kiss_andmakeup Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Hello lovely LS members. I have a question for the men (and even knowledgeable ladies) around here. My boyfriend puts a lot of time/money/effort into planning nice things for us to do. Last week he surprised me with AWESOME seat tickets to an NHL hockey game (I am a HUGE fan) and next weekend he's taking me on a long weekend out of town. To put it short: I'm broke, but I want to show my appreciation/affection for him! I want to him to feel valued and appreciated not just for all of the nice things he does for me, but just for being himself. When I plan things for us to do it's always something that seems comparatively lame, like going to a street fair, or checking out a local band at a dive bar (although we always have fun just the same). I've cooked for him before and he really enjoyed it...but I'm looking for creative ideas. For women there are so many readily available small tokens of affection...picking up a card, a cheap bouquet of flowers, writing a mushy love note...but those things aren't exactly tailored for our male counterparts. So, men, what are your favourite little things (preferably inexpensive ones!) your girlfriend/wife/SO does for you? (And don't say sex/blowjobs/etc...we have a great sex life and if anything my drive is even higher than his! ) So, share your ideas, everyone! Thanks in advance!
Dust Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Cooking and cleaning never gets old. Also have you scked his dick lately? If you get a good deal on go karts that could be cheap and fun.
Ruby Slippers Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 -Get to know his taste in lingerie and get yourself something sexy that you know he will love. -Then do a strip tease for him, to a mix of music you know he thinks is sexy. -Bake him cookies or some yummy dessert. -Do something creative for him (like writing him a sweet or goofy poem, something like that) -Give him a full-body naked massage, complete with clean sheets, candles, sexy massage music, and warm massage oil. -Cook for him again. Do it as gourmet as you can. Never underestimate the power of a good, home-cooked meal on a man, especially when it's cooked by his woman.
betterdeal Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Pamper him for an evening - run him a hot bath, then give him a massage. Could be just a head and shoulders massage or full body. You could theme it too if you like - maybe go Egyptian, treat him as your Pharaoh and you his servant girl. Bit of cheesy Egyptian music in the background, some frankincense in an oil burner. More lively? Take him ice / roller skating. More daring? Go skinny dipping at the next full moon. More social? Throw a surprise party with all his friends in on it
Imageiko Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Ruby is 100% on the money. One of those items or even better all in one night would go over very well imo.
oaks Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 I've cooked for him before and he really enjoyed it...but I'm looking for creative ideas. Do this again, but choose a dish that you've never cooked before or let him choose what you'll cook (and warn him that it's experimental - in case it goes wrong). He'll appreciate that you're trying something new. Bake a cake so that he can take a slice to work every day for lunch. Sorry for reinforcing the 'women in the kitchen' stereotype, but the way to a man's heart really is through his stomach. Winter is coming. Knit him a hat / scarf.
monkey00 Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 It sounds to me like you're doing a pretty good job. Thoughtful and nice gestures like yours really do make a difference in a healthy relationship where one doesn't have the monetary means to show it. I say if he hasn't complained you can keep it up!
Feelin Frisky Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Gifts are unnecessary IMO and sometimes create causes for disappointment. I wouldn't really care what it is, I'm impressed more with the message that comes with it that shows me something very personal about our connection. This may not apply but next time you feel the impulse to fault him for something which you're not entirely sure was a serious transgression on his part, swallow your pride and let it slide--all the way and mark it down as your gift in your secret pad. That may not sound like much of a gift if you don't have snits and are happy with him all the time, but I can tell you after having been in more than one relationship where a whole night can be tossed away on one little point of contention that she could just shut her trap about, the gift of patience can be more precious than a week of favorite cooked foods and lingerie wearing. Sorry, just had to get that out as I suspect I can't be the only man to ever have gone through a relationship or two with such chippy women. If everything is usually bright and considerate and you don't have the kind of thing where you find yourselves facing unease over routine things, any gift no matter how small will be sweet, especially if it comes with some nice words of personal connection and joy.
azsinglegal Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Guys: low-cost things your girl can do for you? - sex, sex, sex, foot rub, sex, good oral, sex. This is the first thing that came to my mind. That and a BJ. Or try an old fashioned to change it up. How about wash/detail his car? If it's warm out...do it in a bikini. Buy him beers and put a chair out for him to watch.
rightfield Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 See if you can find out what his primary love language is, and double down on things that speak to him and make him feel loved. If you don't know which things make him feel most loved, you may waste some energy on the wrong things.
carhill Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Spontaneous embraces and ILY's cost nothing and are priceless. Surprise him occasionally with a favorite 'snack'. If he has a hobby he's passionate about, invest a little time (free) to educate yourself about an aspect of it and show some knowledgeable interest, maybe even picking up something inexpensive which relates as a topical gift. I'll give an example of something I would have greatly appreciated (and mentioned here on LS) which cost nothing..... in the morning, before heading to work, if my exW would have taken 20 seconds to drive out to the shop and say goodbye and give me a quick kiss, it would have made all the difference in the world. Anyway, good luck
ScienceGal Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 It's all in the little details. Just showing that you're listening and what the other person is saying/wants is important to you. Follow up on things he's mentioned. Be forward with showing you care. I told the guy I'm seeing about some music I like. Next time I saw him he had made me several mix CDs. I loved them! He mentioned to me during breakfast that he hasn't had pancakes in a while.. He's spending the night tonight, so I'll be making those tomorrow morning for breakfast. I believe that gifts that exhibit effort and thought are far more valuable than anything money can buy.
oaks Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Find out what beer he likes and make sure there's some in your fridge.
Confusedalways Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 I had the same problem (being broke but he was giving me so many nice gifts). I hand wrote a page long "love letter" and he said it was the nicest thing anyone has ever done for him, ever. I hid it in his apartment and put cute, fun clues to finding it. I also had some home made cookies to give him once he found it
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