Shogun Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 (edited) Hey guys: (Please read all) I will try and be brief. I met this girl while I was one year out of high school and she was a senior in high school. We hit it off real well and dated for about 2 years before we decided that we should move in together. We were attending the same university (still are) and we lived together with a dog we got together for about 2 years there after. We were often talking of engagement as well. We are both now in our early twenties. We had "fights", but nothing that ever split us apart. I knew each of us was a wonderful person at heart and could get past the bickering. Well this past summer she left out of state for a job (return after summer) while I got a job in our state. For about 3 weeks everything was normal, we talked about the usual in our lives, and then something happened. Out of no where she tells me she has been unhappy for some time and that she needs time to think. We did not break up then, but I panic-ed and flew to see her. It was not good. She was very distant and said that she just needed time to "figure herself out". I went back home (but maintained my dignity by not panicing anymore) and it just got worse. She ended up breaking up with me over the phone while she was away. At first she told me that I should not worry and that we would be back together soon. She said she just needed space (which I more then gave) to by the end of the summer, telling me that she wants me to move out (she said she was confused) and she is not "in love" anymore. But here is the kicker, she was such a nice gal before, but now when I talked to her over the summer, she was mean and said nasty things to me like they did not matter. She made me feel inferior with, honestly insults, and just bashed me a lot. BTW she was and still does act very "cocky" to me and other people around her. Anyways, we hardly talked over the summer and when she came back I hoped that I could mend something together cause I really love this girl. She ended up not wanting to talk or even look at me at school now. I told her that day before school started that I could not be her friend cause I feel like I am way more then "just" a friend. I told her a lot over the duration of the breakup that I was going to fix the things I had done and work harder at being a better partner for her. I told her it was stupid what was going on and that we can make this work. In the end I have tried to talk to her, but she is a brick wall. So we don't talk anymore and I am just wondering WTF happened and how someone can date (near engagement) to suddenly not wanting anything to do with them? It has been coming up to 5 months now since we split. I am doing much much better, but I just needed to get this off my chest. I am not going to lie, I still miss her dearly and wish things could have gone better. I just am still not 100% over this yet. Any advice would be nice. Thanks. Edited November 10, 2011 by Shogun
wilsonx Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Sorry Shogun, those extreme hot cold breakups out of no where are the worst. It sucks that you had to go through this. What type of advice are you looking for?
BmwSauber Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Seems that there is nothing left to salvage from her (not even a friendship) and you should move on my friend. I have faced a similar situation and I can honestly tell you that it sucks, especially when you have been nothing short of spectacular to them and gave them whatever they wanted. Then out of the blue they are completely different. The best now is to move on with your life, you're young, go out and have fun and you will soon meet another girl better than her. Don't worry, you will miss her for a very long time as it was a long relationship, but overtime, it will fade from you.
Author Shogun Posted December 2, 2011 Author Posted December 2, 2011 Sorry for the late response. I am doing much better each day that goes by. I still think about her a lot and our dog. I still love them both so much and as I think about it, it really has nothing to do with being attached. I think it just shows that I am a genuine guy that truly loved this individual with my entire heart. I am looking to the brighter side though and hope that she someday she might regret this decision and see that I was a great catch to just throw away. I don't know; I guess I am just rambling. Thanks all and post if you have an opinion on this. And BTW, the original post does not say it, but I would like to clarify something. There was no cheating or anything of that nature to make this happen.
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