gingerpounder Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Are rebound relationships really what they seem they are? My girlfriend of a year and a half broke up with me, and started dating someone a couple weeks later. I see them everyday at school and it seems that their relationship is working out really great. Im starting to think im out of the picture now and that all hope I had of getting back together with her, is gone. Im asking how long does a rebound relationship last? Is it normal for them to be so "in love" with one other at the beginning or is it just an ephemeral thrill of being with someone new? When do things usually start to turn for the worse? and if theres anything I can do to help get her back Thanks
ffw Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Are rebound relationships really what they seem they are? My girlfriend of a year and a half broke up with me, and started dating someone a couple weeks later. I see them everyday at school and it seems that their relationship is working out really great. Im starting to think im out of the picture now and that all hope I had of getting back together with her, is gone. Im asking how long does a rebound relationship last? Is it normal for them to be so "in love" with one other at the beginning or is it just an ephemeral thrill of being with someone new? When do things usually start to turn for the worse? and if theres anything I can do to help get her back Thanks Couple of things: 1) How can you be sure its a rebound? Its amazing that here on LS, almost everyone thinks their ex's are in a rebound relationship. 2) Irrespective of the above, their relationship is going through a honeymoon phase. Yes, a phase in which sparks & butterflies flies around every where. There is no fix time bcs it depends upon the relationship & the people involved in it. 3) I guess you are the dumpee. As a dumpee you can't do anything. Whatever action you will take is going to push her away. On the other hand, you should yourself this question "Are you willing to take back a person who jumps from one branch to another"? Its over & move on. Heal youself & find another girl when time is right, you will know it. Don't waste your time & energy on her.
Glove_slap Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 it's almost been a year and a half since my ex and I broke up after three years of being together, she's still with the same guy that she got together with a month after we broke up. Sometimes you just have to accept things and let it be no matter how hard it is. I used to think it was just a rebound relationship but I guess reality slowly crept into me and it was very painful to accept that she no longer thinks about me, dreams about me, holds my hand or kisses my cheek anymore. It still hurts to this day, just a little though, maybe one day the pain will go away but one thing you should know is that there is no real method to win your ex back and there is no real method to know what's going in a girl's mind, if there was whoever discovered it would have been a gazillionair. It's not that women are complicated it's simply because they never know what they want, they think they can always do better. Move on for now, that's your best option.
mike588 Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Are rebound relationships really what they seem they are? My girlfriend of a year and a half broke up with me, and started dating someone a couple weeks later. I see them everyday at school and it seems that their relationship is working out really great. Im starting to think im out of the picture now and that all hope I had of getting back together with her, is gone. Im asking how long does a rebound relationship last? Is it normal for them to be so "in love" with one other at the beginning or is it just an ephemeral thrill of being with someone new? When do things usually start to turn for the worse? and if theres anything I can do to help get her back Thanks My now ex. g/f dumped me 3 months ago to get back with her ex. b/f. So far things appear to be going well with them,, I haven't heard a peep from her. If it is a rebound they usually don't last long and at 1st things are all lovey dovey due to the thrill of someone new. There is nothing you can really do at this time. If you havent already I'd let her know how you feel,what you want/expect in the relationship then go strict No Contact!! If you keep bugging her,texts,emails etc. will will only push her further away from you. Is this what you want?? I know it's very hard to stick with no contact but you must for your own good. No Contact is not used to get her back, it helps you move on but the side effects could make her start to miss you,,wonder about you, what your doing and if your dating someone else. Don't bug her now!!!!!!! Let the relationship run it's course,, move on, be mysterious to her, let her wonder about you. You will have made it clear to her what you want, now leave it up to her,, the ball's in her court now.
M2155 Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 (edited) I think "rebound" has a lot to do with the intentions and emotional state of the person when they entered the relationship. In my case, I actually never felt like a rebound but since I never talked to my ex about it, I really will never know. He never spoke a word about an ex good or bad in 1.5 years, nor were we ever super lovey-dovey, we were pretty normal. If my ex had gone to someone new instead of his GF before me, I probably wouldn't have ever thought of myself a rebound. Also people do drift apart, develop feelings for other and live happily ever after with the next person all the time. So it really depends on the person. Someone who immediately get's with the next person and makes it very serious, very fast and shows signs of not recovering from the last relationship, very likely a rebound. And even when it's not a "rebound" situation, most of our relationships are not going to last (only the last one;)). Go figure! Edited November 10, 2011 by M2155
smokey bear Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 type rebound into the search tab, search for rebound only in the titlle, it will bring up everything you need to know. Be careful but with hoping its a rebound as some can last
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