November 11, 2011

Well I know it gives me some insight. My ex regardless of GIGS, commitment issues or what, sounds a lot like your story there smokey, so I appreciate your input
I know not all situations are the same and that we will all deal with it in our own way, regardless of what other people think. I choose to take the risk of holding out hope... my choice. I don't believe that a second chance is that far fetch.
But I am a positive, hopeful type of person. Whether that hurts me in the end or not, at least I know I am a creature of courage to take that risk, because to me it's worth it.

I agree with this, although i dont recommend it. But I would feel worse thinking of the what if's if i just walked away and closed the door, i have limits etc but nature seems to be taking its course before i get to those limits and my feelings are fading.

When i met my ex i was for the first time in my life happy being single, I want the same to happen again. If I hold on hope while i heal then its my choice.

My problem is that i know when i close the door on my ex, i won't ever open it again, and feel 4 months is too soon to close that door after 7 years.

My life is not affected, my life is back to normal, i have new friends, new hobbies etc. I dont plan my life with him in it, but i do hope.

The only thing that has been holding me back in the last week is something that wilson said. Loving yourself is letting go, That only dawned on me this week. I was happy but i wasnt whole, I want to get to a point where im whole again alone.

Posting my post helped towards that, i managed to let go with love with that post.

My goal now is getting happy alone, then ill see where i go xx

November 11, 2011

Sometimes it really takes some time to really know if this person is really the person you want to get back together with....

Surfer Girl, you posed a very nice and important question you need to ask yourself after all this time away from your ex.

I know my counselor told me if I was to get back with my ex-f that has gigs I would set myself up with a life full of struggles, since he suspects Bi-polar disorder and other mental afflictions. Such a daunting task....do I want to handle that, let alone the possibility of her walking away again?

I agree with this too, but i also think you need to get to know the person again too first before u decide, as people can change, people do grow up.

She might not be the same person you split up with now.

I think thats why a lot of second chances dont happen because when the dumper does go through all their learning and come back, the dumpee only remembers the cruel person who dumped them and suspect they are still the same person, hence dont try again

It is a common scenario that dumpers do tend to come back if there was no major faults/bad things happened. Once everything has calmed down and emotions settle, which most times does takes months.

xx

November 11, 2011

Essentially I don't believe you can break up and get back together and it to be the same.. nor would I want it to be the same. Going back into that same old pattern would be dangerous, and ultimately fail.

I think if there is a break up, there needs to be change in order to reconcile.

I also think if there is reconciliation, both parties need to forget the past and start fresh... forget the bad times, the faults, you can't (well shouldn't) bring up past problems. It needs to all be fresh.

November 11, 2011

I agree with everyones post even smokeys. I am way further in the breakup process then most of you. I had my ex come back to me not once but twice saying "Im sorry I made a mistake can we please get back together." Each time, the same problems were there from both ends. Including my end. I wasnt perfect by any means but I did the best I knew how to do and that's all anyone can ask. I've looked in the mirror, Ive had about 4 months of anger aimed inward at myself.

It takes time and reflection. I obviously still have feelings and care about my ex but if she were to come back again after shes done with her stupid games, I have enough self worth and personal boundaries NOW!!! that I would say No to her. Its not worth it, its not love for her, its a need.

IF you love somebody you let them go and work on you. Thats why that quote is so insightful. It will just make sense.

I am trying to show people that post here and want a second chance that its more of a mind NEED thing then love. Your ego cant take that you are no longer important. Being important is one of the most basic human drives for the mind. Ask yourself now... now that your ex broke up with you or no longer wants to be with you, why do you honestly want to be with someone that doesnt want to be with you. Its ego driven. So be important to yourself first. That way if someone leaves you or you leave someone, you still have this sense of self worth

My closure came in the fact that my ex said she had feelings for another guy, when she finally told me this a week after her breakup, that was it. I gave her a hug and walked away. I don't want to be with someone that doesnt want to be with me or leaves me for someone else.

Think about this, really think about it. To go back to someone that breaks up with you is enabling them to do it again. Going back to someone that cheats on you is enabling them to cheat on you again. Going back to someone that treats you poorly is enabling that someone to treat you poorly again. You have control over how you want to live your life and how you want to be treated.

November 11, 2011

Now that post made complete sense to me.

I feel that with my soul searching or whatever you want to call it, I know that it's not a need thing for me, its a want thing, its a love thing. As I told my ex (when we decided to break), the only way we could ever work again is if we take time to better ourselves, reflect on our past relationship and make the necessary changes... otherwise it won't work and then there is no point. That being said, the only reason why I hold out hope is because he agreed.

As I have stated before, I am good with me. I look in the mirror and I see a smart, beautiful, confident person, who is very caring, but has her own issues to work through. But in no way am I afraid to be alone on my own. I was alone before I met him and I can do it again. I had no intention of dating, I had been single for years and loving it, and then he kind of fell into my life.

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