that dude Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 me and my girlfriend of 5 months broke up 2 weeks ago when she cheated on me. She took the breakup really hard and now says that she would do anything to get back together with me. I want to get back together with her, but i don't think I can trust her. Any advice? Also, last weekend I hooked up with someone who I later found out is friends with her (not close friends). Should I tell her about this to see if it changes anything?
Space Ritual Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 me and my girlfriend of 5 months broke up 2 weeks ago when she cheated on me. She took the breakup really hard and now says that she would do anything to get back together with me. I want to get back together with her, but i don't think I can trust her. Any advice? Also, last weekend I hooked up with someone who I later found out is friends with her (not close friends). Should I tell her about this to see if it changes anything? you have only been together 5 months and she cheated on you? I suggest you read your own question again./...btw...you are broken up with her so the hookup is not even an issue...please just move on...
road Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Do you have any idea about the number of people that come her later in life saying how their WW is doing OM2. (Have you picked up where this is going?) Just like WW did OM1 back when they were dating before they got married. Move on.
Author that dude Posted November 10, 2011 Author Posted November 10, 2011 i have no idea what you just said
Space Ritual Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Road is trying to tell you that if you get back together with her you will do so at your own peril...and you will be coming back here saying "I wish I'd have taken your advice, cuz she cheated on me again..." Its a snapshot of the rest of your relationship...
Author that dude Posted November 10, 2011 Author Posted November 10, 2011 thanks for the advice everyone. i really do want to get back together with her but im going to take my time and think about if its worth it or not
Author that dude Posted November 10, 2011 Author Posted November 10, 2011 would I be out of line if I told her I would only get back together if she didn't dance with other guys? (the..... incident.. happened because of dancing)
cdm369 Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 Pretty much telling her what she can and can't do is not going to work. She either understands relationship ethics or she doesn't. You will probably never be able to trust her again fully. Going through that now myself. Not much invested you need to run.
Niagara Falls Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 telling her what she cant and cant do will only make your relationship horrible. you will constantly fight with her and you wont trust her, and when you look baack youll feel like it all stemmed from her cheating. and its true on the other hand she will say its because youve changed. trust me my ex girlfriend cheated on me 3 times, it was my first relationship, she told me about the 2 times, but i gave her another chance, she did it a third time and told me and I dumped her. she did everything she could to get me back, as she truly felt horrible about it, to the point where she was depressed. trust me how terrible she feels is sincere, but getting back together will not make the relationship work any better. i gave in after awhile and dated her for another month. it was the worst month of my life. we fought constantly then made up and so on. then i finally ended it cuz i couldnt take it anymore. the damage is done and it will make the rest of your relationship hell. even if she never cheats on you again, because honestly that is no longer the issue. its the fact that you will always have distain towards her and it will root up more problems than you can imagine at this point. and if you decide to get back together with her, youll see what I mean. just move on man, i did and it feels great
seibert253 Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 My HS sweetheart cheated on me, and like a fool I took her back. Got engaged, wasted another 18 months with her, guess what, she cheated again. Got pregnated while wearing the engagment ring I bought her. So, I threw away $1800 and wasted an additional 18 months on a cheating wh##. I should've listened to everyone who told me to ex her. Don't repeat my mistake. Peace,
lostcharm Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 5 months, already a cheater and youre considering potentially getting back with her? Really?
samsungxoxo Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 5 months, already a cheater and youre considering potentially getting back with her? Really?Yeah that's not even worth as a friend either. Only 5 months and already cheating... wow If it was 1 year or more... then maybe you can rethink (it still doesn't excuse it but it would be a bit different in that case) it but 5 months is sooo short time to cheat.
Professor X Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 would I be out of line if I told her I would only get back together if she didn't dance with other guys? (the..... incident.. happened because of dancing) I hope you don't actually believe what you just wrote. It's not because of the dancing she cheated, it's because she wanted to. Don't make a fatal mistake and blame everything other than her on the cheating.
praslin Posted January 9, 2012 Posted January 9, 2012 Like Professor X gave me advice. My ex cheated on me with her Ex 2 years a go and i took her back and forgave her. But now i am studying in Finland she cheated on me with a different guy even after asking her engagement and she said yes but she was already with another guy. SO DUMP HER.
nofool4u Posted January 10, 2012 Posted January 10, 2012 me and my girlfriend of 5 months broke up 2 weeks ago when she cheated on me. She took the breakup really hard and now says that she would do anything to get back together with me. I want to get back together with her, but i don't think I can trust her. Any advice? Yes, keep her on the curb. Let her cry in her beer. If you take her back, then you get what you paid for. Also, last weekend I hooked up with someone who I later found out is friends with her (not close friends). Should I tell her about this to see if it changes anything? No, unless you, stupidly, take her back. And she would probably use that as another excuse to cheat. Move on to greener pastures. Let her be some other guy's problem.
nofool4u Posted January 10, 2012 Posted January 10, 2012 would I be out of line if I told her I would only get back together if she didn't dance with other guys? (the..... incident.. happened because of dancing) Just another reason not to get back with her. Like Casey Anthony, sounds like a party ho. You can never trust a partier.
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