kalilavey Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 I was wondering what you all think about the whole 'being friends after a break up' situation?
betterdeal Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 There can't be a definitive answer that works for everyone, other than sometimes, depending on the people and the circumstances. I do think it generally requires a cooling off period if it is to work, where each can get their heads out of the relationship. There are people who remain friends with exes (Jennifer Aniston is a good example) and people who don't. Beware of labelling it friendship if it's something more than that. You probably have friends you don't think of or contact every day - people who you see around and are friendly with even - if you reach that point with someone you were involved with, that's going to be pretty stable. Otherwise, it might be unstable and, depending on you view of things, that instability can be a good or bad thing. So, um, sure, sometimes.
Glove_slap Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 If you can manage JUST being FRIENDS then go for it. If you want to be friends with the goal of winning them back that is unhealthy as it causes a false sense of hope and reality. One of the greatest pains is to be friends with the person you love and watch them mingle with others while you stand in the sidelines.
Veryconfused12345 Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 If it was a mutual decision and neither of you have any residual feelings then it should be fine. But the problem is if one person has any hope of reconciliation at any point it's not fair on either of you. This is coming from someone who tried to remain friends with an ex to "keep the door open" and remind him of what we had. Totally didn't work and hurt me even more. So if you can be very honest with yourself and acknowledge whether there might be an element of that for either you or your partner, it will do more damage in the long run....
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