Miss S H Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Is it me? Do I ruin things? I have no problem attracting guys that I am both into and not into, mostly unfortunately not into. So when someone I am attracted and interested in comes along and pursues me with interest and apparent sincerity… I can’t help to get excited. I’m not sure if anyone has read my other post about a recent break up, it has been two months now, and after hoping and wishing that him and I would get back together … he was yes, no, hot, cold… he’d give me enough to make a mountain out of a molehill.. I believed what I had with him was real. Apparently I was wrong, after saying he wanted to see me and for us to be close again, he retracted saying he had a moment of weakness and doesn’t know what came over him. I was devastated but I thought I’d head out for a night out dancing with a girlfriend trying to lap up all the male attention I could! To my surprise this girlfriend of mine- which is more of an acquaintance – brings a whole group of guys along with her as she is kind of seeing one of them. In this group I instantly notice and make eye contact with one of the guys, and I was just happy that for the first time in a year pre during and post break up with my ex I felt ‘attracted” to someone… even with just a look, it gave me a feeling I don’t normally get. I thought nothing of anything happening.. but as soon as we arrived the venue he chatted to me all night and I had one of the most amazing conversations in ages… 6-7 hours later, the place is shutting we still haven’t left eachothers sides and everyone is remarking how “into” eachother seem and how much we have “clicked”. As the night ends we share a kiss and he asks if I want to go out with him someone else with his friends I say I’m tired and I’m going home. He says he’d like to see me again and I say I would too, he asks if I am free to do something the next day- I say yes. The next day he calls in the morning and picks me up, we go for a long lunch, still great conversation, we then strolled the shops, still great conversation, we go back to his place and spend some time with his friends, still comfortable and great conversation (he knew at this point I had recently broken up with someone 6-7 weeks prior). Then we had sex. At the time I wasn’t necessarily thinking anything about wanting anything from him beyond a bit of fun so I was happy to go with it. After we hung out some more, watched some movies and then we went out for dinner, he picked a nice place and we spent another 2-3 hours there. Conversation was still great and it hit me, I really get along with this guy… I would love to see him again and spend more time with him, to my shock he also said the same. He dropped me off 12 hours later, saying he’d had an amazing time and that he thought I was smart, beautiful and a lot of fun and he had a great time. I left feeling giddy and happy. Obviously I hoped he was genuine, but because I’ve been hurt so often and recently in the past with guys that say one thing then change their mind or guys who seem to take my “niceness” for granted. I was happy he appeared when I need him while I was so sad and miserable soon after my break up. Happily, I heard from him again the next day.. we just texted back and forth all day, all fun and all engaged.. then 2 days later I hear from him again and he asks if I am free Friday night, as he’d like to take me out to a particular restaurant, one he’d told me about and was sure Id love. I said offcourse yes that’s great, id love to try it. So I went to his place and went for a quick drink at a bar near the restaurant then off to the restaurant. It was again another great night of conversation and he seemed equally as into me as the last time. After dinner it was quite late and we went back to his house. Again, we had sex and then chatted for a while before falling asleep. The next morning we had a bite and he dropped me off at home, we messaged a bit that afternoon. I then heard from him again Monday morning where he told me he was thinking about me and how he could still smell my perfume in his room and it was making it extremely comfortable. We again, messaged back and forth all day till bedtime and he said he’d speak to me soon. That was Monday and today is Thursday… so I thought Id contact him and sent him a message in the morning just referring to something we’d discussed once. Like an in joke kind of thing. And now the work day is nearly over and I haven’t heard from him. I know he is busy during the day, but surely if he was interested in me properly he would take time out during the day to contact me? Or atleast say he was busy and would talk to me later? Did I over read his interest? Is it all just some act guys put on? I don’t want to keep second guessing his intentions and I definitely don’t want to be seen as a casual sex buddy or someone to date on occasion. Is it me?
bittersweet memories Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 (edited) I know he is busy during the day, but surely if he was interested in me properly he would take time out during the day to contact me? Or atleast say he was busy and would talk to me later? Did I over read his interest? Is it all just some act guys put on? I don’t want to keep second guessing his intentions and I definitely don’t want to be seen as a casual sex buddy or someone to date on occasion. Is it me? You don't want to be seen as a casual sex buddy? You had sex with him the day after you just met him. Then a couple days after that... If he's interested he will call you... I don't care how busy a guy is...if he's interested he will make time to contact you like before. He got what he wanted, now he's MIA. Edited November 10, 2011 by bittersweet memories
lostcharm Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 He got what he wanted, now he's MIA. BINGO! Maybe you should hold out until you actually have a grip on how he feels for you.
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