4L2A0 Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Hello everyone! ------ little background...skip down to the situation if needed---- I'm new here and I've just moved to LA not too long ago. I used to stay in Pittsburgh for 6 years for school before moving to LA to better my career and to hopefully be around more like minded people. Lets just say, I've only messed with one Pittsburgh girl in 6 years, but the rest were girls from Cleveland, or other cities not Pittsburgh. So Pittsburgh and I don't have a match. I'm a cancer dude, so you know, most of us are one-woman, emotional dudes that are picky about who we want to talk to and don't take rejection kindly (depending on our mood). Got the background about me...Lets move on to the situation... ------ the situation -------- So I got my weed card like a month after I moved to LA, and I started going to this Collective (weed club basically) in my neighborhood. I met a few cool cats to talk the **** to there, help out with the website for the collective, etc. Then one day..maybe the third time going there, usually before you can go into the back to buy your green, you have to buzz the window bell and then they buzz you in. So when i buzz it, this bad ass (bad mean extra good when talking about girls) chick approaches the window. Very long brazilian looking curly hair, bronze skin, very pretty, young, very nice dresser, and her assets weren't too crazy (boobs/ass are perfect for her size), So she approaches the window, and she gives me this crazy ass smile and then you know when a female stares at you and do the bottom jaw jut to the left type of ****...yeah. We introduce ourselves while the other dudes I've already met are there too keeping busy with other patients. They keep their distance and not cockblock. The first few times I've seen her, I've always complemented something crazy and witty like how well put together her clothes are on her or I'll make little witty jokes to make her ponder. Days go by, I'm a frequent visitor, plus I enjoy the atmosphere of the club. Its not one of those in and out deals. You can chill on the couch and smoke a bowl or two before you jet. So usually, I'm talking business or teaching the dudes at the shop some stuff about web design and shes sitting on the couch, doing stuff on the computer, while she eyes the big screen used as a security camera viewer to see if any patiences are in the lobby. When the dudes take a few patients, I'll usually slide over to the girl since no one is bothering us two and talk to her for a while. Learned a lot, listen and we vibe well. She loves talking to me and saying hi and what not. To know that I listen well, I'll ask her about hows her job stuff coming along (shes an actress, so she'll tell me about auditions shes in). Just as more background about me, I'm a very chill person. So because of my personality, I can get pure strangers to tell me their life stories in like hours. So she'll tell me some personal stuff thats not too bad, like stressing situations with her friends or something. I'll even catch her eye f***ing me when I'm teaching ol dude about web design. I ooze this "money making/nerdy/professional"...but I'm real, down to earth and kind of hood confidence a lot. She'll even linger the staring after I've caught her for a mere few more seconds. Also she speaks first a lot when I enter the back half of the collective, and its like shes always the one to come to the window when shes there to be the first person to see me before I go to the back. So here are the iffy parts. Out of all the days I've seen her there, a couple of times, shes with this one dude. I'm usually in and out during those times or just walking by the collective and see her sitting outside with him on her break. No biggie. Can't judge or stressin about if shes already talkin to someone. My rule....if shes not married or engaged, its all good to talk and develop something long term as long as you're respectful for whatever relationship shes in. Also, theres 4234032473204 females in the world. Keeping it moving and my options open is key to me. So I'll usually say hi and keep it moving. Sometimes, I'll look a tad bit longer to give the "i dont give a damn about ya dude sitting there thing...I'ma smile at you!!!". Again still respectful just in case, but still show interest. As for straight up hitting on her or trying to get her number, she plays very hard to get. I've invited her to chill at coffee spots in the neighborhood and/or asked for her number like once or twice, usually right before I leave, but she'll say no or make an excuse saying she doesn't get up in the morning and when she do, she just goes straight to work or does her acting gigs. I've invited the two dudes and her to a little housewarming party I'm throwing in a few weeks separately (so I don't seem super desperate, invite the circle at least). So you know when I leave, someone will bring up the party and be like...O yeah I'm going to that too. So my question is, looking from the outside in, what's your take on the situation. Do you think theres even a chance? Do you think collective workers can't mess with patients? I've even asked for the other two dudes info for like normal freelance business protocol, but they don't even give me their contact info. (again don't judge me or add the you can't work with friends...my personality is so laid back, that a lot of my leads/clients like hanging out with me like "friends") All of them just say, O you're here a lot, just find me here. So I'm thinking that they have a strict rule with patients. But its a collective though. They all are volunteering at the end and their prize is just free weed. Ehh. If you think I'm doing something wrong, let me know your opinion. Sorry if I wrote this extra long story. I like to tell stories...lol. Thanks everyone!
thatone Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 considering the purpose of the place is borderline legal, there are people who probably just don't care to give out too much personal info. as for her specifically, i think you did good with the house warming invite. if she shows, without a boyfriend, you're probably on the radar. if not, probably not.
Author 4L2A0 Posted November 10, 2011 Author Posted November 10, 2011 considering the purpose of the place is borderline legal, there are people who probably just don't care to give out too much personal info. as for her specifically, i think you did good with the house warming invite. if she shows, without a boyfriend, you're probably on the radar. if not, probably not. You are right. Good analysis of the "borderline legal". If some random black dude comes in all nice and helps out with web design, and I was the employee, I would think hes tryna score free drugs. But I'm not like that. But understandable. Now the female situation, you are right also. Probably start to go further if she shows up to the party without a boyfriend. There will also be other bad ass chicks there too to keep me from boggin her down too much and to get her a little jealous when I'm in another chick's face. Also hopefully an even party. I enjoy competition.
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