stillafool Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Or maybe she, uh, really liked him? Guys can learn from this. The main thing to remember with texting is that a guy will get FAR BETTER results by being "rude" i.e. ignoring her questions, stopping midway through conversations, taking forever to respond, or sending vague non sequitur messages. Asking her how her day went, etc. before she's invested in you will not make you stand out. Having absolutely piss poor texting "manners" will, however. Girls do this to guys all the time. Incorporate a little of a typical girl's flakiness into your text game and guys will see better results. There are numerous examples of guys here who had initial interest, but blew it because they started texting too much, or came across as too needy/too available and the girl began to lose interest. We all want what we can't have. Girls love a challenge. Girls like to feel like they've won a guy over. Being aloof and coy works. Actions belie words. Maybe. The only problem with the above is the guy has to be really goodlooking or the girl will be hope he flakes.
Negative Nancy Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Yes, they are doing this! I stumbled across this "Don Juan wannabe" site a few months ago and it's been a hilariously eye-opening look at men! (the following thread may look VERY familiar...) http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=189176 isn't that the same site where somedude is a very active member too and posted how he "wants to f*** a bitch up" or something like that?
binny Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Ladies - would you rather a guy who comes off a little aloof and distant, and feel like you've won him over? Or would you rather a guy who texts and responds right away? Personally, I would prefer a guy who responds right away, or at least within a short period of time. I understand that occasionally people are busy and it's not possible to reply straight away, but it is almost always possible take 5 minutes to reply within a day or so, or at the very least offer an apology for taking so long to reply on the occasions where it is not possible to reply within a reasonable about of time.
Imajerk17 Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Ignore the haters man. Your friend did some pretty smooth, cool things in the texts he sent. Thanks for posting! Yes, I get how we humans are suckers for variable reinforcement. I don't think you need to be as flaky as your friend was though. That's risky, because then you're taking the chance that she will ignore you back "out of principle" or something. A good rule of thumb is to take about as long to respond to her and she does to you.
Author spinaroonie Posted November 11, 2011 Author Posted November 11, 2011 Ignore the haters man. Your friend did some pretty smooth, cool things in the texts he sent. Thanks for posting! Yes, I get how we humans are suckers for variable reinforcement. I don't think you need to be as flaky as your friend was though. That's risky, because then you're taking the chance that she will ignore you back "out of principle" or something. A good rule of thumb is to take about as long to respond to her and she does to you. This. The reason these women got so riled up about his texting manners is because this approach WOULD work on them, and there would be nothing they could do about it. An integral part of text game is not replying to every message sent. The old model of text game- which was to send witty texts and essentially run routines, with the goal of "keeping the flame alive"- is hilariously wrong. You won't lose a girl because you disappeared for 5 days and ignored her texts. You WILL lose a girl if you enter an endless loop of running routines via text. -Jeffst1980
Niagara Falls Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 This. The reason these women got so riled up about his texting manners is because this approach WOULD work on them, and there would be nothing they could do about it. An integral part of text game is not replying to every message sent. The old model of text game- which was to send witty texts and essentially run routines, with the goal of "keeping the flame alive"- is hilariously wrong. You won't lose a girl because you disappeared for 5 days and ignored her texts. You WILL lose a girl if you enter an endless loop of running routines via text. -Jeffst1980 your concept is right spin, and it will help guys in their "game". but being inconsiderate or idiotic is a lot different from waiting awhile to respond due to "being busy" your example was aweful on the other hand. he played it bad. he couldve nailed her the first day if he planned it for then. theres a difference between talking your way into a girls pants/heart.. and talking to a girl who already wants in your pants/likes you. he obviously does not know enough to tell the difference yet
Author spinaroonie Posted November 11, 2011 Author Posted November 11, 2011 your concept is right spin, and it will help guys in their "game". but being inconsiderate or idiotic is a lot different from waiting awhile to respond due to "being busy" your example was aweful on the other hand. he played it bad. he couldve nailed her the first day if he planned it for then. theres a difference between talking your way into a girls pants/heart.. and talking to a girl who already wants in your pants/likes you. he obviously does not know enough to tell the difference yet And who knows he could've been legitimately busy. Y'all are impuning all sorts of motives on him - calling him lazy, inconsiderate, idiotic etc. Doesn't seem right.
Ilovewater Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 This. The reason these women got so riled up about his texting manners is because this approach WOULD work on them, and there would be nothing they could do about it. An integral part of text game is not replying to every message sent. The old model of text game- which was to send witty texts and essentially run routines, with the goal of "keeping the flame alive"- is hilariously wrong. You won't lose a girl because you disappeared for 5 days and ignored her texts. You WILL lose a girl if you enter an endless loop of running routines via text. -Jeffst1980 Wow.... Do you really think it works on women who actually have self-respect? Personally, I would be irked after 5 hours of no response. I'd probably be over the guy if he doesn't respond after one day. Pfffff. I'm not going to waste my time chasing someone who's not interested in me. I'm extremely busy, but it's never taken me more than a couple of hours to text someone back. Same thing for men. If the girl doesn't respond in an appropriate amount of time, he shouldn't need to chase either. Both people should show interest in each other. There should be no need for games, maybe unless you're immature teenagers.
USMCHokie Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 And who knows he could've been legitimately busy. Y'all are impuning all sorts of motives on him - calling him lazy, inconsiderate, idiotic etc. Doesn't seem right. Lazy, inconsiderate, and idiotic are not motives...they are character traits...
USMCHokie Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 Wow.... Do you really think it works on women who actually have self-respect? Personally, I would be irked after 5 hours of no response. I'd probably be over the guy if he doesn't respond after one day. Pfffff. I'm not going to waste my time chasing someone who's not interested in me. I'm extremely busy, but it's never taken me more than a couple of hours to text someone back. Same thing for men. If the girl doesn't respond in an appropriate amount of time, he shouldn't need to chase either. Both people should show interest in each other. There should be no need for games, maybe unless you're immature teenagers. Those "tactics" seem to be designed for folks that otherwise have little else going for them to attract women...seems a bit artificial to me...
snowflakes88 Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 You won't lose a girl because you disappeared for 5 days and ignored her texts. Maybe not, but I guarantee you'll lose a woman. But honestly, the insecure girls who find this crap appealing and the insecure guys who have to affirmatively "study" these lame techniques in order to have a conversation with a woman are probably a perfect match.
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