My friend's boyfriend contacted me out of the blue to have lunch at work

[PlumPrincess]

A couple of days ago the boyfriend of a friend of mine contacted me out of the blue and asked me if I was still at the same company as he was and if I wanted to meet one day for lunch.

 

I'm on her friends list, that's how he probably got my contact information.

 

I only met him once at a get-together in summer. I mostly spoke with my friend and I only talked about bit with him about the company (I still hadn't started my new job at that time) and their cafeteria which is supposed to be pretty good.

 

I haven't seen my friend for months now since she had to go back temporarily to take care of some stuff.

 

I'm not sure if he is interested, but I find his suggestion a bit fishy. On the other hand, we are sort of co-workers (although the company is huge) and it would be normal to have lunch with people you had met outside of work.

 

I'm not sure what to do. On the one hand, I want to tell my friend about this and leave it to her to decide if her boyfriend's behavior was appropriate or not. On the other hand, if her boyfriend is up to something, then she might get uncomfortable around me even if I didn't initiate anything (I really like her and want to keep her as a friend who trusts me).

 

What the best way to approach her with the situation?

[whichwayisup]

Say no. No good can come of this.. But, what you can say is, if you're ever in my department, drop in and say hi, maybe we can grab a coffee.

 

Don't go out of your way and do lunch with him. I find it odd that you've only met him once and now he's looked you up.

 

Listen to your gut on this one..

[PlumPrincess]

Thanks for your advice!. I'm also concerned about how to tell my friend about this. I feel uncomfortable not telling her, but I just see myself get into trouble when I do.

[lostcharm]

Thanks for your advice!. I'm also concerned about how to tell my friend about this. I feel uncomfortable not telling her, but I just see myself get into trouble when I do.

 

Why would YOU get in trouble? You're being honest with a friend. If she doesn't like what she hears and blames you then she's not a friend worth having.

 

Just casually bring it up. Don't make a big ordeal about it, just say he wanted to meet up for lunch and you weren't sure what to think. Simple and to the point.

[Citizen Erased]

Just casually mention it, like it's no big deal.