caroshin Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 My boyfriend and I have been going out for 7 months and lived together for about 3 months. Three days ago, I talked to him and he suggested that we go on a break from living together. We went to have dinner the day this happened and he dropped me off at home and gave me a kiss goodnight. Today, we went to watch a Broadway show and he held my hand during the entire show and kissed me good bye at my subway stop before he went to his job. He told me that he still liked me and he didn't want to break up with me- it was just time to have "me" time for both of us. He also told me he felt that I was unhappy with him ( this is true, but it was only because he barely took me out to dinner or a date) and I compared him to other guys a lot (this was TOTALLY my fault and I did this only to motivate him to take me out....totally backfired). Just last week we talked about going to his parents' house for Thanksgiving. I'm just scared that he doesn't like me anymore and wants to break up with me even though he told me this wasn't breaking up. He still texts me and calls me saying he misses me... but I've been going crazy and crying a lot because I'm scared of losing him.. So in a guy's perspective...is he just trying to break up with me or is it really a time for space... I've been crying for hours and I really don't want this to end...
Eddie Edirol Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 It could be a slow break up, but you wont know until it happens. But since he is so turned off to you trying to change who he is (someone who doesnt care about going out) then he will probably break up with you. If you want to keep him, tell him you wont bother him about going out anymore. If thats what you want. If you want to go out, then find a guy that likes to take you out.
Author caroshin Posted November 10, 2011 Author Posted November 10, 2011 It could be a slow break up, but you wont know until it happens. But since he is so turned off to you trying to change who he is (someone who doesnt care about going out) then he will probably break up with you. If you want to keep him, tell him you wont bother him about going out anymore. If thats what you want. If you want to go out, then find a guy that likes to take you out. Thank you so much for your reply. So basically, if I fix this, our relationship would probably work out? I'm sorry, I'm at a frantic state...
ladyravenloft Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Whatever happened to just talking to someone openly about what you are feeling and listening to their opinions and feelings as well? Seems the both of you have a lot of talking to do to see if you're even on the same game plan anymore (wanting the same things, etc).
thatone Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 when you act cold and unappreciative and compare him to other men, what do you expect of him? what if he never looked at you and compared you to other women? how would you react? you played a manipulative game to try to turn him into what you want him to be. he called your bluff. the lesson is those games don't work.
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