lostcharm Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Ive been in a long distance relationship with a man for almost a year now. We started out great and talked every single day at least twice and we kept it "interesting" by regularly having phone sex, taking naughty photos, videos, etc. We were basically stuck at the metaphorical hip, until about two or three months ago. Im staying at my sister's place for different reasons at the moment and it's extremely hard to get any privacy whatsoever. I can't even get a moment to call him or try and be intimate. I feel like we're drifting apart because of it but every time I try to talk with him about it, he says that's not the case. Regardless, his actions say differently. He doesn't text me first, doesn't say I love you until I say it, and just generally doesn't seem that interested. I know he's busy and I know this is mostly my problem and my fault but I'm so paranoid I'm going to lose him and his interest. Am I being overly sensitive and thinking too much or do I have a reason to worry?
ladyravenloft Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Have you explained to him your situation and how you are feeling? He might be feeling a bit hurt at the sudden shift in your attentions and wondering if you're losing interest.
Author lostcharm Posted November 10, 2011 Author Posted November 10, 2011 Have you explained to him your situation and how you are feeling? He might be feeling a bit hurt at the sudden shift in your attentions and wondering if you're losing interest. Oh I've told him I feel like we're drifting about several times, but like I said in my OP, he just shrugs it off and acts like its nothing. He knows good and well nothing has changed for me. I let him know that all the time. He still gets plenty of my attention but it's not reciprocated
TokyoG33kyGal Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 question, have you met yet? Also, are most of your 'interesting' conversations revolve around sex?
Author lostcharm Posted November 11, 2011 Author Posted November 11, 2011 question, have you met yet? Also, are most of your 'interesting' conversations revolve around sex? I think you misunderstood. I didn't say anything about "interesting conversations", I said we keep it interesting when it comes to the intimate part of our relationship; (many people will blame lack of physical contact and sexual needs as a reason long distance doesn't work) not to imply we only talk about sex. And yeah, we've met
RecordProducer Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 He knows good and well nothing has changed for me. I let him know that all the time. He still gets plenty of my attention but it's not reciprocated Men in LTRs can drift away and then come back. Act like nothing's wrong and don't do the "us" talk. Say casually "love ya" at the end of the conversation, but don't put any pressure on him. Things will be cleared up sooner or later and you'll know where you stand, but if you start chasing after him, you will put yourself in a very bad position. He is still talking to you, right? How far away does he live? Is he in the US? How often do you see each other, for how long, when did you guys meet...?
Author lostcharm Posted November 11, 2011 Author Posted November 11, 2011 Men in LTRs can drift away and then come back. Act like nothing's wrong and don't do the "us" talk. Say casually "love ya" at the end of the conversation, but don't put any pressure on him. Things will be cleared up sooner or later and you'll know where you stand, but if you start chasing after him, you will put yourself in a very bad position. He is still talking to you, right? How far away does he live? Is he in the US? How often do you see each other, for how long, when did you guys meet...? I've thought of this myself. Ive backed off a bit already and it seems to be working Oh yeah we're still talking. He lives in Canada and we've seen each other three times within the nine or so months we've been together, two weeks at a time. We met in late December of 2010 but started dating around Feb
RecordProducer Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 I've thought of this myself. Ive backed off a bit already and it seems to be working Oh yeah we're still talking. He lives in Canada and we've seen each other three times within the nine or so months we've been together, two weeks at a time. We met in late December of 2010 but started dating around FebYeah, just sit tight and wait. When was the last time you saweach other? Do you go there or does he visit you?
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